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actually I prayed and am engaged to that girl you were talking about who is a virgin who saved herself for the right guy.
Being in the seminary for 7 years I do think I have some qualifications for speak up here.
Why not take the approach of not sleeping with every piece of carpet out there? Simply put, not too many people want commitment anymore and prefer the "fast food" approach to relationships. Those who do want commitment are smart enough to first find a 'friend' - someone who is compatable outside the bedroom (*since marriage means more than free sex)
Is premarital sex wrong? If you are a religious person, then 'yes', if you simply want to avoid std's then wear a friggin condom and practise safe sex. Biblical opinion on premarital sex had nothing to do with diseases in as much as the social stigmatism of not being pure - and the females value in land / cattle etc. would decline if she wasnt pure.
remember, when the bible was written, women were treated as property and could easily be divorced by saying it 3x's "I divorce you" - today, it is a good idea only to show the person you really feel is "the one" for you that you are not the person to cheat on them and be unfaithful in marriage simply because when you were not married, you were able to control yourself.
And we all know how many marriages today are broken up by sleeping around. But please, do not throw the bible at us pushing ethics and morals without understanding it...especially when the more important issue is not whether someone is sleeping around - but whether they beleive the bible and God to begin with
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