I have never admited this to anyone else, so this is a private issue for me. I last less than 1 minute when having sex with a girl. Last night I had sex with this girl I had met last week, and after just 5 strokes (30 seconds) I came. It was very embarasing. This has happened to me every single time since I started having sex. How do pornstars go for so long? What can I do? I am willing to take medication if it will fix it.
My very private confession to GFY. I ejaculate in less than 1 minute. HELP.
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When you jerk off, do it for 30 minutes+ and don't cum at all some of the time. When I got head for the first time in high school, the same thing happend to me. I realized that every time I beat off I was just trying to cum as fast as possible, and when I finally got action from a chick, I couldn't hold back. Never happend again after I started doing what I suggested above.Comment
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I did jerk off the day before, I figured that would be sufficent. Isnt that sufficewnt? or does it have to be a few hours before? plus what if i dont know im gonna have sex, and therefore not jerk off, there has to be a better more permenant fix out there.Originally posted by spunky1
Jerk off before you have sex...never go in with a loaded weapon
im wondering what is normal for most guys if they dont jerk off the same day. how long would it take you to ejaculate?
i can go on forever when getting a blowjob, but with penetration, its a minute.
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unfortunatly this is true manOriginally posted by MrPheer
If this is true, its pretty sad
If this is a joke, its pretty funny

im so frustrated about this. i can get alot of girls, but now i dont even want to. this is too embarasing.SexSearchComment
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take a rubberband and put it on the base of your shaft after you get hard. It will stop the semen from oooozzzzzing. THen when your ready to blow cut the rubberband
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Then he wouldn't get hard. Go to your doc... millions of people go through this and maybe there is medication or the doc will tell you or send you to someone who specializes in premature ejaculation.Originally posted by Monk
think about baseball
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I trying to wak off when your drunk and it takes like 2 fucking hours to bust a nutOriginally posted by irishfury
Drink as much alchol as you can the fuck
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yes, when im drunk, it takes me along time, so i know this is all mental, but the problem is i cant get drunk everytime i want to have sex. i need a permenant solutionOriginally posted by irishfury
Drink as much alchol as you can then fuck
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stick it in and start stroking...when you feel like you're gonna cum...pull it out for a second...lick on her titties for a second or something...then stick it back in...stroke some more...if you feel like you gonna nut again...pull it out and hold on for a second...after you do this just a few times or so you start to get used to the feeling more of being in there and can enjoy it more and keep going longer each time...pretty soon you can go for hours. and start off in the driver's seat...dont let her hop on top of you and control everything at first if you have a problem of busting early. and dont worry about the girl getting upset or impatient with you stopping a few times at first...cuz she will be happy with the result later on when you're fucking the shit out of her. just work with your own method of what i just explained and it will work trust me. i used to cum hella quick too but now i fuck real good. its just mental control too pretty much thats all it is.Comment
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i feel sorry for fools who are sitting there fucking a beautiful woman and all they're thinking about is baseball and ham sandwiches and unsexy shit...why the hell would you do that and ruin the whole experience? enjoy that shit! and dont jerk off before sex...what the fuck is that? "excuse me honey...dont move...ill be right back ima go wack it in the bathroom real quick..." lmfaoComment
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Originally posted by StickyGreen
"excuse me honey...dont move...ill be right back ima go wack it in the bathroom real quick..." lmfao
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Originally posted by AsylumN
I have never admited this to anyone else, so this is a private issue for me. I last less than 1 minute when having sex with a girl. Last night I had sex with this girl I had met last week, and after just 5 strokes (30 seconds) I came. It was very embarasing. This has happened to me every single time since I started having sex. How do pornstars go for so long? What can I do? I am willing to take medication if it will fix it.
Have her suck you off first, or just get a sex change.Comment
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I guess you are pretty young. If this is the case, don't worry -- you simply need to practice and practice ... and practice. The good thing: practicing sex is fun
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hahaaaaOriginally posted by MetaMan
buy a bottle of penis pills,
snort around 5 pills.
rub your balls with liquid cement.
shoot an electic pulse into your chode.
u will NEVER have this problem again.
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Hit me up on icq. 3522039. I can share some articles and techniques with you that should not only help your ejactulation difficulty, but can also increase your all-around stamina
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All about control, gotta learn to control yourself during sex. Like someone said earlier in this thread, when you jerk off you're just looking to cum as fast as possible. So when the real deal comes you're used to coming right off the bat and it sucks. Practice makes perfect.
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Shit, I wish I were a minute man. I go for hours at a shot, and in condoms, forget about itm it just doesn't cum. Be happy with being able to crank one out in under a minute!WickedFire.com - Stay here. We don't need more of you. Not unless you have money, then, fine...Comment
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Wear a condom with desensitizing cream in it. Durex makes a condom called "Maintain" most of the other major brands carry one as well. They also have a cream if you are going bareback but im not sure if that desensitizes the woman as well.
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here's your solution.Originally posted by Rich
When you jerk off, do it for 30 minutes+ and don't cum at all some of the time. When I got head for the first time in high school, the same thing happend to me. I realized that every time I beat off I was just trying to cum as fast as possible, and when I finally got action from a chick, I couldn't hold back. Never happend again after I started doing what I suggested above.Comment
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Alright, this article was written with Multiple Male Orgasms in mind, however the same technique is used in order to increase stamina and help to control premature ejaculation. I suspect in this case the nervousness and lack of confidence are also highly contributing factors... As for the rest of you, enjoy.
It is truly possible for a man to have multiple orgasms without ejaculation, and I know this to be a fact, because my mate has done it. It?s something that any man can do with time, lots of practice, and the right attitude. There?s several different techniques of achieving multiple male orgasms, and many are very in depth, so I?m not going to cover them here. Tantric techniques are widely viewed as the best way, but you?ll have to do some of your own research on the web and elsewhere if you want to follow up these methods. Try typing ?sex techniques, multiple male orgasm? into a search engine, I came up with a ton of results. For myself, and my mate, we decided to try a different approach to this matter. It?s a little more based on physical control rather than completely mental, but in essence, the same goal is achieved. A man can either do it on his own, with a partner?s help, or a combination of the two.
First, you must locate your pubococcegeal muscles. This is a very simple exercise. When you are urinating, try to stop the flow of urine. The muscle that controls that flow is your pubococcegeal muscle, otherwise known as the pc muscle. By clenching and squeezing and then releasing this muscle, just like any other muscle workout, over time it will strengthen the control you have over it. This exercise is called a keigel, and it?s also very effective for women as well. Keep trying at it. Really it?s just like any other workout. It?s probably best to start with say 10 reps of 5 squeezes a day, but my partner and I both do it all day long. It?s one of those exercises you can do anywhere?sitting at the office, on the computer, driving in your car, wherever. Keep working with it, and it will help you to control ejaculation as well. Experiment with this control while masturbating. If it doesn?t work, just keep trying, and eventually you should be able to control your ejaculation quite well.
To have a partner help, have them stroke you almost to orgasm, and make sure to let them know to stop JUST as you feel like you're about to ejaculate. As you reach this point, you squeeze your pc muscle, and also, have your partner gently pinch the head of your penis, not enough to hurt, but to sort of squeeze off the penis, with the thumb on the ridge between the head and the shaft. Hold for about 5 seconds, or as long as it takes to control the urge to ejaculate, and start the process over again. This is also a very good technique for people who have problems with premature ejaculation, as it teaches them to have control over when they ejaculate, and can help them to overcome the problem. Eventually, you can work yourself up to the point where you can have the orgasm without the ejaculation, and it can happen again and again, with you cumming ONLY when you?re ready. Believe me, it?s a very fulfilling skill, for BOTH partners involved.
No matter what happens, don?t get down on yourself, keep a positive attitude, and even if you never have the multiple o, you will still benefit from the control you can learn in order to help please both your partner, and yourself, more often, and for longer periods of time. Have fun, and do please enjoy!
It may seem involved, but the payoff in the end is WELL worth the effort you put into it if you really try hard. Don't let yourself get discouraged! Good luck.Comment
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Originally posted by AsylumN
yes, when im drunk, it takes me along time, so i know this is all mental, but the problem is i cant get drunk everytime i want to have sex. i need a permenant solution
yeah dont try it if you have a perm. partner cause you'll end up alcoholic :-)Comment
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Originally posted by LadyMischief
Alright, this article was written with Multiple Male Orgasms in mind, however the same technique is used in order to increase stamina and help to control premature ejaculation. I suspect in this case the nervousness and lack of confidence are also highly contributing factors... As for the rest of you, enjoy.
It is truly possible for a man to have multiple orgasms without ejaculation, and I know this to be a fact, because my mate has done it. It?s something that any man can do with time, lots of practice, and the right attitude. There?s several different techniques of achieving multiple male orgasms, and many are very in depth, so I?m not going to cover them here. Tantric techniques are widely viewed as the best way, but you?ll have to do some of your own research on the web and elsewhere if you want to follow up these methods. Try typing ?sex techniques, multiple male orgasm? into a search engine, I came up with a ton of results. For myself, and my mate, we decided to try a different approach to this matter. It?s a little more based on physical control rather than completely mental, but in essence, the same goal is achieved. A man can either do it on his own, with a partner?s help, or a combination of the two.
First, you must locate your pubococcegeal muscles. This is a very simple exercise. When you are urinating, try to stop the flow of urine. The muscle that controls that flow is your pubococcegeal muscle, otherwise known as the pc muscle. By clenching and squeezing and then releasing this muscle, just like any other muscle workout, over time it will strengthen the control you have over it. This exercise is called a keigel, and it?s also very effective for women as well. Keep trying at it. Really it?s just like any other workout. It?s probably best to start with say 10 reps of 5 squeezes a day, but my partner and I both do it all day long. It?s one of those exercises you can do anywhere?sitting at the office, on the computer, driving in your car, wherever. Keep working with it, and it will help you to control ejaculation as well. Experiment with this control while masturbating. If it doesn?t work, just keep trying, and eventually you should be able to control your ejaculation quite well.
To have a partner help, have them stroke you almost to orgasm, and make sure to let them know to stop JUST as you feel like you're about to ejaculate. As you reach this point, you squeeze your pc muscle, and also, have your partner gently pinch the head of your penis, not enough to hurt, but to sort of squeeze off the penis, with the thumb on the ridge between the head and the shaft. Hold for about 5 seconds, or as long as it takes to control the urge to ejaculate, and start the process over again. This is also a very good technique for people who have problems with premature ejaculation, as it teaches them to have control over when they ejaculate, and can help them to overcome the problem. Eventually, you can work yourself up to the point where you can have the orgasm without the ejaculation, and it can happen again and again, with you cumming ONLY when you?re ready. Believe me, it?s a very fulfilling skill, for BOTH partners involved.
No matter what happens, don?t get down on yourself, keep a positive attitude, and even if you never have the multiple o, you will still benefit from the control you can learn in order to help please both your partner, and yourself, more often, and for longer periods of time. Have fun, and do please enjoy!
It may seem involved, but the payoff in the end is WELL worth the effort you put into it if you really try hard. Don't let yourself get discouraged! Good luck.
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That's as summarized as it's going to getOriginally posted by MadCap
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Originally posted by jennycards
I guess you are pretty young. If this is the case, don't worry -- you simply need to practice and practice ... and practice. The good thing: practicing sex is fun
I am 25 years old. I think what started this problem is that i started having sex for the first time when i was 22, and so before then i had always jerked off (not alot, just 2-3 times a week) but i would jerk off real quick and it would last just a couple of minutes, and so my body got used to it. now i am the same way when i have sex.SexSearchComment
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You're welcome.. They are VERY effectiveOriginally posted by AsylumN
thank you much ladymischief. i had head about kiegel excercies, but i just dont know how effective they are.
I wish you the best of luck. I think part of the problem for you is you seem to be VERY shy. That can make things worse.
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i use to be very shy, but not anymore. i get girls numbers all the time, but i am very timid now on pursuing it too much because of my problemOriginally posted by LadyMischief
You're welcome.. They are VERY effective
I wish you the best of luck. I think part of the problem for you is you seem to be VERY shy. That can make things worse.
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yeah, dude you have to strengthin your penis muscle.. it makes a big difference.. and when your jerking off, pretend that your fucking a girl (which im sure you do), and just try holding out... practice makes perfect.. reward yourself with a cookie each time you stop ejaculation, while continuing to jerk.. its all about practice man..
i remember the first girl i ever had sex with, lol.. i cummed in like 2min.. i pulled one of those (i gotta go to the bathroom) and i went there, changed my condom, and came back.. she never knew i cam so early.. lol.. but now i can go forever.. and when i do bust.. its quite a bust
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Yeah.. worrying about it makes it worseOriginally posted by AsylumN
i use to be very shy, but not anymore. i get girls numbers all the time, but i am very timid now on pursuing it too much because of my problem
Vicious circle.
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