It's ok to hit your kids in the US? Where I am from, social services would take your kids and quite possibly throw you in jail.
Physical punishment doesnt do anyone any good, IMO.
Originally posted by Sly_RJ You see... if your kids are screaming for toys in the store when they're 6, you've already failed.
You couldnt possibly be a parent and say something like that.
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Originally posted by KingK7 It's ok to hit your kids in the US? Where I am from, social services would take your kids and quite possibly throw you in jail.
Physical punishment doesnt do anyone any good, IMO.
To an extent, hitting kids is acceptable. Like I said earlier, there's a difference between punishment and abuse.
Example: Spanking a child for hitting me is acceptable. Spanking a child for no reason is NOT acceptable.
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Originally posted by iceicebaby Funniest thing I ever saw was in my local grocery store. This kid maybe 5 or 6 started screaming and kicking on the ground because mom wouldn't buy what the kid wanted. Mom said nicely a few times to get up and stop screaming... the kid wouldn't so mom grabbed the kid by the foot and started dragging the kid down the aisle towards the checkout. Some people looked shocked .... I thought it was fuckin great the kid was a little shit
People should hit their kids more often. My Mom used to smack me when I was being a shit and I love her for doing that. I was a well-behaved kid. Fear of getting spanked is the only way to really control a kid sometimes. That's just the way it is.
For example: I was in Applebee's and some little bastard in the booth behind me kept leaning over and putting his slimy little kid paws all over my head and back. The first time I turned around and nicely asked the mother to make her kid stop. Her idea of making him stop was to say "No no Travis. Sit down, honey".
Needless to say the kid didn't stop and the mother didn't care. I turned around and told the kid to stop and asked her once more to control her child. Again she told him "No no Travis. Sit down, honey".
That time her little brat of a kid left me alone for about a minute before he started fucking with me again. I snapped. I turned around and asked if she knew how to discipline a child? This dumb bitch actually asked me "What would you like me to do about it". SPANK HIM FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, SPANK HIM!!!! "Not that it's any of your business but I don't spank my little boy" she said.
Don't let your kids get like that! Wanna guess what that little shit is going to be like when he is a teenager?
Originally posted by gothweb I must say, even linguistically, that was an uncharacteristically violent outburst compared to what I expect from you, Tala. Sounds defensive.
my basic view is there should be the fear of being hit, so much so that the kid will behave and not want to find out.
By having to do actual hitting its like admitting the kid dosent fear you. Then they just resent you and subconsciously lose respect for you.
It sorta reminds me of leave it to beaver. Beaver and wally were always so damn afraid of scewing up and getting a beating. But Ward never once laid a hand on them. The fear was there though.
Ever notice that pretty much everything added to the Constitution after the original was a mistake.
Maybe I was an oddball, but I behaved ten times better for my mother who never hit me than I did for my father who used to get after me with a belt for stuff like not cleaning my room after being told several times and getting D's on my report card. I HATED him. My mother, on the other hand, would look sad and pitiful and sometimes she'd cry and I'd do anything for her. To this day she still says I was an angel of a small child.
I do think spanking can be necessary for things that could really harm the child. Like if a child goes out into the road and you tell them to come back and they don't, then you should put the smack down. But these parents who spank their kids for stupid things like whining in the store or saying a "naughty word" piss me off. That's why there are so many violent people in the world these days. Too many parents teach their kids that the best way to deal with something that bothers you or makes you a little angry is violence and that's just not right.
Nothing worse than a pooly behaved child. Too bad it is 99.9% of the time the parents fault. I hate being out and seeing a child out of control, I have no problem saying something to the parents.
The thing is that the store brings out the worst in kids, they want this, they want that, it can be frustrating. I have an 11 year old, 5 year old, and 18 month old. It can be a chore bringing them shopping sometimes, especially when it's a long day, like we went through the mall, then another store, then when Wal-Mart comes along and the kids are bored with shopping, it can raise some tensions, he he he.
As far as beating goes, I don't believe in beating my kids, I will however, crack them on the ass if they REALLY push it far, I'm talking after a bunch of warnings, if that doesn't work, then a little crack on the ass usually helps, he he he.
I was raised by a family of hippies
they believed in
Not spanking
No guns
Freedom
Free Sex
And talking us kids to death when we did something wrong
Ground us forever
Took all of our fun
that's what I did to my kids and guess what
I never had to spank any of them
I never raised my voice to them
and they turned out fine
Are good in school
Are popular
and the older once have good jobs, don't use drugs and are good people who wouldn't hurt anybody.
I guess its the way you start when they are little.
shrug
Maybe I just got lucky
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I agree with Slick. Bringing a kid into a store is a huge can of worms. First you have to watch your kids like a hawk because of the freaks who want to snatch them. Then kids want this and want that, and sometimes you have to say no.
My father used to beat the shit out me - with his leather belt. It wasn't something he enjoyed, but something that was needed. I was a little shit. When there was a problem he would come home from work, calmly address the issue with me, and told me I was getting a spanking after dinner. And sure enough, after dinner he would put me across his knees and spank me with his belt.
I turned out okay.
Once I mouthed off to my mother and she decked me. I must have been about thirteen years old and a foot taller than her. What the fuck do you do? Hit your mother?
I have a daughter that's about to be three years old. Once she gave me flak and I smacked her bottom - nice and hard. She hasn't given me shit since then. I hope I don't ahve to do it again.
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