about the "talking thing" --women love to talk. about themselves or their interests usually. steer the conversation in that direction and you won't have to worry too much about participation. just nod your head or mumble something when it seems like she waiting for a response from you. this will also help take some of the pressure off of you about saying something stupid ...
if she catches you not paying attention and asks "are you listening to me ?!" just say "I'm sorry. I was just noticing at how beautiful your eyes are ...". remember that phrase --you can get a lot of mileage out of it later in life. don't talk about your work on the first date or so. "wanna be on one of my web sites?" probably wouldn't be a good ice breaker either ...
