I equate getting back with an ex, like finding an old pair of your shoes in the closet,
you like the way they look
when you put them on, they fit your feet good
however after you start to walk in them for a while, your feet start to hurt
when you wake up the next morning, you have blisters all over your feet, your ankles hurt, and you remember why you got rid of the shoes in the first place
I guess you really loved her then.
It normally takes half the time you lived together to really get over someone. So in your case, 2 1/2 years. Of course, the pain wears off...the tail-end of the 2 1/2 years is nothing compared to the first months, as I'm sure it's much easier for you to handle now than it was a year ago.
Originally posted by Rip I equate getting back with an ex, like finding an old pair of your shoes in the closet,
you like the way they look
when you put them on, they fit your feet good
however after you start to walk in them for a while, your feet start to hurt
when you wake up the next morning, you have blisters all over your feet, your ankles hurt, and you remember why you got rid of the shoes in the first place
Sit down in the middle of the room.....liquer within reach and
play:
Paul Weller - You do something to me
Elvis Costello - I want you
and ANY slow blues by Stevie Ray Vaughn
Never forget that feeling.
DynaMite
Shit, Dyna, after breaking up with my ex after 10 years, "I want you" by Costello still freaks me right out. That song is heavy...it's been 12 years now, and I still get goosebumps when I hear it
Originally posted by [Labret] replace love with rage. It is easier to hate.
Works for me.
i have, and do. my drive is fucking huge - i built my business to something i couldn't have imagined previously... rage works, it's the aftermath that sucks.
Originally posted by quiet i still miss my ex gf, and it's been almost a full year. wtf?
fucking pathetic.
know what you're going through, going through the same thing, from about a year ago. not sure what to do here, because we've been talking again, not sure what i want to do though.
These things are the hardest to deal with. The best solution is to move on, however difficult it may seem. And whatever you do, don't blame yourself or your business for what happened. If you were meant to be together, she would have stayed by your side through everything.
I still miss some of my exes, and it's been years. Quite a few years, really. When you love someone, there is a piece of you that is only for them. That piece doesn't go away, it just gets buried. There's nothing wrong with still having feelings.
Rage just fills the wide gap the other half left when it was over.
I always felt that everyone that has walked through my path had a special meaning - whether I despised them afterwards or not, everything happens for a reason. Understanding why things played out the way they did and where it 'went wrong' or what was fantastic about it, will usually allow you to make peace with the outcome and helps you recognize history repeating itself or missed opportunities and make you change your gameplan accordingly.
BTW, keep the power and drive of the 'rage' and just lose the anger and everything works out for the best.
quiet,
As you can see, most of the posts were from men, all of which understood where you were coming from.
I think we'd all prefer to see ya happy. I think we can all remember that feeling.
I can send you a band-aid - but I don't spit :-)
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It took me almost 2 years to get over my ex. I still think of her everyday, after a while you just remember the good things and not remember so many of the bad.
I remember when it had only been a year since we broke up, I was in the same boat as you. I could'nt figure out why the hell I was still upset.
fuck is this weak. here i am, spit in my wound. probably your only chance
No, thanks, I'm not that low. Besides, self-pity does'nt really suit you.
Look at your bank account, allocate a little cash into a seperate account and go on a chautauqua. Only way to heal is to be yourself by yourself with the world, as it is, enveloping who you used to be.
I was going to post something like "I know what you feel or I would feel the same" but... I'm with my first girlfriend. The first and the only.
I miss her, but it's because of the fucking distance. Friday I'll fly to there (3000km / ~ 1600 miles) and stay 20 or more days. I can't wait to move...
i have, and do. my drive is fucking huge - i built my business to something i couldn't have imagined previously... rage works, it's the aftermath that sucks.
Sounds like you need a trip to the Greek islands, a few phatties, a few hotties, a few drinks with fruity things hangin out of them, etc....
....as for the time factor....I had a break up experience in the past...lived with her for 2+ years, almost got married, etc...
...took roughly a year until some of that 'damm what the HELL did I do' to wear off...
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Sounds like you were married, more or less. Ending a relationship that long is like having a part of your soul chewed off by hell-boars, especially if you weren't the one who wanted it to end. Loneliness is a totally normal feeling to have only a year later. But relationships that long end because they fucking have to, not because people want them to. A part of you will probably always miss the good parts of the relationship. Totally normal.
If you met someone who's business burned down and they were fucking broke, nothing left--what would you tell them to do? Cry your eyes out for a while, close that chapter of the book (cuz it's over) and then get your ass back in gear to start again and build something better. Friends help. Maybe meet some new blood and energy in graduate school. Good luck.
'Words
Words and expressions
All these confessions
Of where we stand
How I see you
And you see me
Dedications of symmetry
Together we will be
forever.
Promises are shit
We speak the way we breathe
Present air will have to do
Rearrange and see it through
Stupid fucking words
They tangle us in our desires
Free me from this give and take
Free me from this great debate
There were no truer words than when spoken
Let that stand as it should
There was nothing left when broken
We grab anything when we fall
Promises are shit
Stupid fucking words
They tangle us in our desires
Free me from this give and take
Free me from this great debate
You will do what you do
I will do what I do
We will do what we do
Rearrange and see it through
Go where you think you want to go
Do everything you were sent here for
Fire at will if you hear that call
Touch your hand to the wall at night
Promises. are only words.'</font>
nothing else to do but go outside and take a look around.
Originally posted by Funkito Ending a relationship that long is like having a part of your soul chewed off by hell-boars, especially if you weren't the one who wanted it to end.
to people who no longer want the relationship, REMAINING in it feels much the same I would assume, since they wanted out.
I had an ex that came and went twice. Last time I saw her was 8 months ago.... I still miss her. Strange thing was I told her I never wanted to see her again. I was wrong.
Shed prolly be here right now if I wasnt such a dickhead.
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