Originally Posted by bronco67

Because a lot of times when a couple doesn't have kids after a long time being married, it's not by choice. I went through it myself, and know personally a few others who needed IVF help, and one couple who had no choice but to adopt.

A question like that is more than casual. Do you want to be lied to ... or hear about someone's medical issues that they probably don't want to share -- and possibly ruin their day because of a dumb curiosity that could have been kept to yourself? I can't think of any other "casual" conversation subject that could be more sensitive and loaded ...other than asking someone how their childhood rape went.