Wal-Mart & child abuse

I totally believe in spanking a child when they need it, but I do NOT believe in doing that in public. There are other ways of handling it than hitting them in a public place, that embarrasses me and them. I am glad to say I am not ashamed to take my kids into a public place, BUT I do have to have a 5 year old that will SOMETIMES give me a little grief....... I completely ignore her fit and she will stop sooner or later when she sees it isn't getting her her way. If she already has something in the cart and starts a fit, it's put back on the shelf.......

I was beaten, and I mean beaten, to the point of needing medical care when I was younger by BOTH my parents, but I STILL believe a good swat on that ass will fix them IF needed. I try and do everything BUT that, but if all else fails, I will pop that ass for them.

99% of the time all I have to do with mine is TELL them they are about to get it and that stops it, but if they need it, they get one on the ass and that's IT. A child HAS to be TAUGHT discipline, they don't just come into the world KNOWING it and it is OUR jobs to teach them....... my kids have ALOT of freedoms, but they know their boundaries and what we expect of them and they USUALLY stay within those boundaries. NO they aren't angels, because they KNOW who is in charge, but they are all very good and well mannered kids and very charming and considerate with others..... so they are proof a good swat on the ass never killed anyone. LOL

BUT, having said all that, let someone else raise a hand to one of my children and ALL kinds of hell is about to be breaking loose, I'd fight a bear if I had to over my kids....... LOL

I totally agree with you Tala. Spanking is one thing. But "Beating The Shit" out of a child is another thing. It's not like these people are sitting there "kicking the kids ass" and giving him a black eye, yes some people do this, but it isn't right doing that! Spanking a kid, there is no problem!

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I see no problem with swatting a kid who is being a little jackass and not behaving like a respectable human being. It's no wonder there are so many fucking 13 year old druggies and 16 year old brats robbing people and stealing cars. Nobody put them in their place. I was beat a few times and I fucking DESERVED IT. All these social servant sloths were just whinny little brats who got away with everything as a child. When I see kids going around telling their elders to fuck off downtown the old fella's give chase and pound them or grag them by their hair to a cop who then throws teh brat in the back of the car. Well deserved.


I think parents who let kids get away with everything should themselves be beat with a pole.


I DO see a problem with parents who smack their kids for stupid reasons. A whacking should be a last resort of if they do something terribly disrepectful.

I got caught lighting fires. I was smacked. I deserved it.

I fucked my grade 4 classmate when I was 9. I got caught, I deserved it.

I shot my mouth off at my grandfather, so my gramma smacked me with a handle from a flyswatter. I deserved it.

My little girl is 4 now and shes been trying to get away with some bad shit. Trying to hit me. Saying shes 'not my friend' anymore (gets that from school). Kid stuff no less, but as a parent I know if I have to curb this crap early, or suffer later.

My Dad tried the spanking and belt shit on me when I was a kid. Did spanking me work? No. I turned out to be a kid you wish you never had, a real fucked up juvenile delinquent. I remember all the times that I got spanked, the trick was to make a big deal about it, even if it didnt hurt. I made em think they were doing more damage then they were actually doing. In no time I was running around again causing trouble.

Anyway, I came up with another way to try and curb my daughters behavior, my alternative to spanking (for as long as it works). When she does something I dont want her to, I paint a very vivid picture in her brain of the consequences. Thing is, I totally bullshit... but since she is 4, she wont know the difference. If I want her to stop jumping down the stairs, I say some shit like 'stop doing that or else you can slip and fall and your head will ROLL OFF, and, I wont be able to put it back on!.'... things like that. It freaks her out. She asks me back, 'my head will fall off? i cant get it back?!', in a concerned and worried tone.

It works. Compare fears: getting spanked - which is temporary pain, to having your head roll off - which is permanent. Kids are gullible and you can manipulate them far more with words then actions.

i've got to say, when i was a kid and i misbehaved, my parents kicked my ass, and THANK GOD! they beat me right outta jail. they never hit me out of anger, or to be abusive, but when i fucked up, or got smart with them they let me have it. there's a fine ine between abuse and discipline, every kid needs his ass spanked every now and again. these people today that are pussies and let their kids control them and let them do whatever they want, are bredding useless children. that will turn out to be idiotic non-contributing pieces of shit. because if they're misbehaving and do not have consequences for their actions they will continue to use that attitude throughout life.

Spankings..... maybe
Attention grabbing swats.....YES
Yelling.........Never
Punishment, like groundings, Definitely if you STICK to it.

All I have to say is look at the world today, Most children are very
disrespectful, throw huge fits, crap like that. Why do you think these talk shows thrive... LOL
Pros and Cons to doing it one way or the other in a controversial issue.

Not doing anything at all when your child is misbehaving, I want to beat the parents...
Notice I said "Not doing anything", however you deal with your children, just don't do nothing.

I see so many parents yelling at the children in a store, like I am impressed that they are making an attempt
when actually they are not....

BTW I have 5 children.....

VERY well said..... I have 4 of them myself. I am very strict on one hand and very lenient on the other. When it comes to respecting themselves and others, I am a major bitch about that one. I am ALL into getting their attention however I can get it without hitting them anywhere at all EVER, but sometimes that smack on the ass is what it takes. BUT I'd much rather get it now than wait and not be ABLE to get it when they REALLY get into a jam in their lives.

My oldest just moved out and is on her own and I couldn't be more proud of her if I tried........ she was spanked a few times and punished in various ways. And she is one of the best kids I have ever seen.

I remember she stole something from a store once... and I say ONCE...... we put her in "Jimbo's Jail"...... took literally everything she had away from her, left her mattress on the floor and a milk crate turned upside down for her to eat from, and we walked her to the bathroom for 24 hours, waited outside the door..... NEVER laid a hand on her. She was fed her meals in her room and everything. In 24 hours, we let her out and she hasn't stolen a thing since then.

A couple of years later she hit my son with a pipe and I wore her ass out, she never hit him again either. LMAO

Bottom line is the punishment must fit the crime..... in my house, you hit, you GET hit....... if they hit someone, then I smack their asses, they know how it feels to then get hit and don't do it anymore. lol

And I have 4 children myself...... ranging from 5-19..... LOL