Originally Posted by Rochard

Many years ago our best friend, who had moved across the country, came to visit us with her new fiance. This guy was a complete douchebag. They got shit faced on the plane, and drove to our house with open containers. The entire weekend they were both smashed. His parents were filthy rich in one of a handful of cities in Montana. They were part of the "social elite". He worked "summers running his landscaping business". He was ridiculous. This was our best friend - she is the god mother of our child - and I had to say to something. This was in a time before email, so I sent her a letter telling her this was a huge mistake. In return she sent me a card with cartoon picture of a huge cock. We went to her wedding - my wife was in the wedding party - and we never ever spoke of it.

A year later she called me up asking for computer help. She said she was cleaning and "knocked over the computer monitor". After forty-five minutes of "technical support" we came to the conclusion that her husband threw the monitor at her after beating her, and that both of them were complete alcoholics. She got a divorce, and years later we are still good friends and looking forward to seeing he and her (new) husband this spring.

My point is.... If you stand by and let your friend make a huge mistake, you aren't a friend. If you are both really friends you need to say something or do something. If your friendship is strong enough it will survive, if not you weren't really friends. But if you do nothing you most likely regret it for the rest of your life.