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I've been married twice Juicy.
Yes, everything changes in your relationship. Some of it good some of it bad.
You are the last person I would suggest to get married. Don't even go there. Don't even get close. Your personality is not the type that will be able to deal with the day in and day out aspects of it.
The number one reason for failure is unrealistic expectations. People think its going to be this magical kingdom and it turns into Pirates of the Caribeean or the Haunted House.
Some people are lucky and its great. But those are far and few between.
On my last divorce, because we have a child you have to go to a 4 hour class required by state law down here to learn how to minimalize the impact of the process on your child or children.
There were about 100 people in my class. About 80 were women. I've never felt so much hostile energy in one place in my life.
When the teacher asked "How many of you would like to KILL your ex right now if you could get away with it?" Every female hand in the room shot into the air like a Gestapo salute. These women were filled with anger, hate, vengence, and who knows what else. They all had that psycho wife look.
I said to myself, I got to get the fuck out of here before some of these women start having Vietnam style flashbacks and think the guys in the rooms are their ex's.
Scary shit. I'll never forget it.
The worst part these were all women in my age range in the single market again. I walked thinking no way in hell will I hook up with a divorcee, especially one in their 40's.
I loved being married. My ex got burned out after being together for almost 15 years. She couldn't deal with the mother aspect of it and just wanted to be a free spirit again.
It drained me emotionally for 2 years while I tried every way I could to revive it. All to no avail in the long run.
But we're friends now and get along fine. So go figure.
But it would have to take someone very, very, very special to go down the aisle again.
I love being single now at this stage of my life.
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