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Originally Posted by chase
It has actually been a very amicable separation until he's dipped out on the kids this month, so I wouldn't see that being a problem..in fact, it's pretty much what we have done every Sunday since we split up.
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Okay, then I don't really see a problem-of course I still don't know the guy.
Since you split up, of course the guys gonna go letting off some steam. That's normal. I've been married for 15 years and have to let off some steam from time to time.
I'll make the assumption that you were the primary caregiver PRIOR to splitting up. You're now the full-time caregiver. Both you AND he are gonna have to get used to your new roles as parents.
While it may appear that he's neglecting his duties as YOU see them to be. Have they been clearly defined? If you say you can be civil with one another, sit and talk and TELL him what you expect from him and let him tell you what HE expects in return.
As a father, I sadly don't see my kids as much as I'd like and admittedly take for granted that when I WANT to see them, they'll be there. He's going to have to make a conscious effort to make time for them, as do I, or he'll find out that they WON'T be there, because they won't want to see him.
I think you need to cut him a little slack to find that out perhaps and maybe try looking at it from his point of view. He just lost his wife, his kids, his home...his life is in a high state of flux right now (not to say that yours isn't). Hopefully he'll get it back on track, but after only a month of "Neglect", it's to soon to tell imho.