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Originally Posted by selena
To make sure I am fully comprehending your post...
Are you saying that porn exists because of the chasm between what men what to see other women do versus what they want their own woman to do?
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I think that in itself is a conflict...I think they want to see their women be free in many ways, sexually, but they be scared of how that translates into reality, in an everyday way....
like, ok, say you have a wild threesome with your wife and another woman, and you have a blast-it's something you always fantasized about, and it exceeded your expectations...
but, then you start to wonder if you can satisfy your wife as well as the other woman did, and every time you catch her eye falling on an attractive girl, you wonder if she wants women more, and if she and the other woman are friends, you wonder if they are secretly hooking up behind your back....
I think it's hard for men to think of their pristine wife, mother to their kids as that wanton freak behind closed doors without having some internal conflict. I think that's why porn will always exist-even for the men who have wives or girlfriends, or partners, in the case of gay men. they can satiate the need for raw, unemotional physical release without the confusion it may cause if it were their actual real life partners engaging in raw, unemotional physical release.
Most men can pretty easily separate sex and love, but those same men have a hard time accepting that some women can, too, I think.