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Originally Posted by Afrekete
Ok. I just noticed a few things.
You mentioned that he hasn't paid child support in two weeks. Yet, you've been seperated since February, so you're so upset that you're considering not letting him see his kids for a single 2 weeks late payment? Was he paying you weekly so that you would be able to have money every week? [I'm not sure how it is wherever you live, but aren't most child support payments sent monthly?
Then in response to Rinaldo's suggestion that you both take them out, you said that they has pretty much been what you all have done since the breakup -- go out as a family.
Could it be that you are just upset now because as the divorce gets closer, he wants to cut you out of the activities and just do things one-on-one with his kids?
I'm not trying to be mean, but I think you might need to step back and look at your reactions to certain things a little more objectively.
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We agreed that he would pay $300 a month, but then he asked to but it to $150 every two weeks..then he asked to do it as $75 a week. Like I said, I've always been really flexible with him, so it was all good with me, however he wanted to do it, as long as it was done. In fact, I COULD have gotten quite a bit more. $300/month for two kids is pretty damn low for child support. But it's enough to cover his share of what the kids need, so it is good enough for me.
I'm not upset with him wanting to spend time alone with them. I just want to know that my kids are safe, and if he's doing drugs, I don't want my kids around him unless I am there to supervise the situation. The reasons I think he's doing drugs? Well, because he can't seem to stop. he gets into treatment, goes to counseling, etc. and it lasts for a while, and then he falls again. I think his absence has been because he's fallen. I know the same people, and he's been hanging around with the snowman. that coupled with the fact that he suddenly can't come up with a lousy $75 a week tells me something is going on.