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Quite severely, I'm afraid.Originally posted by johnbosh
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Yeah, well, she came back admitting that what she thought she felt for him was not returned. Apparently he said some things in "the heat of the moment" that he later retracted but she's too stubborn to admit her mistake and fix it. So, I don't think she'll be crawling back. Instead, she is going to go with someone who talked a good game on the phone then used her body. Whatever.Originally posted by Sami
SpaceAce,
Been in your shoes bud.
Ofcourse she crawled back to me... your girlfriend will crawl back to you, I can almost guarantee it.
However, take my advice and dont accept her back .. at least right away...
I am telling you.. I made that mistake and have paid for it for a long long time.
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Thank you, I also believe she is making a tremendous mistake. When she came back yesterday, she was acting like she knew now that she had made a mistake. Earlier today she was dropping hints that maybe she had changed her mind and maybe she wasn't so happy with the way things had turned out but as the day went on she acted more and more like she thinks she did the right thing. This is how it has been from the beginning; she realizes she made a mistake or is about to make one, acts like she wants to avoid the mistake and then spends the whole day talking herself into going ahead with something she clearly knows is wrong.Originally posted by sinkiss
im so sorry you are having to go through this. i've never posted here before and i have to admit, i never thought there would be a post on gfy that would touch me enough it made me cry but yours sure did. i can sympathize and empathize. have been through some nasty shit myself. again, im truly and deeply sorry. sounds like she is making a tremendous mistake. time will help. i wish the best for you!
I know she was hurt when she gave herself to him and told herself she felt intimacy and closeness to him only to have him tell her he didn't feel that way. I swear to you, according to her, AFTER she gave herself to him, he said "Well, this is for us to get to know each other better." She believes this shit! You get to know people THEN you fuck them, not the other way around. Anyway, that's how you do it if you want to make a long-term relationship out of it. If you just want some pussy, well, there's no need to learn to much about her, is there?
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It hurts as much now as it did the night she rolled over and broke it to me. I think it actually hurts even more now. I'm frustrated and my dick hurts. I'm starting to think the posters telling me to go out and fuck someone have it right. If any of you lovely ladies are desperately seeking a tall fat guy with a non-pornstar sized dick, woohoo, I'm your man.Originally posted by Biggy2
Watch the movie swingers - its so true.
Each time you wake up, it will hurt less, until one day it won't hurt at all - time heals all.
For now, if you are financially stable - get the hell out of there. The two of you living together is bad news..
AND - there still is hope, but also as the movie swingers says - "She may come back, but you cannot do anything to make her come back. You can only do things that would make her NOT want to come back" -- ya follow.
move out, go on with your life, maybe she'll miss you and want to get back together, but that'll be the only way.
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Thank you for the reply. Right ow I would settle for neutrality or the absence of pain. I don't even need happiness, just numbness.Originally posted by GonePhishing
Man, I am really sorry to hear that. I've been in situations like yours though not nearly for the amount time. The most I can say is I am sorry that you are going through this. I am not really sure what else to say besides I am sorry and that I really hope that you manage to find happiness.
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I keep telling people that she's a great person and that she deserves great things but the longer this goes on, the less sure I am. Maybe someone who chases a fantasy and then learns that it wasn't what she wanted really does deserve to get hurt when she goes back for more. She went, she screwed, she came back realizing that being fucked by someone who wants your pussy is not the same as being made love to by someone who truly loves you and yet she can't let go of the idea she had already built up in her head. Maybe if she continues to pursue a false vision even after she has been shown how false it was she deserves what she gets. Maybe, but I still don't want to see her hurt.Originally posted by papichulo
It'll be hard to accept this right now but I think she doesn't deserve you at all. And I hope someday, you'll be able to love again and meet the right woman for you.
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Believe me, I've thought all of the things you wrote, there. The thing is, I have never been able to intentionally hurt people I care about. It's not just Alan who I love very deeply but even my male friends, my family members, anyone I care for. I've hurt people I love in the heat of anger but I can't do it calculatingly.Originally posted by MrPheer
She'd be homeless if she did that to me. She'd be homeless the very second she walked out the door on the way to the airport. Locks would be changed and so would the answering machine message, with a new chick's voice on it. Throw some other chic's clothes in the closet and some personal items in the bathroom, so she can see the shit when she does eventually get into the house.
This is Vegas, you shoulda had some strippers walking out as she was walking in, while you were sitting on the couch naked.
Fuck with her head and emotions like she did yours.
As a matter of fact, when she gets home from work, be walking out the door and just say see ya later. Do it every night. Dont tell her where you are going, just say you're going out. Stay gone till 3am every time. Never give an explanation, you owe her nothing. When you get back and she's sitting up wanting to know where you've been, just say hey I'm tired so shut up.
She'll break down after a few nights of this. When she says she wants things like they were before, say that guy died... this is the new you. Buy a motorcycle but dont ever let her ride. Get a post office box and have your mail forwarded to it, and make sure she knows about it. Get the newspaper, circle ads for apartments and leave it laying on the table. Casualy mention a great job offer in LA that you may be taking.
Be a totaly different person, it will really fuck with her head.
Get the control of the situation back.
The only reason you are still wanting her is just because it hurts so bad. You'll get over it, but you'll never be able to forget it. This relationship is permanantly damaged. Get out while you can.
There has to be a mutual respect, or there can be none at all. And bro she didnt respect you.
Oh and while you're still living there, stop paying your share of the bills. Let her pay for the shit.
As for the bills, the truth is she's been footing most of the financial responsibility for a long time. I really got pretty sick of this business a couple of years ago and started to float. I had so much shit going that I still get checks now from stuff I haven't worked on in two years but the money hasn't been really flowing in a while. The most important thing to me has always been to be comfortable and to have my freedom so for a long time I just drifted on residual income and smaller projects like AVS Weasel. Now I've had my time off and I'm back working full steam ahead but she won't really miss my money even if I never put another penny in our account. We have completely joint finances, our money goes to the same accounts and that's always been fine by me but it does complicate things a bit when a situation like this arises.
Edit: Well, that's not entirely true. She'll miss the money like the $1K I put in last month from poker but she doesn't really need me to get by.
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Actually, if I had realized how important children and marriage were to her, this may never have happened. I also believe Alana will be a fantastic mother some day. So, I'm glad we're not putting a child through this but I don't know that it would have changed the situation for the worse.Originally posted by MrPheer
Oh and be very thankful that you guys dont have kids together.
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Thank you, JFK. Not only have people been kind to me here in the public forum, I have also gotten a lot of support in the form of emails and ICQ messages. My story really touched a lot of GFYers and many of them have contacted me to talk or to share their stories. One person actually put me in touch with a guy that lives in my area and we were going to go shoot some pool but I never heard from him after we made the plan. Still, it's nice that people have made so much effort for me considering that I am a stranger to most of you.Originally posted by JFK
Yes GFY can still do that ! Sorry to hear about the problem, Best of luck with the future.
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You've definitely taken a different stance than most of the people who replied to me but I understand your points, too. Trixxxia contacted me on ICQ and I don't think she is far off the mark. Even if I can never take my woman back, it doesn't do my any good to judge her. I don't think anyone tried to make cheating be OK, I think they were just trying to be supportive of the fact that I still want the woman who did this to me. I don't think Trixxxia was saying cheating is OK, only that being angry or judgemental about it won't do me any good. She's right but of course I am angry, anyway.Originally posted by SwordFish
100% PURE BULLSHIT.
SpaceAce, I really hope you don't buy into these feely-good through rose colored glasses some of these people are trying to spin your situation into. Comments above seem geared for no other purpose than to try and create an atmosphere where cheating is ok... try to almost "brainwash" a guy into being ready to be cheated on and just accept it, trying to create a path where a person can cheat and still expect to get to come back to you.
Absolute bullshit. There is no room for reconciliation here. There is no room for communication towards an end goal of getting back together. To say otherwise is to try and sugarcoat the truth, or to try and create a comfort zone for other would-be cheaters. You know this to be true, I am sure of it.
I'm sorry for being brutally honest, but it's for a reason. You need the TRUTH, not that kind of horseshit above. Can you even for a minute fathom the complete and total lack of respect this woman will have for you, for the rest of your lives together, if you take her back after she went off and let another man pump her full of loads of hot cum? You'd be a worse joke to her than the most pathetic creature on the face of the earth. To do anything other than kick this woman to the curb as fast as humanly possible will show her you deserve less respect than a pile of dogshit.
Good luck bro... I know it's going to be tough, but the ONLY option here is to tell her you want her and her property out of your place in 24 hours (or something similar) and that you don't want anything to do with her. And let me know if you want to talk about this 1 on 1. This isn't macho bullshit, I'm telling you straight the truth. There is such a thing as principal and dignity, and it's time to step up to the plate my friend.
And to those of you trying to use this guy's situation to foster an atmosphere of acceptance of cheating... go fuck yourselves. There is no greater betrayal on the face of the earth than what this woman has done to SpaceAce.
I forgot my dignity briefly at the beginning of all this but now I've recovered most of it. I don't know if I believe she would see me as a joke if I took her back but I do believe that I would always wonder if this situation changed her view of me for the worse. Perhaps I really must refuse to have anything to do with her but it's still hard. I appreciate the offer to talk 1-on-1. Several GFYers have done that for me and it's helped. Thanks for the reply.
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That's eactly right and it's the most painful thing of all.Originally posted by sexyclicks
SpaceAce its over bro, just forget it
If she had put 1% of the effort and the crying you did, everything would have been ok.
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My Two Cents what there worth...
Each relationship is differn't. Though if was to be it would be. I know words don't make it easier and you will beat yourself what you did wrong. Don't undermind what you have done good cause if it doesn't work all you have is the good times. My last girl I was with for three years that I have alot of antomosity towards I still at time long for her and think if I did the right thing walking away. All you can ever do is tell her you understand and move on you can't change something that you have no control over just be yourself and love yourself and you wounds will mend and some other lucky lady will have your love as she has yours it takes 100% on both sides. Take it easy and keep ya head up..Trust no one there all snakesComment
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I know you're right but the situation doesn't get any easier to deal with. I am starting my life from scratch, now. I need a new car, a new place to live, new furniture, the whole ball of wax. I also need to get over a love so strong that it literally blinds me. The frustration of watching her give every opportunity and every advantage and even her body to this stranger while denying me the slightest comfort or concession is unbelievable.Originally posted by evelknievel
Ace--
these last posts are absolutely right.....
You loved her but now IT IS OVER. You can't get back with her. Not after she did this.
GET HER THE FUCK OUT OF YOUR PLACE AND OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
she cannot be trusted.
DON'T DO ANYTHING. Don't yell, threaten, beg, go after the guy, nothing....just get her out of your place.....you keep everything.
The worst thing you can do to someone is to treat them like they don't matter, or don't exist----these two don't matter....get them out of your life and your head.
BEST PART: He's going to do the same thing to her as she did to you.
I don't know if he will do to her exactly what she's done to me but I truly believe she will be unhappy with him in the end. The drive that she thinks is such a turn-on is exactly the sort of thing that keeps a man from focusing on the people in his personal life. Why does a young guy with a great job need to take someone else's girlfriend from 2,000 miles away? If he's as great as Alana thinks, why is he available? I am sure she will be unhappy in the end and I don't want to see that happen to her but tere is nothing I can do about it.
Actual quote when she asked him why he's alone: "I'm always on the road." When he was here, he told us how he didn't have time for relationships and he told her when she was out there that he was alone because of his job. Yet she believes this is going to change for her? How foolish can you be?
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Thanks again, I appreciate everyone trying to help me. Your advice may be dead on but I'm sure that you understand why it easy to say "Run her through the woodchipper" but not so easy to do.Originally posted by MrPheer
The difference is, he isnt female.
How do you think us guys got like this? Cause your breed made us this way. It just happened to us earlier than it did to him.
We're just trying to save our bro some more pain and aggravation that we had to learn the hard way.
There's a billion women out there. This one fucked up. Run her thru the woodchipper and try another one.
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Thanks, austinth. Like I said before, I am dying for it to get better.Originally posted by austinth
I've been there before. It's not an easy pill to swallow but things will get better in time. Best of luck to you.
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Thanks, samuel. Just the fact that you took a minute to reply feels good, even if you don't have anything specific to say. It's good to know that people care what happens to those around them.Originally posted by samuel
well space ace.... just no word about.. no way to help you, just wait until you recover from that.
Samuel
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Thanks, man, I hope everyone who tells me that is right.Originally posted by pornzilla
honestly mate, been there exactly. it gets better, promise
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Actually, I think your assessment of the situation is dead on. She feelsbetter by telling me that she is sorry for hurting me and that makes it OK in her mind to go off and do it again. I used the "cake" analogy with her, too.Originally posted by SCtyger
word!!!
the girl goes off... disrespects you... throws away 10yrs for a weekend... cant live with her guilt ... asks u for forgiveness..so the next time she goes out and visits the guy.. she wont feel AS guilty?
wtf?
"u cant have ur cake n eat it too!!!"
selfish, disrespectful, and undeserving.... dont give her any emotional comfort.. just let her toil in her guilt .. let it drive her crazy ....
keep your head up bro!!
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Ugh, you'll get it when I do.Originally posted by SwordFish
Update needed. We must have closure!
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Yeah I know what you meanOriginally posted by SpaceAce
Your advice may be dead on but I'm sure that you understand why it easy to say "Run her through the woodchipper" but not so easy to do.
Damn forensic scientist can identify even the smallest trace of a body part these days, and cleaning the woodchipper afterwards would be a bitch.Comment
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Originally posted by SpaceAce
Believe me, I've thought all of the things you wrote, there. The thing is, I have never been able to intentionally hurt people I care about. It's not just Alan who I love very deeply but even my male friends, my family members, anyone I care for. I've hurt people I love in the heat of anger but I can't do it calculatingly.
As for the bills, the truth is she's been footing most of the financial responsibility for a long time. I really got pretty sick of this business a couple of years ago and started to float. I had so much shit going that I still get checks now from stuff I haven't worked on in two years but the money hasn't been really flowing in a while. The most important thing to me has always been to be comfortable and to have my freedom so for a long time I just drifted on residual income and smaller projects like AVS Weasel. Now I've had my time off and I'm back working full steam ahead but she won't really miss my money even if I never put another penny in our account. We have completely joint finances, our money goes to the same accounts and that's always been fine by me but it does complicate things a bit when a situation like this arises.
Edit: Well, that's not entirely true. She'll miss the money like the $1K I put in last month from poker but she doesn't really need me to get by.
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Well if thats the case you should do what most women would do in your situation. Claim you are common-law married and take half her shit. While you're at it go after some maintenence support. Go to the Bahamas for a while on her dime. Buy hookers and write them checks from her account. Have fun.Comment
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Have you won the X-box yet?
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he should win something for going through this shit.Originally posted by BlueDesignStudios
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Have you won the X-box yet?
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Heh, that's a moderately tempting idea.Originally posted by SuckOnThis
Well if thats the case you should do what most women would do in your situation. Claim you are common-law married and take half her shit. While you're at it go after some maintenence support. Go to the Bahamas for a while on her dime. Buy hookers and write them checks from her account. Have fun.
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Does GFY still give away X-Boxes? I never win anything, that would be a nice treat.Originally posted by BlueDesignStudios
SpaceAce:
Have you won the X-box yet?
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Heh, thanks MickeyG. I don't think an X-Box can replace the love of my life but at least it'd give me something to do.Originally posted by MickeyG
he should win something for going through this shit.
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I thought this thread had finally died but there has been a startling and sickening development: apparently Mr. Perfect doesn't care for condoms so my girlfriend (ex? whatever) spent the entire weekend having unprotected sex with a man she doesn't really know anything about and now her period hasn't come (well, it's "spotting"). Yes, folks, I have been made her total and complete bitch. She gave up the pussy non-stop all weekend and let the asshole blow his nut in her an even dozen times and now she is probably pregnant.
I guess this is what I get for treating women well. Maybe Dirty_DS has it right, after all. If Alana, who is the sweetest girl I have ever known, can do this, I don't see why any woman in the world could not.
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2 days later.. whats the status?Originally posted by SpaceAce
I thought this thread had finally died but there has been a startling and sickening development: apparently Mr. Perfect doesn't care for condoms so my girlfriend (ex? whatever) spent the entire weekend having unprotected sex with a man she doesn't really know anything about and now her period hasn't come (well, it's "spotting"). Yes, folks, I have been made her total and complete bitch. She gave up the pussy non-stop all weekend and let the asshole blow his nut in her an even dozen times and now she is probably pregnant.
I guess this is what I get for treating women well. Maybe Dirty_DS has it right, after all. If Alana, who is the sweetest girl I have ever known, can do this, I don't see why any woman in the world could not.
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I don't know whether you will read this far back into this thread SpaceAge, but I really hope you do...here goes....
There once was a time when I was in sort of the same position you are in now. I felt that I had lost the only true love I ever had. Even though part of me felt I would never see him again my heart told me he was the only person for me....to wait...to be faithful. I had to keep that flame going and maybe one day....one day. I just knew that with me he could reach his potential, that I was his biggest fan, that no one could love him like I did.
I kept the faith...I waited patiently while he found himself...or rather found "us" again. Result? He found out that home was with me...we have now been married 6 wonderful years.
If you love her the way your writing shows you do...don't give up...let her know...somehow...that you are waiting...that you believe in your relationship. Maybe it won't work out...maybe she won't come back....but maybe she will....and it will be worth it if she does.Comment
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damn I'm starting to think you're getting off on the pain or something.. could you be any more graphic?Originally posted by SpaceAce
I thought this thread had finally died but there has been a startling and sickening development: apparently Mr. Perfect doesn't care for condoms so my girlfriend (ex? whatever) spent the entire weekend having unprotected sex with a man she doesn't really know anything about and now her period hasn't come (well, it's "spotting"). Yes, folks, I have been made her total and complete bitch. She gave up the pussy non-stop all weekend and let the asshole blow his nut in her an even dozen times and now she is probably pregnant.
I guess this is what I get for treating women well. Maybe Dirty_DS has it right, after all. If Alana, who is the sweetest girl I have ever known, can do this, I don't see why any woman in the world could not.
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Dude, I don't really know you but you sound like a really nice guy. It's a shame that this shit happens to the nice guys instead of the assholes.
I guess there's nothing I can say that can help you. Keep your head up, don't do anything weird and take your time to get over this. It will hurt as hell, but you WILL get over it.
Good Luck!
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Originally posted by SpaceAce
I thought this thread had finally died but there has been a startling and sickening development: apparently Mr. Perfect doesn't care for condoms so my girlfriend (ex? whatever) spent the entire weekend having unprotected sex with a man she doesn't really know anything about and now her period hasn't come (well, it's "spotting"). Yes, folks, I have been made her total and complete bitch. She gave up the pussy non-stop all weekend and let the asshole blow his nut in her an even dozen times and now she is probably pregnant.
I guess this is what I get for treating women well. Maybe Dirty_DS has it right, after all. If Alana, who is the sweetest girl I have ever known, can do this, I don't see why any woman in the world could not.
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After reading this .. i ahve to say i think you are dillusional about how sweet she really is space
You know my comments on icq.. but what you have just told us with the above, has changed everything.
I dont know any woman that would give that kind of cruel detail about what she did with another guy under these circumstances.(ie slept with him a dozen times,. without a condom) I dont care how much you probed her for details, she should not have told you that information etc. that information is like a knife through your heart.. and she knows it.
As for this fear of pregnancy etc.. i mean wtf.. go to the doctors and find out for sure.. dont run around like a 16 year old attention whore with the 'pregnancy scare"...its only causing unnecessary hurt. Its almost like shes getting off on making you jealous or hurt.. i mean i can't imagine what other possible explanation there is for her lack of discretion and sensitivity.
Please please PLEASE.. make whatever move necessary to remove her out of your life, at least for the moment.. she is abusing you in every way possible, and leaving you with cruel visions that will be impossible for you to ever forget.Comment
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I read this entire thread, and this is my first day on this message board. It hit me pretty hard.. but this quote hit home;
I haven't seen my perspective posted yet.. I hope you find it somewhat interesting. There is someone out there, that your actions will affect one day...Dude, let me tell ya. Something like this can fuck you up the rest of your life, don't let it. You can choose to react to this however you like, I know right now it doesnt seem that way.
I am currently in a relationship with someone who is considerably older than myself. 11 years (at 20 that's a fair age difference).. he is an extremely attractive man, and chances are could get any girl he wanted. I never feel as though I am good enough for him. But I know in my heart of hearts, that what it all boils down to is how much his last girlfriend broke his heart. I despise her for putting him through so much pain, and I detest her for ruining what could have been a great love for me.
Although he claims he is over her, I know that he hasn't recovered from the breakup, and I honestly don't know if he ever will. If he does, it will probably not be with me, and that breaks MY heart. I would never hurt him, he knows this. But it's just not enough. I don't know if anything I can do will ever be enough. I don't want you to be him.
I found this quote to be quite suitable for my situation, as well as yours (even if her 'love' towards him is a bluff.. you get the idea):
"The hardest thing to do is watch someone you love, love someone else."
I wish they had a little heart I could post for you. I hope you understood what I was getting at.. I'm going on very little sleep but wanted to get my point across. Hope it made sense.
There is someone out there that you don't know, waiting to love you with all she has.. it's perfectly fine to be upset and deal with this.. but don't let it ruin you, you're worth so much more than that, and not only to yourself.Last edited by hollywoodrose; 05-31-2004, 01:04 AM.Comment
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Originally posted by SpaceAce
I thought this thread had finally died but there has been a startling and sickening development: apparently Mr. Perfect doesn't care for condoms so my girlfriend (ex? whatever) spent the entire weekend having unprotected sex with a man she doesn't really know anything about and now her period hasn't come (well, it's "spotting"). Yes, folks, I have been made her total and complete bitch. She gave up the pussy non-stop all weekend and let the asshole blow his nut in her an even dozen times and now she is probably pregnant.
I guess this is what I get for treating women well. Maybe Dirty_DS has it right, after all. If Alana, who is the sweetest girl I have ever known, can do this, I don't see why any woman in the world could not.
SpaceAce
Now that is quite a development! Don't you wish you were the father instead?
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SpaceAce,
That is some fucked up shit my friend. I don't think there is much i can say which others havent said so i will spare you with repeating it, however, if my GF of 3 years did this to me it would honestly be the last thing she ever did to me (dont kill her, just dont take her back.)
I would just be there werent kids involved and that you werent left explaining to them where mommy is. This could have been a lot more messy.
If there is anything i can do to help you get through this without taking her back please let me know...
When you consider taking her back just think about what she would do if you broke up with her one night for another women, fucked the other women and then tried coming back to her...i dont think she would be too inclined to take you back.
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Spaceace.
You are in a stronger position than you realise.
1. Totally - absolutely 100% listen to these points.
2. Sit there and stare at these points.
3. These points will make sense down the line - only if you sit there and stare at them.
a) Ignore her totally and utterly 100%. No contact. Its over - realise that and you are well on your way. To help you realise that - have no hope of getting back with her. Dont hold on to meaningless words and events. DO NOT LET HER LAY DOWN NEW STORIES AND EVENTS - THESE JUST START THE CYCLE OVER AGAIN - "Wonder what she meant by that?" - "How could she say that?" - "But that contradicts what she said last time".. You can do without new EVENTS.
b) Take the pain - it goes away.
c) Get another woman - ASAP. Even though you dont think you want any other - get one, but don't think she will be a replacement - take it as it comes - and don't act like you did with A. If you can't easily meet someone immediately - no worries - but don't think you never will. Thats important.
d) Try to reassociate all places - movies - music - everything with someone else - a friend even.
So that when you think of that "movie" or "record" - then instead of reminding you of the past - it reminds you of the present.
Buddy - time heals - even after 10 years - millions and millions (billions in fact) of us have been there - both men and women alike, though this sounds hard - its true.
Remember - "tick tock tick tock" - with every passing second your brain is re-wiring itself and adapting - don't slow it down - try and accelerate the process.
Enjoy the new things a new partner comes out with - a new partner will surprise you with the little quirks and things she comes out with - in all respects - given time.
Enjoy moving on - it is VERY VERY REWARDING.
Best of luck - but I dont think youll need much luck.
Print out a big fat fucking sign which simply says :-
"TICK TOCK TICK TOCK" on it and stick it where you can look at it when you feel down. Then look away from it and say to yourself "Yeah - fucking tick fucking tock - nice one."
Give it a try.Comment
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Damn that was perfect. You are right onSpaceace.
You are in a stronger position than you realise.
1. Totally - absolutely 100% listen to these points.
2. Sit there and stare at these points.
3. These points will make sense down the line - only if you sit there and stare at them.
a) Ignore her totally and utterly 100%. No contact. Its over - realise that and you are well on your way. To help you realise that - have no hope of getting back with her. Dont hold on to meaningless words and events. DO NOT LET HER LAY DOWN NEW STORIES AND EVENTS - THESE JUST START THE CYCLE OVER AGAIN - "Wonder what she meant by that?" - "How could she say that?" - "But that contradicts what she said last time".. You can do without new EVENTS.
b) Take the pain - it goes away.
c) Get another woman - ASAP. Even though you dont think you want any other - get one, but don't think she will be a replacement - take it as it comes - and don't act like you did with A. If you can't easily meet someone immediately - no worries - but don't think you never will. Thats important.
d) Try to reassociate all places - movies - music - everything with someone else - a friend even.
So that when you think of that "movie" or "record" - then instead of reminding you of the past - it reminds you of the present.
Buddy - time heals - even after 10 years - millions and millions (billions in fact) of us have been there - both men and women alike, though this sounds hard - its true.
Remember - "tick tock tick tock" - with every passing second your brain is re-wiring itself and adapting - don't slow it down - try and accelerate the process.
Enjoy the new things a new partner comes out with - a new partner will surprise you with the little quirks and things she comes out with - in all respects - given time.
Enjoy moving on - it is VERY VERY REWARDING.
Best of luck - but I dont think youll need much luck.
Print out a big fat fucking sign which simply says :-
"TICK TOCK TICK TOCK " on it and stick it where you can look at it when you feel down. Then look away from it and say to yourself "Yeah - fucking tick fucking tock - nice one."
Give it a try.
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Originally posted by shaverhunter
Spaceace.
You are in a stronger position than you realise.
1. Totally - absolutely 100% listen to these points.
2. Sit there and stare at these points.
3. These points will make sense down the line - only if you sit there and stare at them.
a) Ignore her totally and utterly 100%. No contact. Its over - realise that and you are well on your way. To help you realise that - have no hope of getting back with her. Dont hold on to meaningless words and events. DO NOT LET HER LAY DOWN NEW STORIES AND EVENTS - THESE JUST START THE CYCLE OVER AGAIN - "Wonder what she meant by that?" - "How could she say that?" - "But that contradicts what she said last time".. You can do without new EVENTS.
b) Take the pain - it goes away.
c) Get another woman - ASAP. Even though you dont think you want any other - get one, but don't think she will be a replacement - take it as it comes - and don't act like you did with A. If you can't easily meet someone immediately - no worries - but don't think you never will. Thats important.
d) Try to reassociate all places - movies - music - everything with someone else - a friend even.
So that when you think of that "movie" or "record" - then instead of reminding you of the past - it reminds you of the present.
Buddy - time heals - even after 10 years - millions and millions (billions in fact) of us have been there - both men and women alike, though this sounds hard - its true.
Remember - "tick tock tick tock" - with every passing second your brain is re-wiring itself and adapting - don't slow it down - try and accelerate the process.
Enjoy the new things a new partner comes out with - a new partner will surprise you with the little quirks and things she comes out with - in all respects - given time.
Enjoy moving on - it is VERY VERY REWARDING.
Best of luck - but I dont think youll need much luck.
Print out a big fat fucking sign which simply says :-
"TICK TOCK TICK TOCK" on it and stick it where you can look at it when you feel down. Then look away from it and say to yourself "Yeah - fucking tick fucking tock - nice one."
Give it a try.
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ive been in the same kind of situation dont do anything stpid go out and do things that you enjoy doing on your own have fun you only live once nows the times to do the things you've not been able to do in the past ten years go for it.
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Originally posted by hollywoodrose
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