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  • BradM
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    • Dec 2003
    • 3397
    #1

    Distance Relationships: How to keep them going?

    My girlfriend lives in Calgary and I live near Vancouver. I'm trying to get out to see her next month some time.

    But how do you keep your distance relationships going? We care about each other a lot but can not express that being so far apart.

    What do you do to keep things moving and keep them interesting? Aside from moving there... which isn't an option right now.
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    • torrey
      Confirmed User
      • Jan 2004
      • 1656
      #2
      Shorten the distance, affraid its the only way.

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        • TechNtentions
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          • Mar 2004
          • 1119
          #3
          Sex keeps things going nicely....but I don't think that's on the "you can do list".

          sorry bro
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            • BradM
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              • Dec 2003
              • 3397
              #4
              Ah fuck!
              Ratio is bad so far, 0:2
              I was hoping people wouldn't say that

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                • TechNtentions
                  Confirmed User
                  • Mar 2004
                  • 1119
                  #5
                  Originally posted by torrey
                  Shorten the distance, affraid its the only way.

                  yea...why don't you move closer to her?
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                    • BradM
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                      • Dec 2003
                      • 3397
                      #6
                      Originally posted by TechNtentions
                      yea...why don't you move closer to her?
                      I work from an office. Remote isn't really an option.

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                        • Illicit
                          wtf ?
                          • Dec 2003
                          • 11895
                          #7
                          Ive tried the long distance thing a few times, never works...


                          why do all the good ones live so far away
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                            • TechNtentions
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                              • Mar 2004
                              • 1119
                              #8
                              Why doesn't she move closer to you?......or betteryet, with you?
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                                • wild-cat
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                                  • Jan 2004
                                  • 908
                                  #9
                                  your in deep shit

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                                    • KittyLix
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                                      • Apr 2004
                                      • 2036
                                      #10
                                      Originally posted by torrey
                                      Shorten the distance, affraid its the only way.

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                                        • TechNtentions
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                                          • Mar 2004
                                          • 1119
                                          #11
                                          gotta try harder......askin GFY probably isn't recommended
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                                            • BradM
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                                              • Dec 2003
                                              • 3397
                                              #12
                                              Originally posted by ajpiii
                                              why do all the good ones live so far away
                                              Fuck I don't know. But she's a keeper for sure. I just have to find a way to make things more interesting without actually being able to see her all the time. LOL

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                                                • Sheri Santiago
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                                                  • Jun 2003
                                                  • 1584
                                                  #13
                                                  OK brad I'm all over this one.

                                                  Easton lives in Montreal, I live in Scottsdale.

                                                  We fly to see each other for several weeks at a time. Until he can get his US Visa this works just fine. We are apart for a week or so in between. It's costly as far as the airfare but works out great for now.

                                                  You two have WAAAY less to travel and don't have the border issues. If it's worth it you'll make it work - however the other issue is WORK - if you can't spare the time to be away for a month on and off - Easton and I own our own stuff so we can travel whenever we want - I suppose that's a bigger issue if you don't have the flexibility...
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                                                    • Cyborg 2.0
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                                                      • Mar 2004
                                                      • 851
                                                      #14
                                                      if u can manage to still be together after some time then u can manage to get through a lot of trouble together! try it time will tell
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                                                        • BradM
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                                                          • Dec 2003
                                                          • 3397
                                                          #15
                                                          She has family in Calgary and doesn't want to leave them.
                                                          I would go there in a heartbeat but we don't have an office there ;)

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                                                            • monaro
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                                                              • Aug 2003
                                                              • 968
                                                              #16
                                                              Alot of phone calls and invest in a hands free desk phone, talk and keep it live!

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                                                                • torrey
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                                                                  • Jan 2004
                                                                  • 1656
                                                                  #17
                                                                  Originally posted by BradM
                                                                  Ah fuck!
                                                                  Ratio is bad so far, 0:2
                                                                  I was hoping people wouldn't say that
                                                                  Dont let these comments place doubt in you. Besides, true love conquers all, even time and distance.

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                                                                    • baddog
                                                                      So Fucking Banned
                                                                      • Apr 2001
                                                                      • 107089
                                                                      #18
                                                                      avoid email and ICQ . . .communicate only by telephone . . . .there is too much room for error when they read something and can not hear the voice inflection

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                                                                        • BradM
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                                                                          • Dec 2003
                                                                          • 3397
                                                                          #19
                                                                          Sheri: That's true I forgot you two are apart.
                                                                          For me there is no flexibility really. I can't leave for long periods at a time. We are close and flights are cheap but I can't really afford to do it all the time.

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                                                                            • Illicit
                                                                              wtf ?
                                                                              • Dec 2003
                                                                              • 11895
                                                                              #20
                                                                              Originally posted by BradM
                                                                              Fuck I don't know. But she's a keeper for sure. I just have to find a way to make things more interesting without actually being able to see her all the time. LOL
                                                                              I got one in North Carolina I'd like to get to know alot better, but Im in Mass... Oh well ... Sux
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                                                                                • BradM
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                                                                                  • Dec 2003
                                                                                  • 3397
                                                                                  #21
                                                                                  Originally posted by baddog
                                                                                  avoid email and ICQ . . .communicate only by telephone . . . .there is too much room for error when they read something and can not hear the voice inflection
                                                                                  We talk on the phone like crazy. We use msn every once in awhile though.

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                                                                                    • Sheri Santiago
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                                                                                      • Jun 2003
                                                                                      • 1584
                                                                                      #22
                                                                                      Originally posted by BradM
                                                                                      Sheri: That's true I forgot you two are apart.
                                                                                      For me there is no flexibility really. I can't leave for long periods at a time. We are close and flights are cheap but I can't really afford to do it all the time.
                                                                                      Yep, people always forget because we are always together.

                                                                                      Work can really have an impact on what you can do as far as travel...give her some time, maybe she'll move from her family, Easton's going to - he may not have done that 7 months ago
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                                                                                        • torrey
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                                                                                          • Jan 2004
                                                                                          • 1656
                                                                                          #23
                                                                                          True Love.

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                                                                                            • baddog
                                                                                              So Fucking Banned
                                                                                              • Apr 2001
                                                                                              • 107089
                                                                                              #24
                                                                                              Originally posted by BradM
                                                                                              We talk on the phone like crazy. We use msn every once in awhile though.
                                                                                              AIM destroyed a relationship for me . . . . be very careful

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                                                                                                • BradM
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                                                                                                  • Dec 2003
                                                                                                  • 3397
                                                                                                  #25
                                                                                                  Originally posted by baddog
                                                                                                  AIM destroyed a relationship for me . . . . be very careful

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                                                                                                    • Sheri Santiago
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                                                                                                      • Jun 2003
                                                                                                      • 1584
                                                                                                      #26
                                                                                                      baddog's right, I got into some stupid ass fights over ICQ, purely because the emotion isn't there, a phone call cleared it all up. Gotta watch the messenger stuff Brad.

                                                                                                      On a side note my mom is visiting and found my I sell drugs shirt -I thought she'd be pissed (and confused) but she found it rather entertaining ;)
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                                                                                                        • monaro
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                                                                                                          • Aug 2003
                                                                                                          • 968
                                                                                                          #27
                                                                                                          Originally posted by TechNtentions
                                                                                                          gotta try harder......askin GFY probably isn't recommended
                                                                                                          Why not dude, are you thinking that you cant get good advice from the people who enjoy posting and giving advise here at gfy?

                                                                                                          I have read some really lame posts correct, but some guys and gals i have read, turned that light bulb inside my head on and have given me the tips i needed to get where i am today!.. even if you don't give advise you still can be a well resected individual.

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                                                                                                            • Illicit
                                                                                                              wtf ?
                                                                                                              • Dec 2003
                                                                                                              • 11895
                                                                                                              #28
                                                                                                              Originally posted by baddog
                                                                                                              AIM destroyed a relationship for me . . . . be very careful
                                                                                                              how so ?
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                                                                                                                • BradM
                                                                                                                  Confirmed User
                                                                                                                  • Dec 2003
                                                                                                                  • 3397
                                                                                                                  #29
                                                                                                                  Originally posted by Sheri Santiago
                                                                                                                  On a side note my mom is visiting and found my I sell drugs shirt -I thought she'd be pissed (and confused) but she found it rather entertaining ;)
                                                                                                                  And to think you didn't want it!

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                                                                                                                    • Sheri Santiago
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                                                                                                                      • Jun 2003
                                                                                                                      • 1584
                                                                                                                      #30
                                                                                                                      Originally posted by BradM
                                                                                                                      And to think you didn't want it!
                                                                                                                      ROFL I know!! I wear that fucker all the time!!!!
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                                                                                                                        • wdsguy
                                                                                                                          Ryde or Die
                                                                                                                          • Dec 2002
                                                                                                                          • 19568
                                                                                                                          #31
                                                                                                                          I am currently in a long distance relationship. We are about 400 miles apart. she goes to school down south while I goto school up north. What is key in these relationship is trust and communication. You have to be able to trust the person and bridge the distance by constant communication. I visit my gf about once a month and we see each other during our school breaks. We talk online, and on the phone atleast a hour a day. We have great communication and that leads to a good amount of trust on both sides. In the end it all depends on your level of trust, amt of communication and how much u guys love each other.

                                                                                                                          As for keeping things interesting, you can do suprises like send her flowers unexpectly or make some creative stuff to send to her. The key to keeping things interesting is being unpredictable and exciting.

                                                                                                                          Lastly long distance relationships will only work if there is a end time for the seperation. For us we see the end as when I will graduate next yr and move back down south. If there is an indefinite time frame to when u guys will actually be closer together, it will make things very hard.

                                                                                                                          gluck

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                                                                                                                            • BradM
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                                                                                                                              • Dec 2003
                                                                                                                              • 3397
                                                                                                                              #32
                                                                                                                              Originally posted by TechNtentions
                                                                                                                              gotta try harder......askin GFY probably isn't recommended
                                                                                                                              Complete BS post. I've had a lot of questions I thought no one would know the answer too.

                                                                                                                              But everyone here is from different walks of life. Who knows what someone has experienced.

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                                                                                                                                • Snake Doctor
                                                                                                                                  I'm Lenny2 Bitch
                                                                                                                                  • Mar 2001
                                                                                                                                  • 13449
                                                                                                                                  #33
                                                                                                                                  Before you even THINK about getting into a long distance relationship you both need to agree that someday one of you has to be willing to relocate.
                                                                                                                                  If you can't agree on that in the beginning then there's no point in going any further.

                                                                                                                                  I had a long distance relationship for awhile and she moved here about 2 months ago.
                                                                                                                                  We flew to see each other every 4-6 weeks. We took turns doing this. (That's key, it can't all be one person doing the traveling)

                                                                                                                                  Having one of those unlimited long distance calling plans and webcams to chat online with helped also.

                                                                                                                                  If either one of you has any jealousy issues then you can forget about it working, it'll be over before it really starts.
                                                                                                                                  You definitely need a drama free environment for it to work.

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                                                                                                                                    • webair
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                                                                                                                                      • Feb 2002
                                                                                                                                      • 8531
                                                                                                                                      #34
                                                                                                                                      Originally posted by torrey
                                                                                                                                      Shorten the distance, affraid its the only way.

                                                                                                                                      yup been there done that wont work...move closer or bail now save time and heartache


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                                                                                                                                        • Illicit
                                                                                                                                          wtf ?
                                                                                                                                          • Dec 2003
                                                                                                                                          • 11895
                                                                                                                                          #35
                                                                                                                                          Originally posted by webair
                                                                                                                                          yup been there done that wont work...move closer or bail now save time and heartache

                                                                                                                                          it sucks to have to end it, but its better than dragging it on...
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                                                                                                                                            • BradM
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                                                                                                                                              • Dec 2003
                                                                                                                                              • 3397
                                                                                                                                              #36
                                                                                                                                              Well one of us is going to have to make a decision and chances are it will be me anyways. I know this already that it is basically up to me.

                                                                                                                                              Lenny: You're so right about drama free. She is a bit of a butthead sometimes but she does it to annoy me. "Oh this guy checked me out"

                                                                                                                                              But she knows it pisses me off so she does it.

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                                                                                                                                                • baddog
                                                                                                                                                  So Fucking Banned
                                                                                                                                                  • Apr 2001
                                                                                                                                                  • 107089
                                                                                                                                                  #37
                                                                                                                                                  Originally posted by Sheri Santiago
                                                                                                                                                  baddog's right, I got into some stupid ass fights over ICQ, purely because the emotion isn't there, a phone call cleared it all up. Gotta watch the messenger stuff Brad.
                                                                                                                                                  I speak from experience always in the matters of love.

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                                                                                                                                                    • BMI Lace
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                                                                                                                                                      • Mar 2004
                                                                                                                                                      • 16116
                                                                                                                                                      #38
                                                                                                                                                      Ah screw 'em they don't work. I've been in 2 before and they were worthless.

                                                                                                                                                      I'm talking to this girl who lives about 45 minutes away up in Pennsylvania and I think she thinks something might work out between us....
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                                                                                                                                                        • Rictor
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                                                                                                                                                          • Jan 2001
                                                                                                                                                          • 12208
                                                                                                                                                          #39
                                                                                                                                                          Originally posted by BradM
                                                                                                                                                          My girlfriend lives in Calgary and I live near Vancouver. I'm trying to get out to see her next month some time.

                                                                                                                                                          But how do you keep your distance relationships going? We care about each other a lot but can not express that being so far apart.

                                                                                                                                                          What do you do to keep things moving and keep them interesting? Aside from moving there... which isn't an option right now.
                                                                                                                                                          Long distance never works out.

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                                                                                                                                                            • baddog
                                                                                                                                                              So Fucking Banned
                                                                                                                                                              • Apr 2001
                                                                                                                                                              • 107089
                                                                                                                                                              #40
                                                                                                                                                              Originally posted by ajpiii
                                                                                                                                                              how so ?
                                                                                                                                                              if I type read, you don't know if I just said "reed" or "red"

                                                                                                                                                              too easy to miscommunicate with the written word. Surely you have seen people misunderstand something you wrote on a board.

                                                                                                                                                              Imagine if it was your girlfriend and she was on the rag, and had not seen you in a month or so. Chick's imaginations go wild enough when they can see you, put 3000 miles between you and see what happens.

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                                                                                                                                                                • monaro
                                                                                                                                                                  Confirmed User
                                                                                                                                                                  • Aug 2003
                                                                                                                                                                  • 968
                                                                                                                                                                  #41
                                                                                                                                                                  Originally posted by BradM
                                                                                                                                                                  My girlfriend lives in Calgary and I live near Vancouver. I'm trying to get out to see her next month some time.

                                                                                                                                                                  But how do you keep your distance relationships going? We care about each other a lot but can not express that being so far apart.

                                                                                                                                                                  What do you do to keep things moving and keep them interesting? Aside from moving there... which isn't an option right now.
                                                                                                                                                                  For myself living in 3 states, (SYD, Melb & QLD) I have no time at all to spend with a girl, other than sit at home weeknights and work and talk on the phone!

                                                                                                                                                                  long distance works for me, but then again i havnt had sex inside of 4 weeks.. got to do the rounds again!

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                                                                                                                                                                    • BradM
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                                                                                                                                                                      • Dec 2003
                                                                                                                                                                      • 3397
                                                                                                                                                                      #42
                                                                                                                                                                      600km is not a big deal really. a 6 hour drive? Shit I would do that every weekend. But not a 12 hour drive... that's a day in driving gone.

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                                                                                                                                                                        • MrIzzz
                                                                                                                                                                          If u touch it, I will cum
                                                                                                                                                                          • Sep 2003
                                                                                                                                                                          • 22923
                                                                                                                                                                          #43
                                                                                                                                                                          if its worth it then you two will be able to overcome the distance

                                                                                                                                                                          the biggest issues will be if you were close enough to take the next step, then where would you 2 decide to live?


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                                                                                                                                                                            • Sami
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                                                                                                                                                                              • Mar 2004
                                                                                                                                                                              • 2047
                                                                                                                                                                              #44
                                                                                                                                                                              Break up with her before you get cheated on.


                                                                                                                                                                              Mark my words.
                                                                                                                                                                              She will sleep with someone else over time, no matter how much she loves you.


                                                                                                                                                                              Long distance relationships do not work!


                                                                                                                                                                              just a friendly advice.

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                                                                                                                                                                                • BradM
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                                                                                                                                                                                  • Dec 2003
                                                                                                                                                                                  • 3397
                                                                                                                                                                                  #45
                                                                                                                                                                                  Originally posted by Sami
                                                                                                                                                                                  Break up with her before you get cheated on.
                                                                                                                                                                                  And that can happen just as easily as a close relationship.
                                                                                                                                                                                  Distance is not the deciding factor in it.

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                                                                                                                                                                                    • Brat
                                                                                                                                                                                      Got MIDs?
                                                                                                                                                                                      • Jan 2003
                                                                                                                                                                                      • 1545
                                                                                                                                                                                      #46
                                                                                                                                                                                      Originally posted by Sami
                                                                                                                                                                                      Break up with her before you get cheated on.


                                                                                                                                                                                      Mark my words.
                                                                                                                                                                                      She will sleep with someone else over time, no matter how much she loves you.


                                                                                                                                                                                      Long distance relationships do not work!


                                                                                                                                                                                      just a friendly advice.
                                                                                                                                                                                      bad experience i guess? I've heard of long distance relationships working out. two friends of mine lived 600km apart. both worked and both went to school also. every second weekend they would alternate who comes to see who. they would take an 8 hour bus ride and spend the weekend. they did this for over a year. they now live together and are doing great. I found there were a LOT more fights when they lived apart. I think that's completely normal.

                                                                                                                                                                                      Brad if you really do care about her, things will just work out. And if they don't work out, it just wasn't meant to be.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        • bllott
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                                                                                                                                                                                          • Mar 2004
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                                                                                                                                                                                          #47
                                                                                                                                                                                          Originally posted by BradM
                                                                                                                                                                                          My girlfriend lives in Calgary and I live near Vancouver. I'm trying to get out to see her next month some time.

                                                                                                                                                                                          But how do you keep your distance relationships going? We care about each other a lot but can not express that being so far apart.

                                                                                                                                                                                          What do you do to keep things moving and keep them interesting? Aside from moving there... which isn't an option right now.
                                                                                                                                                                                          i have tried many of these and have come to one conclusion:

                                                                                                                                                                                          do not waste any time on long distance pussy.

                                                                                                                                                                                          that's all that it comes down to in the end, fuck it, think about yourself first

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                                                                                                                                                                                            • psyko514
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                                                                                                                                                                                              • Oct 2002
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                                                                                                                                                                                              #48
                                                                                                                                                                                              you don't need to maintain a relationship with a mail-order bride ;)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                • Jer
                                                                                                                                                                                                  God is Brazilian
                                                                                                                                                                                                  • Feb 2001
                                                                                                                                                                                                  • 10601
                                                                                                                                                                                                  #49
                                                                                                                                                                                                  I've had a long distance relationship for almost 6 years... we married in June 2003 and I moved from São Paulo to Fortaleza.

                                                                                                                                                                                                  It was over 3000km / 1600 miles between us. The first 2 years or more we were together for just 1 week every 6 or 7 months. That's way not cool. Then I come for 1 week, and 6 months later she went to São Paulo for 1 month. She started going to São Paulo in July and January for one month and I come to Fortaleza in april and around october for just one week. It was like that.

                                                                                                                                                                                                  <B>LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP SUCKS.</B>

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Jer
                                                                                                                                                                                                      God is Brazilian
                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Feb 2001
                                                                                                                                                                                                      • 10601
                                                                                                                                                                                                      #50
                                                                                                                                                                                                      Originally posted by Sami
                                                                                                                                                                                                      Break up with her before you get cheated on.


                                                                                                                                                                                                      Mark my words.
                                                                                                                                                                                                      She will sleep with someone else over time, no matter how much she loves you.


                                                                                                                                                                                                      Long distance relationships do not work!

                                                                                                                                                                                                      <B>BULLSHIT!</B>

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