Originally Posted by chase

I'm about to get divorced, and we have two kids together, both girls, almost 2yo and almost 4yo. He hasn't seen the girls, paid child support, or even called them in two weeks. I have left messages at his place, and he doesn't return my calls. I finally caught up with him today, and we argued on the phone....me saying that it's fucked up that he doesn't AT LEAST call to talk to his kids, and him giving every stupid excuse you can think of to explain why he hasn't bothered.

Now he's asking to take the kids down to his grandfather's for Father's Day. I don't want him to..I think he's been blowing their child support up his nose, so I don't trust him to care for them properly. He says he isn't, but I've know the guy since I was 14, and I'm pretty confident that he's been partying and that's why he's been avoiding seeing or supporting them-he knows I'll be able to take one look at him and know if he's loaded.

I've never been the sort to keep the kids away because I am mad...even without a court order and a custody suit filed against me I still let my son go see his dad when he was alive....and my ex is welcome ANYTIME to come see the kids. All I asked him is to call me before he pops in-even if he calls from the corner store, just so I have a few minutes to wrap up anything I am doing with the kids so he can have their full attention.

He says it's wrong for me to keep him from taking the kids on Father's Day. I said he's welcome to see them all day if he wants, but I don't want him taking them anywhere. He says I'm just being nasty because of the past due child support, and I say, I'm not, because I've worked with him on child support every other time he asked me to.

What do you think?