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Trixxxia · 02-14-2005, 08:47 AM

phogirl - it's none of my business but here is my opinion - it may not be worth much but here it goes.

By actually seeing his point of view and asking people for opinions on it, you're trying to justify it in your mind, although YOU KNOW it's not right, nor is it sane. When a man justifies his actions for wars fought by people he didn't know and victimizes himself after making someone a victim - you know for sure this guy doesn't take responsibility for his own actions.

I can tell you I've lived with someone like that and it almost cost me my life. If it wasn't for my child who looked at me and told me to smell the roses and distinguish the shit, I wouldn't be here. It starts with a slap and then you justify it in your mind and it progressively goes to the next level until you have no self-esteem or courage to get the fuck out of it.

When he finds out you've written it on here, he'll ask you to leave the biz - mark my words.

You've got so much to offer someone - don't waste it on someone who can't control his 'irritations' and cannot use his brain to relay his feelings of anger. It's classic abused woman syndrome - you want to believe that it was an isolated moment and that it won't happen again - until the next time, then you take blame for it, then the next it's because of his parents, then the next he had a bad day at work - and then next, ...... It goes on and on - if he parents screwed him up - you're not going to save him much less change him. He obviously doesn't see a problem with it - he's telling you that you should accept it because 'they go fight wars for you' - last I checked, women were in Iraq too and doing their part.

Sorry doesn't cut it and the next time you don't know what will trigger it - if you can't feel safe with your man then why have one? You're worth way more than this. I say take another objective look at your relationship and make your decision.

02-14-2005, 08:47 AM
Trixxxia Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Montreal, Canada Posts: 5,600	phogirl - it's none of my business but here is my opinion - it may not be worth much but here it goes. By actually seeing his point of view and asking people for opinions on it, you're trying to justify it in your mind, although YOU KNOW it's not right, nor is it sane. When a man justifies his actions for wars fought by people he didn't know and victimizes himself after making someone a victim - you know for sure this guy doesn't take responsibility for his own actions. I can tell you I've lived with someone like that and it almost cost me my life. If it wasn't for my child who looked at me and told me to smell the roses and distinguish the shit, I wouldn't be here. It starts with a slap and then you justify it in your mind and it progressively goes to the next level until you have no self-esteem or courage to get the fuck out of it. When he finds out you've written it on here, he'll ask you to leave the biz - mark my words. You've got so much to offer someone - don't waste it on someone who can't control his 'irritations' and cannot use his brain to relay his feelings of anger. It's classic abused woman syndrome - you want to believe that it was an isolated moment and that it won't happen again - until the next time, then you take blame for it, then the next it's because of his parents, then the next he had a bad day at work - and then next, ...... It goes on and on - if he parents screwed him up - you're not going to save him much less change him. He obviously doesn't see a problem with it - he's telling you that you should accept it because 'they go fight wars for you' - last I checked, women were in Iraq too and doing their part. Sorry doesn't cut it and the next time you don't know what will trigger it - if you can't feel safe with your man then why have one? You're worth way more than this. I say take another objective look at your relationship and make your decision.