Impoverished Noobs Start with Impoverished Souls
Heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, trisexual, metrosexual, transsexual,
transgendered, male, female or hermaphrodite,
we all have one universal
constant; we are sexual beings by nature. Unlike all other species on
the planet, our sexual needs are on a calendar;
we don?t have a cyclic mating season and otherwise lose interest, we always
want it. We don?t have it to satisfy merely the calling of estrus, but
rather to both obtain a mate or keep one and in between times, isn?t it
convenient our genitals are parallel with our hands. Our need to have sex
is a discretionary one though our efforts to act on it are often far from
discrete. The need to procreate is biological and its roots lie in our
primal core.
The product of a sexual union can be a child. Even in our free-thinking,
free-loving society, frighteningly often as soon as that child begins to
discover the first wonders of their own bodies and begin to try and
understand those first yearning of the very same need that caused their
parents to bring them into the world in the first place. ?That?s
naughty...it is dirty...keep those covered...those are called privates.? We
are sexual in nature yet made to feel bad that basic instinct by nature.
That too, is almost a universal constant and therein lies the rub.
I would surmise a sad minority are truly able to reach a truly healthy
reconciliation between something we are programmed to need biologically yet
demonized by needing it. We are barraged by sexual imagery and temptation in
a sword that cuts both ways; those that have embraced their own sexuality
are empowered by it, those that haven?t become unsettled. That is
especially true for those of us in the adult industry. If you are tempted to
say everyone in our business has reached that precipice of sexual
reconciliation, look at the anger, fear, phobia, mistrust and distrust that
often shows its face right on this and every other board; we have more then
one diabetic behind the donut counter in this bakery in a constant conundrum
having poison in one hand and the antidote in the other and their nose
itches. They need to put one down to scratch it and when they don?t, often
smack themselves but hanging onto both things. Becoming honest about one?s
sexual nature is a key ingredient to wholeness, wellness and inner peace. It
is also the key to making money in this industry. Are you an
impoverished noob and wonder why? Start looking inside for the answers rather
then just your stats.
How can you be good at what you do if on ANY level,
what you feel you are doing is bad?
People are looking for the same thing at our sites that we were when were
surfers; we are looking for the perfect combination of imagery that will
give us the release we are seeking. While the bait and switch might work at
retail, being lured into the store for a value or product that was scant in
inventory but successful at getting someone into the space where they can
often be happily deferred to something that makes the proprietor a higher
profit, the same can not often be said for someone?s fantasies - there?s no
switching what someone was ready to ?bait to especially given their own
struggles over their own sexuality as we have just examined. They take out
their credit card when the right combination of model(s), images acts leads
them to believe the sexual Shangri-la they seek is beckoning them in our
members? area but how often to they find what they joined for, what we told
them they will get inside. Going for the quick buck will might get you a
sale, but what is left for you. By the time processors lob off their fees,
those rolling reserves are fed, the bandwidth, taxes, employees, webmasters
commissions and oh yes, the content is paid for, what?s left for you from
that initial sale other then a customer who is now as disappointed as you
are. The real money is getting them off then and for as many months as
follows as possible. The honesty of delivering what is on he tour and
bringing that to them again and again in high-quality, creative way though
the regular updates you promised will enriched their lives and your bottom
line as well,
The golden rule...do onto others applies to sexuality as well. But don?t do
onto them in the same shameful way that has been done onto many of us.
Empower you own sexuality with honesty and integrity. In short, move out of
your own glass house and trade those rock for bricks...and use them to build
the mansion of your dreams. Be it ever so humble, there?s no place like it.
As for your author, whatever accords of truth you found for yourself in this post
have nothing to do with details of who wrote it. I hope you got something out of it.
If you feel this was simply psycho-babble or missive ramblings, let me share some
details. My name is Harlan Yaffe; I live in Miami Beach, Florida. I am the
co-owner of
PrideBucks.com , a gay affiliate company along with my partners
David and Joe and our marketing genius Rainey Stricklin, who is well known to many
more of you then I. Did saying I was gay make a difference; I hope not.
If it did, perhaps how you feel about sexuality might not be as well-adjusted as
you thought.
Like Halycon, who doesn?t need that famous pink hair to be the extraordinary
man he is,the pink hair just makes it easier to find and who would not want to
seek out and be around someone with so many gifts and the generosity to give
them so freely. For me, being gay does not define who I am but it is surely part
of it. It goes much deeper then that, all the way the same place that applies to
everyone; it?s what in my heart that defines me as a person; not the gender
those feelings are for.
The summer show is just around the corner. I look forward to meeting you there.