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Originally posted by tootie
Well, it would help your case ALOT if you were 25 and a virgin. No, I'm not kidding. If you tell a girl you have never had a girlfriend but you HAVE had sex, then she will think you're a "player" and aren't serious. Why did you have sex if you weren't dating the girl? It's really none of MY business, and you don't have to answer that, but I want you to think about it yourself. Seriously. But don't lie about it. What's done is done and honesty is very important.
And don't worry about being shy. I am a woman who happens to think shy guys are very sexy. I know there are other girls out there like me. Find one. 
Be very open, very honest, and most importantly, don't just talk about yourself. Ask her questions about HER. Act like SHE is the center of the world. Be a perfect gentleman, treat her like gold and LISTEN to her. Be a friend, but don't be TOO nice or she might walk all over you later. If you're nice enough, the truly nice girls will probably ask YOU out. They'll respond to you if they think you're really interested but too shy to do anything about it.
Good luck!
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HORRIBLE HORRIBLE ADVICE!
Lesson #1: Do NOT take advice ABOUT women FROM women!
Tootie, you probably had great intentions but you're setting him up to be played. You're probably an expert at getting men, but as a woman you probably don't have a clue what it takes to pickup women. Hell, what do I know about picking up men? Exactly
Now, onto the other lesson material:
#2) Approach, approach, approach
The best way to get over your intimidation of women is to talk to as many of them as possible. If you're very intimidated, go into stores and talk to girls working there, it's easier and safer for you. Once you've done that a while, talk to girls you meet on the street. Just throw in random comments that are relevant to the situation, and take it from there.
The key is to talk to as MANY girls as possible, this will get you more comfortable with them very quickly.
#3) Work on yourself. Work out, dress nicer, get a haircut, whatever. Be the best you can be, basically
#4) The main goal for you is to rediscover your nature. Yeah I know, sounds queer, but what I mean is:
YOU'RE A MAN!
So act like one. Are men worried about approaching women? Are they intimidated by 160 pound girlies? Hell no.
Real men step up and take what they want. Go up to the girl, chat her up, ask for her number, meet her later, go for the kiss, etc... The key is to constantly approach and advance from there on, and you'll have a girlfriend soon enough. Don't be afraid to show women you want them and they turn you on, often they find that sexy too and believe me, they love the attention.
And about attention: Use it to your advantage. Girls crave attention and compliments, so give it to her and then withdraw it again. She will want more and do things to try and get it from you. DON'T cave too fast.
Basically, don't feed her ego too much, just enough to make her come back for more.
Some things you should NOT do:
Be the nice guy (they finish LAST)
Avoid being cocky with her or busting her balls a little bit (not too much!)
Give her too much attention (for instance, when you get a number, wait 3 days to call her - don't talk to her for hours on the phone, etc.)
Do NOT always be available
Etc
Women want MEN, not nice guys, not pussies, not wimps, not sissies, but MEN. Don't forget that and you'll get girls soon enough