Originally posted by MaskedMan What they mean is that they want someone who'll treat them like dirt, someone who doesn't really care that much about them and is probably not even considering knowing them in an hour, much less the next morning.
Correct?
That's a bit of an extreme, but look at it this way... If you're expecting her to go home with you that night, what do you think she should be looking for? A wedding ring? What are you looking for?
It's not that you should treat them like dirt, but the point is not to scare them off by acting eager...
Originally posted by MaskedMan So basically, as always suspected... what a girl says she wants, and what she truly wants are 2 different things.
A girl says she wants what they see in me (for a bad example)... someone to be comfortable with, someone they can talk to, who's responsible, will take care of them..... blah blah blah.
What they mean is that they want someone who'll treat them like dirt, someone who doesn't really care that much about them and is probably not even considering knowing them in an hour, much less the next morning.
Correct?
Maybe this will help you, but I lost my virginity to a girl who said things like 'So you know anybody else like you?' I thought the whole time she was after my best friend, but all these girls might be trying to send you subtle messages and could it be possible you are not receiving??
Maybe this will help you, but I lost my virginity to a girl who said things like 'So you know anybody else like you?' I thought the whole time she was after my best friend, but all these girls might be trying to send you subtle messages and could it be possible you are not receiving??
Well, I am a man (albeit not the best example of one), so not receiving signals is very likely.
Well, I am a man (albeit not the best example of one), so not receiving signals is very likely.
Any hints on what I should be looking for?
Probably the single best thing is to work on your confidence level, I don't know you so I don't know what it would take for you to get that, but that seems to be what you're lacking
Edit: Statements like this are key "(albeit not the best example of one), " you should not be saying things like this, when you say them to yourself, you might as well get a bullhorn, you can't expect girls to like you if you don't eh?
Just don't look or act desperate
I find that women seem to know if us guys are desperately looking to get laid.
When I go out I do not even think about picking up a women or getting laid.
That way I won't look desperate.
And I seem to get laid every time I go out.
If you have no standards for quality, you can get all you want.
It's like I feel about most married men ( not all ) ..women are out there, anyone can cheat, it's just a matter of someone's quality requirements. If you will fuck fat girls, 40 year old divorcess with 3 kids, meth heads, assholes, pieces of shit then you can cheat all the time and not get caught. It's the men that can only be turned on by quality women ie intelligent, sensitive, good looking that either never cheat ( because that's hard to find a woman with all that to fuck a married man) or when they do, it's not easy to shake a woman like that and your wife will find out.
it's this fucking industry that is fucking me up, working fulltime and moving out of Canada makes it hard as hell to meet quality girls.. I USE to be one of those guys that pickedup lots of girls in university or out at bars..
Like one guy said, just talk to them, make them like you, and leave, 9 out of 10 girls will chase you down wanting you to call them.
However, I will share one secret because I'am out of the loop lately..
Pretty Girls just want to hear they are smart
Smart Girls just want to hear they are pretty
don't use pickup lines, look them right in the eye, and if you get stuck for something to say just ask them to 'tell me about yourself' and let them talk. Buy them alcohol.
Be very bold. Even if they say they're offended, they like it.
I think what people are saying is that although you need to "be yourself", yourself needs a little upgrade. Get some confidence when dealing with girls. Smile, loosen up (you always stand very still), and at least try to look like you're having a good time. Your body language will communicate much more than your mouth ever will. Practice practice practice! (I'm still practicing!) People will notice, and will respond. And that will build your confidence so you can do better next time.
That's when "not caring" comes in. You'll be so intent on having a good time, just hanging out with people, that you won't hardly notice if a girl starts fawning over you.
And that's when you've got her in the palm of your hand.
Been more than a decade since I was having sex with different women all the time. Gotta say that after having been married, even though it didn't work out, going out and banging different women all the time just doesn't appeal as much as it used to. More interested in taking the time to find someone worth spending quality time with than which chick I can get in the sack at the end of the night.
Not to say that short term relationships, one night stands, fuck buddies are bad or are something I wouldn't ever do anymore. Just that it isn't the focus of what's important anymore.
Originally posted by TheEnforcer Not to say that short term relationships, one night stands, fuck buddies are bad or are something I wouldn't ever do anymore. Just that it isn't the focus of what's important anymore.
This is something that's very very hard for guys under, say, 35 to understand. The best part of a good woman isn't really her pussy and good relationships aren't just about 24/7 sex. It just seems that way when you're young
Look at them when you are taking to them. Be confident. Play hard to get. Girls don't have a problem getting laid, so throwing yourself at them won't make them want you. They'll want a challenge.
Heh, yeah... I think that'll be coming off pretty soon. It's annoying anyway.
Confidence is the key it seems. That's pretty much what everyone agrees on.
Guess I'm doomed
I don't know what your goal is but I doubt it's to spend a lifetime scoring hoochies down at the local hoochie-rama...
The key is being who you are. There is showey confidence like most of the people in this thread are talking about ( which I and a lot of other people believe to be low self-esteem) and then there is REAL confidence that is much less in your face but SO MUCH more real. If you are a socially akward person of substance and kindness, be that. Be proud. Be confident INSIDE. Forget all this outside garbage. Most of the people on this forum swim at the shallow end of the pool. You have to know there is a whole world away from this cesspool of people who have no inner direction. I think bragadocia, ego, arrogance, self-importance are all symptons of having no self esteem. If you're a nice guy, you are doing way better than most of the people in this world. That should make you proud.
Confidence isn't a contest of He Who Yells Loudest has the most, but an inner compass that keeps you on your own path. COnfidence gives me the ability to not follow the crowd. I can make difficult decisions that go against group thought. I can do what's right, not what gains me social status.
There is no reason not to have confidence... you always say you don't have any confidence, just work youself up to it before you go talk to a girl, even if you are uneasy with yourself, just pretend like you own the fucking world. Fake confidence.....
This is something that's very very hard for guys under, say, 35 to understand. The best part of a good woman isn't really her pussy and good relationships aren't just about 24/7 sex. It just seems that way when you're young
Originally posted by m00d It's men like you that make it hard to be a female in this society. Eye contact means they are remotely interested? Are you insane?
Should every gay man that you happen to make eye contact with assume you are interested?
I think that you and I are talking about different eye contact
Im talking of the one where she looks at you, shes smiling
and when you look at her again, shes also looking at you again
Ok, I turn 50 next month, and love to play with hotties.
When I go out by myself or with my cutie girlfriend to pick up cuties to take home, we use the two secrets that every professional salesman knows:
1- It's a numbers game...so many no's lead up to a YES
2- Persistence and luck, and those that are persistent always get lucky.
3 - women think about, talk about and have more sex than guys...imagine how much that is...they just want guys that are confident to tell them they are hot and that you want to rock their world.
well, i could write a book on courting women, but if you just want to pickup girls to fuck you will be dealing with the lowest type of female.
1. the girls that are into sport fucking in these modern days of killer STDs are generally not worthy conquests.
2. women in general want love and security, they give up sex in exchange for that idea. they are attracted to guys with some status or power. the average looking business owner will attract a better quality female than the tom cruise bike messenger.
3. if you are average or better in looks, can communicate intelligently, are polite and respectful you are 3 strikes ahead.
4. if you want to get laid often by quality chicks, do not hang out in bars, hang out at the university library, the exclusive racquet ball court, etc. or any place that denotes your stature by virtue of you being in that place---girls know that any dull normal can walk into a bar, and the best chicks do not hang out in bars because of that.
5. be direct. look directly at the girl with a little smile, if she smiles back walk over to her. tell her your name, tell her she is the most beautiful girl you've seen all day, and you just wanted to hear her voice. try to do this to every girl that smiles back at you. if there is any chemistry at all things can develop very fast and you will have LOTS of women to choose from.
This is something that's very very hard for guys under, say, 35 to understand. The best part of a good woman isn't really her pussy and good relationships aren't just about 24/7 sex. It just seems that way when you're young
I agree 100%.....I can't believe I just said that.
As much as I like to help the guy, you just dont post link like that in a public place like this.
Didnt you forget the rule? You DO NOT talk about fight club!!!
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Originally posted by MaskedMan What's your secret? And I don't mean the ones who have a girl who puts out.
I mean the ones who just go out every night and bring a different girl home when ever they so choose.
How do you do it?
there is prolly like 2 guys on whole motherfucking GFY than can do this!!! And 1/2 goes out and pays'm for sex. So that just leaves me! Just stick ur dick out when bitches see big cock they can't resist it!
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