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Originally Posted by Noir
Still though, don't make the mistake everyone else seems to. Treating kids like kids. They aren't kids.
They are young adults, with their own personalities, and opinions. They are people, so treat them like people.
It?s funny how everyone likes to scapegoat the parents when ?kids? do something ?wrong?.
No, sorry. While I can agree it?s the parenting to some extent?. Say if a kid was tied up and raped his entire life in a basement, and then does similar once he is living on his own?. Well, who wouldn?t expect that kid to be fucked up.
On the other hand, if your kid goes through a lot of abuse in school, then suddenly shoots as many people as he can, that has absolutely nothing to do with good or bad, ?parenting?
It has 100% to do with that 'kids' personal life?s experience. Now, while it?s a stupid thing to do, kids are immature, and don?t look forward too far, nor do they have life experience to help guide them.
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Everything you mentioned has a lot to do with parenting. Those kids that go shooting up schools usually have parents that don't have a clue what they're kids are doing. They don't check their kids to see if they're doing drugs and they don't notice that cache of guns under their kids bed.
Kids are kids... and need to be treated in a way that will make them grow into healthy young adults.
Kids that are raped growing up rarely do the same thing to others. They are however, often traumatized or 'fucked up'. Oprah was raped as a child. Like most rape victims she turned out fine. But again, if they're being tied up and raped by their parents that's a parenting issue. Parents raping their kids will likely produce screwed up kids. That has everything to do with parenting. Bad parenting.