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Old 12-03-2011, 04:23 PM  
kane
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Originally Posted by Sly View Post
Do you have brothers and sisters?

I am a 180 compared to my brothers. Raised pretty much the same, I probably had a more difficult life.

Kids aren't as controllable as non-parents like to think they are. Sure, you definitely can influence them, but many simply live in a world of their own and you can't do much with them until they figure it out themselves. After all, we all are different people.

I have two brothers that are very smart and very capable of doing great things. Neither of them have any desire to apply their skills and prefer to drift through life.
This is very true. I see it in my brother's kids. His daughter who just turned 16 gets straight A's, plays several sports and is a great kid. She is almost freakishly good. I was joking around with her one day and told her that she seemed like she was too good to be true. She explained to me that she saw her older brother always in trouble and always grounded and always angry and it seemed like it was over stupid stuff. So she decided to do the opposite. She likes school and wants to do things with her life so she studies hard. She is brutally honest with her parents about where she is going, what she is doing and who she is with and she does the chores and stuff they ask of her. In return she has a ton of freedom an a great life.

If I didn't know them and you told me she and her brother were raised by the same parents I would never believe it.
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