Play safe and use whitehat referral spam.
That is where you make a links page with about 7.5 milion links on it and pay $5 Submission's people to click on each one for you daily.
Then when the site owners come looking they will see a real link and go away happy without adding you to the blacklist. They may even give you a perm link back.
*cough* Not really, Don't try this at home
