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Originally posted by fatal attraction
 I'm stuck with this nickname, on the boards!
Thanks your input....REALLY!! I think I needed to hear those words "or someone winds up dead" to remind me.
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One of my best girlfriends is in a bad relationship..he's doing the classic things...separating her from family, then friends...making her embarrassed to tell anyone what's going on...blaming her for his actions...always apologizing after an attack and promising never to do it again...acting jealous and possessive...always accusing her of lying or cheating. It's textbook, and I have talked to her, shown her statistics, pointed out that if she got pregnant, it would probably get worse and hurt or kill her baby...asked her if she would want anybody she loves in that kind of relationship...but she doesn't ever leave for more than a few days. It's a sickness. On both sides. The abuser has to be in control and wield the power, and the victim feels like if she only shows him she loves him by staying, she can change or fix him. It's horrible to watch, because the helplessness breaks your heart, and if the worst does happen, everybody who knew how bad it was will never forgive themselves for not doing SOMETHING...even though there is little, if anything, they could have done..
I hope everything works out for you or whomever the question was in reference to. <hugs>