Originally Posted by eroswebmaster

what does the divorce order / decree say?
Regardless of what you "feel" is right, the law may not be behind you.

Just because someone doesn't pay child support, or call their kids does not negate their visitation rights. It takes a court order to do that.

By not allowing visitation if he somehow got his life right and you continued to do this he could take you back to court and possibly get his visitation increased or quite frankly get custody.

If he is still doing drugs and you think that the kids would be a danger around him you should go for supervised visitations for him.

It will cost money, but that would be safer for your children. In the meantime you could maybe apply for a temporary restraining order until you get in front of a judge...of course using the drug issue around the children as the complaint.