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ok just my 2 cents here for what it is worth, I have a 7 year old son. I have not gone to court for support or visitations though I have had the papers drawn up and witnessed. My sons father and I seperated when my son was 3 months old
I have had to stop him from visiting from time to time cause he did something that was unacceptable in front of my son. when this happens i tell my son what was wrong with it and why it is unacceptable. My son's father is just now starting to be a real "Father" to his son and has realized why I did what I did and tells me all the time how much he thanks me for it.
If you KNOW your children are not safe make sure that there will be someone there that you know and trust to watch over your kids. Call his family if you have to and say "hey listen I am sending the kids with ... can you please keep an eye on them for me thanks" he does not have to know about it and you are reasured that your kids are safe and they get to spend the day with them.
If that is not a option then just tell him that you are not comfortable with him taking the kids but that you really really want him to see them cause they miss him and that you would like to cook dinner for him or get some take out, or what ever but that you want him to come see him at your place or in a nutral spot.
take you time with it if anything happens it all comes back on you being the primary care giver and parent
for what it is worth
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