I know this isn't exactly the board for this kind of topic. I'm just throwing this out to see if anyone else has ever came to this crossroad to see if ya have any info to help in our decision.
Me and my wife decided that after our last child, 3 children was enough for us and it'd be best for my wife to get her tubes tied, since we had our 2 boys and 1 girl, so she did.
Well, now that baby is now 2 years old (girl) that has two brothers (6 and 11) and we're both only turning 30 this year. My brother just had a baby a short while back and it's getting us to thinking.
My wife has strong ties with her sisters and was feeling bad that our youngest will never get to feel those ties since she won't have a sister, so now we're debating on having another child, but we can't.
On one hand there's reverse tubal which would cost a few thousand, but it'd be worth it. However, there's no promise that we'd have a girl, if we had another boy, that'd be great, but we'd be shooting for a girl. One other thing that worries us is that all 3 of our children turned out fine without any problems, we wonder if a 4th could be the one that something would go wrong.
Then there's adoption. We could find a needy baby girl that needs a loving home which would be perfect, but then there's the worries of "Will it be strange raising a child that's not from us", she wouldn't have mom's eyes or dad's ears. I wonder if that'd take away from it. I suppose that the love would be there, that'd be the main thing rite ?
What are your ideas ??
Me and my wife decided that after our last child, 3 children was enough for us and it'd be best for my wife to get her tubes tied, since we had our 2 boys and 1 girl, so she did.
Well, now that baby is now 2 years old (girl) that has two brothers (6 and 11) and we're both only turning 30 this year. My brother just had a baby a short while back and it's getting us to thinking.
My wife has strong ties with her sisters and was feeling bad that our youngest will never get to feel those ties since she won't have a sister, so now we're debating on having another child, but we can't.
On one hand there's reverse tubal which would cost a few thousand, but it'd be worth it. However, there's no promise that we'd have a girl, if we had another boy, that'd be great, but we'd be shooting for a girl. One other thing that worries us is that all 3 of our children turned out fine without any problems, we wonder if a 4th could be the one that something would go wrong.
Then there's adoption. We could find a needy baby girl that needs a loving home which would be perfect, but then there's the worries of "Will it be strange raising a child that's not from us", she wouldn't have mom's eyes or dad's ears. I wonder if that'd take away from it. I suppose that the love would be there, that'd be the main thing rite ?
What are your ideas ??
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