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  • Mr Pheer
    So Fucking Banned
    • Dec 2002
    • 22082
    #201
    When she comes back Monday from her little field trip, we'll still be stuck living under the same roof.
    Thats the WRONG answer.

    She needs to come home to an empty apartment. There is no excuse or forgiveness for this.

    Move out before she gets back. And dont rush out to find a replacement, take some time for yourself and just have fun. You'll get over this and it will make you stronger.

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      • The Dawg
        Confirmed User
        • Apr 2002
        • 2438
        #202
        Space, almost everyone goes through situations like yours. Its a bitter pill to swallow, but you'll be a stronger person for it.

        Alot of times people dont realize what they have and start wondering "what if" about the next person. They seem to think the grass is greener... When buddy goes MIA doing his traveling thing - She'll come to her senses and call ya back and try to patch things up. Tell her to hit the road.

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          • Angelie
            Confirmed User
            • Jul 2001
            • 1466
            #203
            Sorry! I hear ya and know what your going threw. To move on or think about being with someone else right now, is not going to work. You love her, you want her and you feel like you need her. I bet crying is your pass time right now and maybe even a little to a lot of drinking. I'm I right? It sucks!!! Just try to hang out with friends and/or get out of the house and do things. Do work, just keep yourself bizy. I know she loves you! Give her some time and just let her know your there. She just might return to you again. Love is crazy, I'll pray for you.

            10 years is a long time and she is most likely feeling that if you haven't married her yet you never will. When in a fight with a love one we all try to be tuff and most of us make bad choices that take it to far. You would think we would be easier on the one we love but we seem to be harsher. The key is to stop the fight and just give in and if you both try and do this, it works. But no, things get into a mess and we regret our choices. How do we fix it and can we fix it? I hope so!!!

            It's hard right now but things will work out one way or another.
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              • bizmak
                So Fucking Banned
                • Apr 2004
                • 10014
                #204
                fuck.. that's sad.. I don't know what to type

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                  • PornHero
                    Confirmed User
                    • Feb 2001
                    • 1381
                    #205
                    Hi SpaceAce,

                    I went through a very similar situation as yours last year. The one year anniversary of my break-up is coming up in June.

                    I remember when it first happened I would burst into tears thinking about our relationship and whether or not she was with another man (she kept me in the dark about the "why" for months - i later found out there was another man).... and the lonliness is what really hurts...

                    Anyway, i just want to tell you that you WILL feel better. When it first happened to me I could never envision my life without her - that was what hurt so much and I it would feel like I was getting stabbed in the heart to imagine her making love to another man. But now that a year has almost past I must say I can envision myself with someone else now, in fact I am looking forward to meeting my true love

                    Don't get me wrong, I still think about my ex-fiancee everyday -- but the pain has subsided drastically -- whereas before I would feel a sharp pain in my chest when I thought about her now its more of a mild sadness.


                    Anyway after about 8 months I finally started giving other girls a chance and just last week I meet a girl that caught my eye... I am going to see her again tonight.

                    So I would say you have about 1 year of living in your own personal hell (that's about how long it took me and it DID feel like hell) before you start to feel better but honestly from what you told me of your past you will survive this!!

                    My one suggestion is to be productive in that year.... concentrate on work, I quadrupled my income in the past year -- for the first few weeks I didn't lift a finger but then I put my mind to building my adult business -- I found it was hard to stay depressed when big $$$ was rolling in...

                    So take it from someone that was in your boat last year, prepare yourself for the mental anguish in the coming year but you will survive this and live to love again!
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                      • Missy
                        FLASHCA$H.COM
                        • Jul 2001
                        • 1257
                        #206
                        Originally posted by SuckOnThis

                        With Soulmates there is NO pride, and there CAN be forgiveness.
                        Apparently I'm alone in my thinking here, but I think those are key words. If she does come back to you, don't let your pride get in the way of accepting her back. It sounds like she was young when you two got together, and maybe she just needs to find out for herself that the grass is not greener on the other side.
                        If you truly love her like you say you do, but are unwilling to let her give you a chance to make things right, you'll regret it and spend the rest of your life wondering "what if I had...".
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                          • Jer
                            God is Brazilian
                            • Feb 2001
                            • 10601
                            #207
                            I've read the first page. My best wishes.

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                              • reynold
                                Too lazy to set a custom title
                                • Oct 2002
                                • 51271
                                #208
                                10 years is such a long time.

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                                  • Cassie
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                                    • Mar 2003
                                    • 3139
                                    #209
                                    i know how you feel. the sad thing is that you never truly get over comparing (what you will end up doing in the future and you may not realize you're doing it) and the pain. the pain does become less and then before you know it, the pain is gone but the memory will always be there and that hurts, if even a little bit.

                                    as much as you dont think you will get through this, you will. every waking second for the next few months will be tough but if, in three months you dont get back together (lets say), you will look back and say "i made it this far". six months after that, you will say the same thing. you get what i mean.

                                    you are going to go through a whole range of emotions. emotions you never knew existed and it's ok to express those emotions. YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS! do not let the emotions take over but YOU take over the emotions. vent when you have to, cry when needed, punch a wall if that makes you feel better but do not, do NOT let these emotions get the best of you.

                                    everything in this life happens for a reason; good, bad or indifferent and it's those defining moments that are pivitol in making you who you are. you will work though this with or without her.

                                    sorry to hear about your situation. it's tough i know and at this point there is nothing anyone here can say or do that will truly make you feel better. i just hope you can gain some comfort in knowing you're not alone.
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                                      • sugarlips
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                                        • May 2003
                                        • 466
                                        #210
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                                          • Webby
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                                            • Oct 2002
                                            • 14956
                                            #211
                                            Sorry to hear about that outgoing flight...

                                            Something... people can live together for many years and one day, either of them can "change". People change all the time - it does not necessarily have anything to do with "you" :-)

                                            None of that means the "hate" you or don't like you :-) They are just... "different".

                                            One thing... it don't matter a toss about the why's - there is no reason on earth why you should not be friends and always "look out" for each other. From what you say, it sounds like that may be possible.

                                            Also... she knows as well as you, - you have had good times and neither of you will forget them. Appreciate the time you had together and your partner. I'm sure she appreciated the time you spent with her.

                                            And... life ain't over by a long shot!!!!
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                                              • Mr Pheer
                                                So Fucking Banned
                                                • Dec 2002
                                                • 22082
                                                #212
                                                Originally posted by Missy
                                                If you truly love her like you say you do, but are unwilling to let her give you a chance to make things right, you'll regret it and spend the rest of your life wondering "what if I had...".
                                                "What if I take her back and she does this shit again...."

                                                Fuck me over once, shame on you.
                                                Fuck me over twice, shame on me.

                                                If you do take her back, she will lose what little respect she has for you now. She's spending the weekend with another man. Do you think they are going to be sleeping in seperate beds?

                                                Suppose everytime she wants to see someone else, she just breaks up, has her fling then comes back? FUCK THAT.

                                                She left you for another man, she didnt even have the decency to move out first. And she's going to come back to stay in YOUR house. She has no decency and she's not worthy of breathing the same air that you breathe. If it were me, the house would be empty when she got back of everything but her personal belongings. Let her new man buy her some furniture.

                                                Whatever you do, maintain your self respect and dont let this woman that you spent 10 years of your life with get away with this bullshit. She's definately not considering your feelings right now. Think she's crying to her new man right now?

                                                I'm sorry for being brutal and straight to the point, but this woman has caused you alot of pain, dont ever give her the fuckin chance to do it again.

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                                                  • jimmyf
                                                    OU812
                                                    • Feb 2001
                                                    • 12651
                                                    #213
                                                    Originally posted by AMADude
                                                    Fuck man.
                                                    Just be prepared for when she comes crawling back to you. And she will do this.
                                                    It will be tough, but you need to tell her no.
                                                    The best and i mean best advice you will get.

                                                    i've been married 3 times, with ever wife, in between would get back together many times. The last woman I married, we split, and she came over after about a month, wanted 2 talk about getting back together, told her I was happy with my life.

                                                    Should have told the 1st and 2nd wife that, would have save me one hell of a lot of time and other stuff's

                                                    Fuck that's just with wives, forget the line in's.
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                                                      • ModelPerfect
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                                                        • Nov 2003
                                                        • 2862
                                                        #214
                                                        Damn, man. I'm sorry to hear that. I wish you all the best.
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                                                          • Missy
                                                            FLASHCA$H.COM
                                                            • Jul 2001
                                                            • 1257
                                                            #215
                                                            Originally posted by MrPheer
                                                            "What if I take her back and she does this shit again...."

                                                            Fuck me over once, shame on you.
                                                            Fuck me over twice, shame on me.

                                                            If you do take her back, she will lose what little respect she has for you now. She's spending the weekend with another man. Do you think they are going to be sleeping in seperate beds?

                                                            Suppose everytime she wants to see someone else, she just breaks up, has her fling then comes back? FUCK THAT.

                                                            She left you for another man, she didnt even have the decency to move out first. And she's going to come back to stay in YOUR house. She has no decency and she's not worthy of breathing the same air that you breathe. If it were me, the house would be empty when she got back of everything but her personal belongings. Let her new man buy her some furniture.

                                                            Whatever you do, maintain your self respect and dont let this woman that you spent 10 years of your life with get away with this bullshit. She's definately not considering your feelings right now. Think she's crying to her new man right now?

                                                            I'm sorry for being brutal and straight to the point, but this woman has caused you alot of pain, dont ever give her the fuckin chance to do it again.
                                                            What you seem to be forgetting is that she DID try to break up with him before. This whole thing about the other guy... that's just an excuse. The problems arose before the guy came into the picture, so it doesn't sound like he's the real issue. I wouldn't be surprised if she's just using him (the other guy) to get out of the current relationship. They got in that fight a few weeks ago. He had plenty of time to "try to make things right" and for whatever reason, chose not to or was unable to.

                                                            Now don't get me wrong... I feel horrible for him and would never wish his situation on anybody. But it doesn't sound to be all her fault. He's even admitted himself that all these things there were so important to her - he knew them and heard them all along, but didn't realize they were so important until it was too late. Sounds to me like a classic case of male selective hearing and/or a communication breakdown. It happens ALL THE TIME in relationships, especially long-term, comfortable ones. I think it would be a shame to let pride get in the way of the chance to make things right with the person who may well be the love of his life.

                                                            I completely agree with the fact that you can only take so much "abuse" without losing your dignity and self-respect. Now if he gave her another chance and she screwed him over then, I would say that should be the end of it. But I believe in second chances (however, I draw the line at third chances). EVERYBODY makes mistakes in relationships. If nobody was willing to give second chances, none of us would be in a relationship longer than a month or two.
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                                                              • SureFire
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                                                                • Jan 2003
                                                                • 4398
                                                                #216
                                                                SpaceAce, didn't read all the posts but I am sure they just said time will heal. It is true

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                                                                  • ytcracker
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                                                                    • Dec 2002
                                                                    • 12403
                                                                    #217
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                                                                      • newsdude
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                                                                        • Apr 2004
                                                                        • 1969
                                                                        #218
                                                                        I wouldn't want to be in your shoes.
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                                                                          • Kevin2
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                                                                            • May 2003
                                                                            • 1429
                                                                            #219
                                                                            Originally posted by sugarlips
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                                                                              • digifan
                                                                                The Profiler
                                                                                • Oct 2002
                                                                                • 14618
                                                                                #220
                                                                                Originally posted by Missy
                                                                                What you seem to be forgetting is that she DID try to break up with him before. This whole thing about the other guy... that's just an excuse. The problems arose before the guy came into the picture, so it doesn't sound like he's the real issue. I wouldn't be surprised if she's just using him (the other guy) to get out of the current relationship. They got in that fight a few weeks ago. He had plenty of time to "try to make things right" and for whatever reason, chose not to or was unable to.

                                                                                Now don't get me wrong... I feel horrible for him and would never wish his situation on anybody. But it doesn't sound to be all her fault. He's even admitted himself that all these things there were so important to her - he knew them and heard them all along, but didn't realize they were so important until it was too late. Sounds to me like a classic case of male selective hearing and/or a communication breakdown. It happens ALL THE TIME in relationships, especially long-term, comfortable ones. I think it would be a shame to let pride get in the way of the chance to make things right with the person who may well be the love of his life.

                                                                                I completely agree with the fact that you can only take so much "abuse" without losing your dignity and self-respect. Now if he gave her another chance and she screwed him over then, I would say that should be the end of it. But I believe in second chances (however, I draw the line at third chances). EVERYBODY makes mistakes in relationships. If nobody was willing to give second chances, none of us would be in a relationship longer than a month or two.
                                                                                So sorry to hear that.. but listen to Missy, people deserve at least a second chance in life. My thoughts exactly.
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                                                                                  • AAnnAArchy
                                                                                    Registered User
                                                                                    • Aug 2002
                                                                                    • 53
                                                                                    #221
                                                                                    This is a *me three post* regarding Missy's post. She could come back from her trip and realize she made a big mistake. I'd still suggest counseling for both of you if she does want to come back.

                                                                                    I'm pretty disgusted by the "all women are bitches" posts. Ugh, how do you guys ever get girlfriends or wives?

                                                                                    Anyway, Vegas isn't such a bad place, so don't just try to up and get out of here. Also, if you do decide you want to move out, there's always the possibility of you renting a room from someone. If you tell them what's going on and why you broke your previous lease, they may give you a break.

                                                                                    That said, hang in there. It always gets better. It doesn't necessarily completely go away, but time does heal things.

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                                                                                      • Aly-Python
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                                                                                        • Mar 2002
                                                                                        • 1439
                                                                                        #222
                                                                                        It's cold comfort now, I realize that, but this experience should prove to be a very positive one in your life. It stands to make you stronger and a whole lot wiser. For now you may just want to cling to the old adage: Living well is the best revenge. Good luck.
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                                                                                          • Blaze
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                                                                                            • Oct 2001
                                                                                            • 298
                                                                                            #223
                                                                                            I am very sorry to hear this Space. I was really hoping you guys would work it out.

                                                                                            I have known her almost as long as I have known you. I always thought you guys would be togeather forvever.

                                                                                            If its any cosolation, there may not have been anything you could have done. When I think back I remembered that you were really the first serious boyfriend she ever had.

                                                                                            I belive that there are not many people in this world that can live out their lives having only ever been with one person.
                                                                                            She couldnt know how good she had it, because she didnt have anything for comparison. She will come to regret her decsion eventually I think. But in the end this was probablly inevitable.

                                                                                            She may have some hard lessons ahead about the world, and about men.

                                                                                            Anyways, time heals all wounds. Just take it day by day and it will get easier.

                                                                                            and if you want to talk give me a call.


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                                                                                              • NaughtyAlysha
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                                                                                                • Feb 2002
                                                                                                • 1843
                                                                                                #224
                                                                                                Sorry to hear that... Probably don't want to hear this, but everything works out in the end.


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                                                                                                  • nofx
                                                                                                    Too lazy to set a custom title
                                                                                                    • Nov 2002
                                                                                                    • 16826
                                                                                                    #225
                                                                                                    "Love can mend your life
                                                                                                    But love can break your heart"

                                                                                                    sorry to hear about your bad news. keep your head up.

                                                                                                    Often times I wonder why
                                                                                                    There's love and hate, theres live or die.
                                                                                                    When sickness comes I must decide:
                                                                                                    When feelings go, theres suicide.

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                                                                                                      • WebDork
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                                                                                                        • Jan 2002
                                                                                                        • 402
                                                                                                        #226
                                                                                                        Good luck. Stay strong.
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                                                                                                          • Syl
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                                                                                                            • Dec 2003
                                                                                                            • 1953
                                                                                                            #227
                                                                                                            I'm no fan of love. I have no useful advice since I have not succeeded in love ..just wanted to say sorry that you are hurting.
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                                                                                                              • pimplink
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                                                                                                                • Jun 2001
                                                                                                                • 9535
                                                                                                                #228
                                                                                                                Just keep in mind that if HE asks you to put something down, HE definitley wants you to pick something better. You'll be fine.

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                                                                                                                  • Mr Pheer
                                                                                                                    So Fucking Banned
                                                                                                                    • Dec 2002
                                                                                                                    • 22082
                                                                                                                    #229
                                                                                                                    Originally posted by digifan
                                                                                                                    So sorry to hear that.. but listen to Missy, people deserve at least a second chance in life. My thoughts exactly.
                                                                                                                    I would agree also, if they had a fight and she went to her mom's for the weekend.

                                                                                                                    But she didnt, she went to see another man, and thats unacceptable.

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                                                                                                                      • SuckOnThis
                                                                                                                        So Fucking Banned
                                                                                                                        • Oct 2003
                                                                                                                        • 6844
                                                                                                                        #230
                                                                                                                        Originally posted by MrPheer
                                                                                                                        "What if I take her back and she does this shit again...."

                                                                                                                        Fuck me over once, shame on you.
                                                                                                                        Fuck me over twice, shame on me.

                                                                                                                        If you do take her back, she will lose what little respect she has for you now. She's spending the weekend with another man. Do you think they are going to be sleeping in seperate beds?

                                                                                                                        Suppose everytime she wants to see someone else, she just breaks up, has her fling then comes back? FUCK THAT.

                                                                                                                        She left you for another man, she didnt even have the decency to move out first. And she's going to come back to stay in YOUR house. She has no decency and she's not worthy of breathing the same air that you breathe. If it were me, the house would be empty when she got back of everything but her personal belongings. Let her new man buy her some furniture.

                                                                                                                        Whatever you do, maintain your self respect and dont let this woman that you spent 10 years of your life with get away with this bullshit. She's definately not considering your feelings right now. Think she's crying to her new man right now?

                                                                                                                        I'm sorry for being brutal and straight to the point, but this woman has caused you alot of pain, dont ever give her the fuckin chance to do it again.

                                                                                                                        Logically you're right, but the heart and logic usually conflict. I definitely have to agree with Missy on this, everyone deserves a second chance, especially if its someone you love. Sometimes pride needs to be swallowed, otherwise you go through your life bitter.

                                                                                                                        I spent my whole life with the attitude if a woman fucks me over she is history, and I've lost some very special ones because of pride. Regret is a lot harder to live with than losing your pride.

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                                                                                                                          • Mr Pheer
                                                                                                                            So Fucking Banned
                                                                                                                            • Dec 2002
                                                                                                                            • 22082
                                                                                                                            #231
                                                                                                                            Originally posted by SuckOnThis
                                                                                                                            Logically you're right, but the heart and logic usually conflict. I definitely have to agree with Missy on this, everyone deserves a second chance, especially if its someone you love. Sometimes pride needs to be swallowed, otherwise you go through your life bitter.

                                                                                                                            I spent my whole life with the attitude if a woman fucks me over she is history, and I've lost some very special ones because of pride. Regret is a lot harder to live with than losing your pride.
                                                                                                                            I've never considered it an issue of pride when they touch another man. Thats the deal breaker and any woman I've been with seriously has known that from the start. I've never had a regret over telling one to hit the road over shit like that.

                                                                                                                            The relationship could never ever be the same, so why bother. Kick her to the curb and get on with your life. There are better women to be with than one that does this kind of bullshit.

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                                                                                                                              • SuckOnThis
                                                                                                                                So Fucking Banned
                                                                                                                                • Oct 2003
                                                                                                                                • 6844
                                                                                                                                #232
                                                                                                                                Originally posted by MrPheer
                                                                                                                                I've never considered it an issue of pride when they touch another man. Thats the deal breaker and any woman I've been with seriously has known that from the start. I've never had a regret over telling one to hit the road over shit like that.

                                                                                                                                The relationship could never ever be the same, so why bother. Kick her to the curb and get on with your life. There are better women to be with than one that does this kind of bullshit.

                                                                                                                                Actually I think it is an issue of pride when someone cheats on you. The last survey I read stated something like 60% of all married women have strayed, and I'm willing to bet the other 40% have thought about it at least once. So if thats the case why even be with anyone.

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                                                                                                                                  • Mr Pheer
                                                                                                                                    So Fucking Banned
                                                                                                                                    • Dec 2002
                                                                                                                                    • 22082
                                                                                                                                    #233
                                                                                                                                    Originally posted by SuckOnThis
                                                                                                                                    Actually I think it is an issue of pride when someone cheats on you. The last survey I read stated something like 60% of all married women have strayed, and I'm willing to bet the other 40% have thought about it at least once. So if thats the case why even be with anyone.
                                                                                                                                    I had to get married 3 times to find the right one. And she knows very well how I feel about certain things and that cheating is the 1 thing that there is no forgivness for and no coming back from. Most anything else I could deal with, but this is the one thing that I stand my ground on. I dont cheat, and I expect no less in return.

                                                                                                                                    His girl didnt exactly cheat, but I would consider flying off to spend a weekend with another man to be just as bad. But at least she told him what her intentions were.

                                                                                                                                    If he can forgive her thats great, but I never could if it were me, cause I would never be able to forget it. And that would cause problems in the relationship.

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                                                                                                                                      • pure energy
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                                                                                                                                        • Apr 2004
                                                                                                                                        • 4274
                                                                                                                                        #234
                                                                                                                                        It might be impossible right now but I hope you'll fall in love again someday.
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                                                                                                                                          • Blondie23
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                                                                                                                                            • Aug 2001
                                                                                                                                            • 408
                                                                                                                                            #235
                                                                                                                                            Space..

                                                                                                                                            I said it all in our chat tonight

                                                                                                                                            YOu are not alone.. just turn on your computer and you have hundreds of friends who are here to talk and support you.

                                                                                                                                            Also our Henderson office is right near where you live.. so we're gonna harass you to have drinks with us.


                                                                                                                                            Right now you feel like you'll never survive this grief.. but i promise you with every day that goes past.. you are a day closer to feeling happiness again.

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                                                                                                                                              • evelknievel
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                                                                                                                                                • Dec 2003
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                                                                                                                                                Ace----


                                                                                                                                                I was the "tough love" post previously......

                                                                                                                                                First, kudos to you to bear you soul this way. I coudn't do it

                                                                                                                                                Second, stop bearing your soul to women that you want a relationship with.....really. believe me.

                                                                                                                                                ----all these broads that say they want a John Cusak type, all go home with a Colin Farrell type. Don't believe me? start a thread about that one....

                                                                                                                                                third, I live in NJ, and I know a LOT of cops, etc.....anything I can do?

                                                                                                                                                fourth and final----like I said previously "men from the boys".....
                                                                                                                                                Learn from this and don't let it happen again. I'm not saying that you should toughen up to the point of not feeling what you felt (or feel) for her---I'm saying don't let them KNOW that you are feeling it. ...It's the challenge / mystery thing....


                                                                                                                                                Tell this one she was nothing more than sex with the "I'm goning to miss banging your sweet ass" mentality. Really...It's sad that we have to play these games, but women want guys that are 'better than them' or 'guys that don't NEED them'

                                                                                                                                                ---think about it...don't you see REALLY hot girls and wonder why they are with 'that' guy who treats them kis shit? ...there's a reason........

                                                                                                                                                good luck my man. If there's anything I can do, email me at my B.S. email account : [email protected]

                                                                                                                                                ..and my best advice is the last thing you want to hear, but it will help-------go bang the hell out of anything you can until you are tired of it.........sounds insensitive, but it will help....

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                                                                                                                                                  • SpaceAce
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                                                                                                                                                    #237
                                                                                                                                                    Originally posted by Blaze
                                                                                                                                                    I am very sorry to hear this Space. I was really hoping you guys would work it out.

                                                                                                                                                    I have known her almost as long as I have known you. I always thought you guys would be togeather forvever.

                                                                                                                                                    If its any cosolation, there may not have been anything you could have done. When I think back I remembered that you were really the first serious boyfriend she ever had.

                                                                                                                                                    I belive that there are not many people in this world that can live out their lives having only ever been with one person.
                                                                                                                                                    She couldnt know how good she had it, because she didnt have anything for comparison. She will come to regret her decsion eventually I think. But in the end this was probablly inevitable.

                                                                                                                                                    She may have some hard lessons ahead about the world, and about men.

                                                                                                                                                    Anyways, time heals all wounds. Just take it day by day and it will get easier.

                                                                                                                                                    and if you want to talk give me a call.


                                                                                                                                                    (I would have replied sooner then page 5 but I just got home)
                                                                                                                                                    Thanks, man. I wondered why you'd been so silent but I knew you already knew what was going on. I called you today to talk business and Kim gave me her condolences, too. You know how I feel about Alana and you know what I left to come out here. It's been rough not having anyone around since this happened. Now I have to start over from scratch. I wish you had moved out here because I could really use a friend right now. If you see Dave, tell him what's happened. He is impossible to get ahold of by phone but you can always bump into him at his store. Come to think of it, your dad might see him. I bet your parents were shocked when they heard (I assume you told them).

                                                                                                                                                    Everyone, this thread has really blown up. I want to reply to each and every person seperately but it's getting to be too hard. I just want to say thanks again to everyone who's been so nice. I've gotten 99% supportive replies about this and that really took me by surprise. I especially want to say thanks to those of you who have been ICQing me and leaving me contact information in this thread. I never thought talking to strangers would help but it has.

                                                                                                                                                    A couple of people have suggested that this is "just" a breakup but ten years together makes it a lot more than that. This also wasn't ten years from the time we were 40 until the time we were 50. We grew up together and built everything we have together from scratch. I mean, we came all the way from me being homeless in Cleveland to having jobs and responsibilities and a life in Las Vegas. Our lives are intertwined in ways that the lives of two people who met later in life or who didn't go through what we went through together could never be. This is also what makes it not feasible for me to just be gone when she gets back this morning. It isn't a matter of forgiveness or comfort, it is a matter of necessity.

                                                                                                                                                    Just thinking about it is making my chest hurt. I'll just say thanks again to everyone who's been nice to me since I made this thread. I never expected to get so much attention or so much help. I figured there'd be a couple dozen flames and the thread would be buried on page six within 24 hours. I'm glad I was wrong because, even though I am still really down and feeling a little dizzy about the situation, I think I am better off than I might have been if things had gone differently.

                                                                                                                                                    For the one or two of you who have made macho bullshit type posts, your day is coming. You think you're hard motherfuckers now but if you're hurt by someone you really love and who really means the world to you, you'll go down like a sack of bricks the same as I did. Someone who is inside you gets past all your defenses and there isn't a thing you can do about it.

                                                                                                                                                    SpaceAce

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                                                                                                                                                      • SpaceAce
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                                                                                                                                                        • Jul 2002
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                                                                                                                                                        #238
                                                                                                                                                        Originally posted by MrPheer
                                                                                                                                                        And she knows very well how I feel about certain things and that cheating is the 1 thing that there is no forgivness for and no coming back from. Most anything else I could deal with, but this is the one thing that I stand my ground on.
                                                                                                                                                        My woman knew that, too. I've used almost those exact words with her. Nothing is more important to me than loyalty. My friends (Blaze for instance) know I stand with them 100% when things are rough. I may not always agree with a friend and I will tell him exacly what I really think but if a friend needs my support, he knows it's there. If the fists start flying, I'll be in the middle of it, if the cops come a-knocking, I'm not saying shit and if a friend's heart gets broken, I'll be there however I can.

                                                                                                                                                        Alana didn't really cheat and I don't think she would have even if he lived near by. Still, I think what she did is a real betrayal even if it isn't quite as bad as what it could have been. I should have been told on day one that this guy stoked her fire and she should never have made the first phone call. The person she should have gone to with her problems is me, not him.

                                                                                                                                                        SpaceAce

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                                                                                                                                                          • SpaceAce
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                                                                                                                                                            • Jul 2002
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                                                                                                                                                            #239
                                                                                                                                                            Originally posted by Missy
                                                                                                                                                            They got in that fight a few weeks ago. He had plenty of time to "try to make things right" and for whatever reason, chose not to or was unable to.
                                                                                                                                                            All I can say about that is that no one can fix something they don't know is wrong.

                                                                                                                                                            SpaceAce

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                                                                                                                                                              • Kicker
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                                                                                                                                                                • Apr 2002
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                                                                                                                                                                #240
                                                                                                                                                                Very sad
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                                                                                                                                                                  • Firehorse
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                                                                                                                                                                    • Apr 2002
                                                                                                                                                                    • 30767
                                                                                                                                                                    #241
                                                                                                                                                                    SpaceAce, some people will never know the love that you showed her and have felt. You have enjoyed a wonderful journey and you are a better and stronger man for that even though it is hard to realiase that at this moment.
                                                                                                                                                                    MySweetEbony

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                                                                                                                                                                      • ~Ray
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                                                                                                                                                                        • 18361
                                                                                                                                                                        #242
                                                                                                                                                                        Tommorrow is D-Day. Just remember, you have friends here at GFY. Don't do anything "stupid". mmmmkay
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                                                                                                                                                                          • sexyclicks
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                                                                                                                                                                            • Mar 2002
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                                                                                                                                                                            #243
                                                                                                                                                                            Have you ever been to a room full of people, but you feel like you are completely alone? This is how he feels right now. All this matcho crap is just useless words.

                                                                                                                                                                            I wish you the best really. The night you started this thread, I stayed up until 5 am reading it. The same thing happened to me, with many many similarities. That was 4 months ago, so its pretty fresh. Right now I feel much better, and slowly slowly I have started meeting new people and going out on dates. But I will always love her...

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                                                                                                                                                                              • Jeff aka NIGHTfall
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                                                                                                                                                                                • Oct 2003
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                                                                                                                                                                                #244
                                                                                                                                                                                i hope it goes well tomarrow man, honestly..


                                                                                                                                                                                if you need anyone to talk to bro, my profile has my AIM and email.. im all eyes and ears if you need man


                                                                                                                                                                                i hope it gets better

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                                                                                                                                                                                  • count blingula
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                                                                                                                                                                                    • Oct 2003
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                                                                                                                                                                                    #245
                                                                                                                                                                                    i've been there, man. keep your chin up! best luck to the both of you. like mom always told me "when one door closes, another opens"

                                                                                                                                                                                    god bless,
                                                                                                                                                                                    count blingula
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                                                                                                                                                                                      • SpaceAce
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                                                                                                                                                                                        #246
                                                                                                                                                                                        Originally posted by Kicker
                                                                                                                                                                                        Very sad
                                                                                                                                                                                        Yes, I feel like that forwny looks.

                                                                                                                                                                                        SpaceAce

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                                                                                                                                                                                          • SpaceAce
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                                                                                                                                                                                            • Jul 2002
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                                                                                                                                                                                            #247
                                                                                                                                                                                            Originally posted by Firehorse
                                                                                                                                                                                            SpaceAce, some people will never know the love that you showed her and have felt. You have enjoyed a wonderful journey and you are a better and stronger man for that even though it is hard to realiase that at this moment.
                                                                                                                                                                                            Oh, I do realize that. Despite how painful this is, I wouldn't want to give up the experiences or the memories. I wouldn't give back any of my life experiences good or bad because then I wouldn't be who I am. I just hope the hurt goes away.

                                                                                                                                                                                            "'Cause after all it's what we've done that makes us what we are." - Jim Croce

                                                                                                                                                                                            SpaceAce

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                                                                                                                                                                                              • SpaceAce
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                                                                                                                                                                                                • Jul 2002
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                                                                                                                                                                                                #248
                                                                                                                                                                                                Originally posted by AdvertisingSex
                                                                                                                                                                                                Tommorrow is D-Day. Just remember, you have friends here at GFY. Don't do anything "stupid". mmmmkay
                                                                                                                                                                                                Thanks again for the supportiveness. I'll do my best to avoid stupidity.

                                                                                                                                                                                                SpaceAce

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  • SpaceAce
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                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Jul 2002
                                                                                                                                                                                                    • 6493
                                                                                                                                                                                                    #249
                                                                                                                                                                                                    Originally posted by sexyclicks
                                                                                                                                                                                                    Have you ever been to a room full of people, but you feel like you are completely alone? This is how he feels right now. All this matcho crap is just useless words.

                                                                                                                                                                                                    I wish you the best really. The night you started this thread, I stayed up until 5 am reading it. The same thing happened to me, with many many similarities. That was 4 months ago, so its pretty fresh. Right now I feel much better, and slowly slowly I have started meeting new people and going out on dates. But I will always love her...
                                                                                                                                                                                                    You are right about how I feel and I'm sorry you had to go through what you did. I will always love my girl, too, and I am not sure when or how I will be able to move on. I guess it will have to work itself out.

                                                                                                                                                                                                    SpaceAce

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      • SpaceAce
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                                                                                                                                                                                                        #250
                                                                                                                                                                                                        Originally posted by Jeff aka NIGHTfall
                                                                                                                                                                                                        i hope it goes well tomarrow man, honestly..


                                                                                                                                                                                                        if you need anyone to talk to bro, my profile has my AIM and email.. im all eyes and ears if you need man


                                                                                                                                                                                                        i hope it gets better
                                                                                                                                                                                                        Thanks, Jeff, I appreciate the offer.

                                                                                                                                                                                                        SpaceAce

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