okay that explains a lot.
Soooo many guys I know have gone through this at 30 that it's not even funny. You're in a highly reflective state maybe?
Perhaps pulling back a little from the interactions with these 'desirable' women would be a safe and easy bet. Don't want to give away all your secrets at once, let them discover you...
'Course I've been in the same boat as you, I tend to be polarized identically to the guys I'm attracted to (few and far between), so that it's like magnets that repel eachother.