A good analogy is;
Monkey see, monkey do.
If you do not get listed, have a look at 2 dozen or so sites which are listed. Go back and look at your site, see if any changes are needed.
Then go back and refresh yourself on the rules of the site.
Usually there are a couple of things, that can be changed.
Next perform a quick test on both netscape and IE, see how the page/site looks
It does you no good if your site loads perfectly in IE 5 and the reviewer has netscape, and your site looks perfectly screwed up in that browser
Check for mouseovers some sites don't allow them.
Now make sure you are not trying to get listed with sponsor provided content.
Most big link sites have seen this, and won't list you
If you are still having no luck, then post a url for other webmasters to help you out. Usually you will get some advice that helps.
Be patient, it has taken experienced webmasters many months to learn what they know and no one knows everything. Don't expect to get it the first time, but if you do, consider yourself a lot smarter than most of us
Last, if you are not getting listed by XYZsite.Com, going to a bbs and calling them a &%$#& will most definitely be a good way of having your ip and email put on the ignore list.
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