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  • xxxjay
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    • Aug 2002
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    #1

    Poll: Does your girlfriend have rights to look through your phone, IM, or computer?

    Ok, I've been with the same chick for a while. Everything has been hunky-dory for the most part. Seems like every time I lay my phone, IM, or email anywhere she can find it; she thinks she is George Bush with the Patriot Act and looks through everything.

    Personally I think that's bullshit, however she did find some things that could understandably piss her off. However, none of those text or IM's in question ever led to any type of sexual activity at all (and that's the truth).

    Don't most guys (and girls) keep around a "Plan B" especially when their Plan A has been getting rocky? Am I that different from most people?

    Regardless, it's something I wouldn't do to her and I'm about one mouse click away from changing my status back to single and having an awesome care-free summer.

    What say the people?

    Am I a jackass? Does she suck? Should we both get over it? Or just go our separate ways? Am I over-reacting? Is she? Either way, it's a ton of stress.

    The floor is open! Please feel free to post your opinion.
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  • polosas
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    • Sep 2007
    • 2690

    #2
    i think you care hare allot, and she wanna save your relationship. if you are so worried maybe you are cheating on her ?
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    • Meeper
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      • Feb 2007
      • 2642

      #3
      Trust is the most important part of any relationship, if she feels she needs to spy on you all the time I suggest you tell her to hit the road... But thats just me.
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      • BlackCrayon
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        • Jun 2003
        • 19634

        #4
        All women are insecure, yet when the shoe is on the other foot they always go on about trust. If it happens once, ok. Sit down and talk about it. If she is constantly doing it, constantly questioning you its probably best for the both of you to go seperate ways as it will probably never end.
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        • k0nr4d
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          • Aug 2006
          • 9231

          #5
          The stupidest thing you can do it let them look through your phone. I got busted cheating once when she found a buncha SMS's from another girl and i didn't even notice she was looking through my phone.
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          • Jace
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            • Jan 2004
            • 35562

            #6
            it depends on each relationship

            if it is known that you don't like her going through your shit, then she should NOT go through your shit....if she does, then that shows a lack of respect and a certain level of paranoia, not to mention a total insecurity when it comes to herself

            i would kick her to the curb man, chicks like that only get worse, at least until they grow up a bit more

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            • CDSmith
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              • May 2001
              • 51460

              #7
              Simple. If you're with her 100% and she still doesn't trust you the problem is hers, definitely, and if she can't get past her insecurity then it's time to punt her ass to the proverbial curb.

              But if you truly aren't all that trustworthy that's another matter. :D
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              • Jace
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                • Jan 2004
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                #8
                Originally posted by BlackCrayon
                All women are insecure, yet when the shoe is on the other foot they always go on about trust. If it happens once, ok. Sit down and talk about it. If she is constantly doing it, constantly questioning you its probably best for the both of you to go seperate ways as it will probably never end.
                everyone is insecure

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                • OMG Jim
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                  • Oct 2005
                  • 3153

                  #9
                  The answer is HELL NO Jay. If she can't respect your personal items then how much respect can she expect you to give her.

                  Sounds like the perfect time for a Care-free and Stress-Free Summer

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                  • Matt_WildCash
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                    • Jan 2003
                    • 1699

                    #10
                    XXXJay, man if she is snooping through your Phone & IM, maybe its just me but there s a good chance she reads GFY and most of your GFY posts (the girlfriends & wives LOVE the search user posts query or mine has in the past LOL)

                    Hope she misses this one. ;-)

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                    • CarlosTheGaucho
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                      • Oct 2005
                      • 9573

                      #11
                      No way, I don't need to justify to anyone what did I said or wrote here and there.

                      I don't ever plan to change it, every single person has privacy rights, as far as everyone from my family was always able to respect that, I would expect the same from every chick crazy enough to be with me..

                      There is no compromise, this is just the basic need for privacy.
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                      • wargames
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                        #12
                        Every time my chick picks up my phone i pick up hers and start talking shit before she can
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                        • Jim_Gunn
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                          • Feb 2003
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                          #13
                          I've been single and lived alone all my life, so I am not really qualified to answer relationship questions in general. But I do know that most if not all cell phones have a lock feature that you can utilize. Don't say a word, just lock it up and if she ever picks it up again she is unlikely to ask you to unlock it. If she does, tell her it's for security in case you ever lose or misplace the phone. If that doesn't satisfy her, tell her too bad. If she is into you she will have to live with it, if that is not good enough line up the sluts...

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                          • GregE
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                            • Jul 2004
                            • 2704

                            #14
                            Hell no and I don't dig through her shit either.

                            I've never had any time for that kind of living under (or looking through) a microscope crap and I never will.

                            Besides, it's a waste of time and energy because, we all know that, everything eventually comes out in the wash anyway

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                            • Imortyl Pussycat
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                              • Apr 2006
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                              #15
                              no one has "the right" to invade your privacy unless you agree to give them the right. that is, of course, until you get married imo

                              so......
                              no, if you never said it was ok to look through your shit
                              yes, if you at any time said "look at whatever you want, i have nothing to hide"
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                              • punker barbie
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                                #16
                                if you didnt have texts messages that would upset her i doubt she would continue looking at ur stuff.
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                                • I'm Looking For A...
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                                  #17
                                  this poll should have had 2 options...

                                  No and Fuck No.

                                  I settled for no.
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                                  • quesadilla
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                                    • Oct 2007
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                                    #18
                                    FUCK NO!

                                    LOL at that shit!

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                                    • quesadilla
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                                      #19
                                      do it care free summer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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                                      • PaygeaGrl
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                                        • Aug 2007
                                        • 537

                                        #20
                                        Originally posted by punker barbie
                                        if you didnt have texts messages that would upset her i doubt she would continue looking at ur stuff.
                                        I would have to agree here. Personal stuff is personal stuff--true. However, everyone is a bit insecure from time to time as well as curious. Being that your job is not considered mainstream, it could be affecting her trust factor a bit. Give her the benefit of the doubt. And like Punker Barbie said; if she didn't find something that got the heart racing, I am pretty sure she wouldn't bother looking again.

                                        I've met you a handful of times Jay and from what I can tell, you're a pretty smart, cool guy like the rest of the OC crew. If she is a cool chick most of the time--give her some slack...she can't be perfect 24/7 :-))
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                                        • stfucash_edd
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                                          #21
                                          Originally posted by wargames
                                          Every time my chick picks up my phone i pick up hers and start talking shit before she can
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                                          • wargames
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                                            #22
                                            Originally posted by stfucash_edd
                                            well said, sir!
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                                            • Mr Pheer
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                                              • Dec 2002
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                                              #23
                                              All bitches must be kicked to the curb before morning.

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                                              • PaygeaGrl
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                                                #24
                                                Originally posted by Mr Pheer
                                                All bitches must be kicked to the curb before morning.
                                                Or you can do this Jay
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                                                • Vick!
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                                                  #25
                                                  Most of the times its not about spying or seeing if you are into some other girl .. most of the times chicks are just curious and want to know each and every aspect of your life, thats why they do so. And this mostly happens when you are into serious relationship.

                                                  I never let any chick do that .. except one
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                                                  • Yngwie
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                                                    • May 2003
                                                    • 11118

                                                    #26
                                                    I have nothing to hide. She knows everything that I do and there's nothing on my pc that would piss her off.
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                                                    • Vick!
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                                                      #27
                                                      Originally posted by Yngwie
                                                      I have nothing to hide. She knows everything that I do and there's nothing on my pc that would piss her off.
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                                                      • rowan
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                                                        • Mar 2002
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                                                        #28
                                                        If she suspects something the first time... maybe
                                                        If she didn't find anything, but suspects something the second time... well, possibly
                                                        If she still didn't find anyway, but suspects something the third, fourth, fifth time... she's probably a psycho!

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                                                        • PaygeaGrl
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                                                          #29
                                                          Originally posted by rowan
                                                          If she suspects something the first time... maybe
                                                          If she didn't find anything, but suspects something the second time... well, possibly
                                                          If she still didn't find anyway, but suspects something the third, fourth, fifth time... she's probably a psycho!
                                                          That's a good way of looking at it.
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                                                          • seeric
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                                                            #30
                                                            bitches got no rights to cell phone informations.

                                                            fuck no.

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                                                              #31
                                                              yes she does, why? I have nothing to hide.. it also helps that she really doesnt care and when she picks up my phone its to move it..

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                                                              • Spunky
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                                                                #32
                                                                Only if she lets me look at hers

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                                                                • starpimps
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                                                                  #33
                                                                  i put a pasword on my laptop + phone and anything else. No trust issues, its just my private space.

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                                                                  • jakethedog
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                                                                    • Jun 2004
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                                                                    #34
                                                                    shouldn't really be an issue if your in a relationship ..this kind of question is only asked by someone who has something to hide for their his or her partner
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                                                                    • Skillz Unlimited
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                                                                      • Aug 2004
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                                                                      #35
                                                                      You know it's funny you post this because i just went through this with my woman about a month ago. Women typically have the "if you have nothing to hide then what's the big deal" response but it's not about that. It's about our personal space. Every human is entitled to their personal space. Men tend to need it more as that's just how we are bread. I dont go through any of my fiancess things, i dont open her mail, i dont bother her clothes, i dont do any of that. Women tend to want to open our mail, check our phone, change the way we dress, everything. It's all about personal space and even tho we are together as one, we are still two human beings. No, I dont have anything to hide but that doesn't mean you have to remove every ounce of privacy that i've ever known. We did not get into a relationship for that. Sure, you can look through my phone. If we're sitting there and you pick it up then that's one thing, but to do it behind my back is sneaky and means she doesn't trust.

                                                                      It's not cool and it's an invasion of privacy.

                                                                      My questions is this.....Once you are in a relationship, are you no longer entitled to privacy?

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                                                                      • BiggleJones
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                                                                        • Dec 2002
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                                                                        #36
                                                                        I don't check hers and she doesn't check mine. Everyone needs their privacy...even in committed relationships.

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                                                                        • VikingMan
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                                                                          #37
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                                                                          • digifan
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                                                                            #38
                                                                            Originally posted by wargames
                                                                            Every time my chick picks up my phone i pick up hers and start talking shit before she can
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                                                                            • MissMina
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                                                                              #39
                                                                              Originally posted by punker barbie
                                                                              if you didnt have texts messages that would upset her i doubt she would continue looking at ur stuff.
                                                                              Quoted for truth. Trust is #1 in a relationship for both parties. If it isn't there then there's really nothing. I think men and women are as equally nosey.

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                                                                              • DirtyDanza
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                                                                                • Aug 2002
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                                                                                #40
                                                                                Originally posted by xxxjay
                                                                                Ok, I've been with the same chick for a while. Everything has been hunky-dory for the most part. Seems like every time I lay my phone, IM, or email anywhere she can find it; she thinks she is George Bush with the Patriot Act and looks through everything.

                                                                                Personally I think that's bullshit, however she did find some things that could understandably piss her off. However, none of those text or IM's in question ever led to any type of sexual activity at all (and that's the truth).

                                                                                Don't most guys (and girls) keep around a "Plan B" especially when their Plan A has been getting rocky? Am I that different from most people?

                                                                                Regardless, it's something I wouldn't do to her and I'm about one mouse click away from changing my status back to single and having an awesome care-free summer.

                                                                                What say the people?

                                                                                Am I a jackass? Does she suck? Should we both get over it? Or just go our separate ways? Am I over-reacting? Is she? Either way, it's a ton of stress.

                                                                                The floor is open! Please feel free to post your opinion.
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                                                                                • xxxjay
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                                                                                  #41
                                                                                  Originally posted by PaygeaGrl
                                                                                  I would have to agree here. Personal stuff is personal stuff--true. However, everyone is a bit insecure from time to time as well as curious. Being that your job is not considered mainstream, it could be affecting her trust factor a bit. Give her the benefit of the doubt. And like Punker Barbie said; if she didn't find something that got the heart racing, I am pretty sure she wouldn't bother looking again.

                                                                                  I've met you a handful of times Jay and from what I can tell, you're a pretty smart, cool guy like the rest of the OC crew. If she is a cool chick most of the time--give her some slack...she can't be perfect 24/7 :-))
                                                                                  I wonder 2 things though:

                                                                                  1. How many times has she looked through my shit and found nothing, so she didn't tell me about all those times. If they had happened.

                                                                                  2. She (for all intents and purposes) lives with me. We only go out togther 99% of the time and she's even here when I work because she is a graphic designer. When am I supposed to even have time to cheat? We are together 24/7. She knows that.

                                                                                  I'm leaning toward kick her to the curb.
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                                                                                  • notoldschool
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                                                                                    #42
                                                                                    Originally posted by Jace
                                                                                    everyone is insecure
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                                                                                    • D
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                                                                                      #43
                                                                                      Well, I'm engaged, so I answered it "yes," speaking from my personal situation...

                                                                                      And just because she has the right doesn't mean she ever does it... in the 4 years I've been with her, I've never noticed her snooping in my stuff.

                                                                                      But in your situation, I'd say your lady's crossing a line. I've dumped girls before because they asked "who was that?" every time someone called... I can't imagine sticking around very long in the early stages of a relationship if she was scanning my text messages and email...
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                                                                                      • D Ghost
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                                                                                        #44
                                                                                        oh hell no

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                                                                                        • CaptainHowdy
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                                                                                          #45
                                                                                          It's not ok to have a girlfriend...

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                                                                                            #46
                                                                                            Originally posted by xxxjay
                                                                                            I'm about one mouse click away from changing my status back to single.

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                                                                                            • PaygeaGrl
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                                                                                              #47
                                                                                              Originally posted by xxxjay
                                                                                              I wonder 2 things though:

                                                                                              1. How many times has she looked through my shit and found nothing, so she didn't tell me about all those times. If they had happened.

                                                                                              2. She (for all intents and purposes) lives with me. We only go out togther 99% of the time and she's even here when I work because she is a graphic designer. When am I supposed to even have time to cheat? We are together 24/7. She knows that.

                                                                                              I'm leaning toward kick her to the curb.
                                                                                              Maybe you should give yourself a day or two to think about it...If you can't shake it, then dump her.
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                                                                                              • VikingMan
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                                                                                                #48
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                                                                                                • CarlosTheGaucho
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                                                                                                  #49
                                                                                                  Originally posted by xxxjay
                                                                                                  I wonder 2 things though:

                                                                                                  1. How many times has she looked through my shit and found nothing, so she didn't tell me about all those times. If they had happened.

                                                                                                  2. She (for all intents and purposes) lives with me. We only go out togther 99% of the time and she's even here when I work because she is a graphic designer. When am I supposed to even have time to cheat? We are together 24/7. She knows that.

                                                                                                  I'm leaning toward kick her to the curb.
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                                                                                                    #50
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