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The best advice I ever got in my life regarding relationships was from my dad. He said before getting angry regarding something stop and ask yourself just one question.
Will the circumstances regarding this situation matter to me in 10 years or will I even remember it?
If the answer is no drop it, it is not worth fighting for.
So that means....if your boy/friend/husband/ whatever beats the crap out of you, it WILL matter in 10 years and you need to deal with it.
If he leaves his dirty socks on the chair but breaks his ass providing for you....stop worrying about the socks...if he died tomorrow would you say "thank god he died, now I don't have to pick up his socks...or would you say "I would do anything in the world just to see his stupid socks on the chair again".
In other words, don't sweat the small stuff. When you are young, you tend to make a big deal out of everything. She could be stressed about the wedding, stressed about a lot of things.Last edited by wyldblyss; 01-09-2009, 01:28 PM.Comment
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I'd also like to say that I married UBER young... it was my choice... and the worst times of the marriage were ages 21-23... I just was not emotionally ready... and there was tons of fighting.
It had nothing to do with sex or wanting to date other people or "sewing oats"... it's just mentally hard to share responsibilities when you are just birthing into adulthood... It's really, really fucking hard.
I will be 25 in March.. and the relationship is probably an 8 or 9 on the 10 scale.. whereas when I was 21.. it was a 3-4.. lol
If you don't foresee her emotionally maturing or making an effort to work on making herself better.. then DUMP HER..
Also, make sure she's taking her birth control and you're pulling out.
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Yah, IME women always have a new cock waiting before they break off the relationship and move on leaving the guy dumbfounded.RED FLAG sorry if this has already been said as i haven't read the responses yet. i saw this and her "recent" behavior and knew immediately what was goin on here. SHE MET SOMEONE ELSE. not saying she has cheated YET. she is now comparing you to him and finding every fault she can with you to justify making a move forward (if she hasn't already) with this other dude. i'm tellin ya as if you were my lil bro, this is the case.
let's say for sake of arguement that i'm wrong (but i'm not). this is simple math boys: after you tie the noose/knot, take everything you love about a woman prior to marriage and divide those qualities by 10, that is what you have left of the good stuff. take everything that annoys you and makes you want to slit her throat and multiply that by 10. that is what you have left period. (except for with me, i am an angel *giggle*)
cut your losses sweetpea and live a little before you even think of settling down
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I wonder if he gave the same speech to your brother.The best advice I ever got in my life regarding relationships was from my dad. He said before getting angry regarding something stop and ask yourself just one question.
Will the circumstances regarding this situation matter to me in 10 years or will I even remember it?
If the answer is no drop it, it is not worth fighting for.Comment
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She took her ring off, that was the last straw.Comment
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It really sucks having spent so much time with her... things were good for the longest time but got way too sour.
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She was a great friend. She's moving out, I'm not sure how it's going to work but we're gradually going to drift apart into our own realm in independence.Comment
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Before you get married at age 21, you NEED to listen to Tom Leykis's show. Trust me just listen.
http://www.blowmeuptom.com/.Comment
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From man to man...
Fuck that shit!
Every man who gets married should expect a few "tests" in that period right before you get hitched, but what she did is a deal breaker - no matter how much history you two have. IF she respected the relationship and the commitment that you two were about to embark upon, stuff like this would never happen.
And don't fall for the kiss-ass period when she realizes that she fucked up. Run, not walk, away!
Disappear if you can - Take an extended vacation or live with a buddy or a family member out of state for a month. Clear your head by getting some distance from the situation. Remember that it doesn't matter how much you value the relationship, if she doesn't think that it's worth anything, it's not going to work - no matter how hard you try.

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Oh I know, she did it almost instantly. She's moving out and signing a note of promise for the money she owes me.From man to man...
Fuck that shit!
Every man who gets married should expect a few "tests" in that period right before you get hitched, but what she did is a deal breaker - no matter how much history you two have. IF she respected the relationship and the commitment that you two were about to embark upon, stuff like this would never happen.
And don't fall for the kiss-ass period when she realizes that she fucked up. Run, not walk, away!
Disappear if you can - Take an extended vacation or live with a buddy or a family member out of state for a month. Clear your head by getting some distance from the situation. Remember that it doesn't matter how much you value the relationship, if she doesn't think that it's worth anything, it's not going to work - no matter how hard you try.Comment
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She is smarter than you.
You just thought they were . . . . they weren't.
About time.Comment
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Mr. Right, maybe so because of this experience, but not so pussy for not giving in to her pleads to stay?Comment
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Your dad sounds like a fucking loser.Originally Posted by wyldblyss
The best advice I ever got in my life regarding relationships was from my dad. He said before getting angry regarding something stop and ask yourself just one question.
Will the circumstances regarding this situation matter to me in 10 years or will I even remember it?
If the answer is no drop it, it is not worth fighting for.
Best advice he could give you is not to fight and just roll over?
Anyway, if the photo posted earlier in this thread is real, the OP should hang his head in shame for bringing here so much drama about some fatass skank.Last edited by Mr.Right - Banned For Life; 01-10-2009, 03:14 PM.Comment
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Don't look back.
Don't give her any reason to have to contact you or "stay in touch". Tell her thanks, but no thanks.
It WILL hurt. It will be tough. It will be tempting to keep ties and be "friends", but it is better from your perspective to drop everything cold turkey.
Conniving behavior such as what you have experienced must not be rewarded. She does not deserve your time or your patience in any manner shape or form.
Now is the time to get your best buds around you too. You will be tempted to take it easy and give her some leeway. Give your buds the permission to give you a firm slap in the face if they see that happening.
Good luck and learn the lesson. Replay the "signs" in your head, write them down and/or put them into long term memory. It'll save you a lot of trouble later.
Oh yeah, get some new pussy as soon as possible.Last edited by eroticsexxx; 01-10-2009, 06:35 PM.

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You're 21 and she's 20
You need to get your butt over here so I can kick you in the head.
21 - bad age for having a fiancee cause you're both still newbies
hehe maybe you're just trying to give the forum a good laugh.Comment
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listen to the man..Don't look back.
Don't give her any reason to have to contact you or "stay in touch". Tell her thanks, but no thanks.
It WILL hurt. It will be tough. It will be tempting to keep ties and be "friends", but it is better from your perspective to drop everything cold turkey.
Conniving behavior such as what you have experienced must not be rewarded. She does not deserve your time or your patience in any manner shape or form.
Now is the time to get your best buds around you too. You will be tempted to take it easy and give her some leeway. Give your buds the permission to give you a firm slap in the face if they see that happening.
Good luck and learn the lesson. Replay the "signs" in your head, write them down and/or put them into long term memory. It'll save you a lot of trouble later.
Oh yeah, get some new pussy as soon as possible.
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i learned to keep my mouth shut and not criticize either way its my dick that gets up frustrated and unappreciated first. i just let it do all the thinking for meComment
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If it's like this now it's going to get A LOT worse as you two mature in different ways. Of course there is always an exception to the rule but couples that start this young never make it past 30 and that assumes that at your age it's the blissful years which sounds like it isn't for you. Do yourselves both a favor and get out now, give yourself a chance to have a happy and fulfilling relationship while you still can..20 almost 21. I know I'm young, but I've known her for about 8 years.
I've been in trouble for:
- Not wanting to hang out with her friends > I end up going anyway.
- Making fun of her for raiding her friend's fridge.
- Various arguments over her not doing enough work around the place (like we're talking she got an extra week of vacation and all I asked her to do is paint the bedroom with me. It's Friday now ......HURRR??
- She almost broke up with me last night ... at the end of it all, she's like now you know how it feels. (HURRR! I'm confused!)
EDIT! EDIT MOTHERFUCKA! >>> SHE ENDS THE NIGHT SAYING LEAVE ME ALONE UNTIL THE MORNING I'LL GET OVER IT!.... I TOLD HER I'LL BRAINSTORM NEW WAYS TO FIGHT FOR THE REST OF THE WEEK!
It's one of those relationships, we have history and a lot of good history, but all this bullshit surfaced just recently.
The thing is, she'll never break up with me, she needs me and I can't count how much I've supported her. Don't get me wrong, she does things for me, we're not even talking sexual either..... how long has it been? Who knows!
All I know is that if I break up with her it'll suck because we have a decent history minus now. But no more financial burden, emotional burden and I'll actually have time to work on my sites.
Yeah one more thing, do you think it's bad that I want to spend time on my sites? I mean it seems like she wants to do something every day and I can't get steady time on my work without interruption lol!
Love the girl, just not so sure it's right.Comment




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