Originally Posted by DonovanPhillips

I have a 5 year old with my ex wife. She is still single. So let me tell you, from my perspective, what I hope you'll do:

Please don't make my son feel uncomfortable or unwanted in his own home. I know you want to have sex with his mother and he may get in the way from time to time, but remember you're an adult and you can wait. Part of what makes you an adult is your ability to control yourself when necessary.

Speak nicely to him. Don't talk down to him. Talk to him with the same attitude you'd use to speak to a friend.

Love him if you can. Try hard to do so. He's easy to love. Just recognize that. Take time to notice the cute things he does and says. Make sure to notice his innocent outlook on life and try not to make him grow up too quickly.

He's been the man in his mother's life since before you came along. As an adult I expect you to figure out how to make him feel like he's still #1.

Yeah, he might act like a child sometimes. He might do so quite often. Just remember: he IS a child. You're the adult. Act like it. Remember where he's coming from.


There's plenty more to tell you, but that's a good start.