What makes a girl hit on a guy?

indeed..women love the Big Floppy Donkey Dick

[quote]My best friend is turning 25, and she would NEVER hit on a guy either. She doesn't even talk to them when they talk to her....just like me... [quote]

I wonder how you got into webmastering....

If a woman fancies you she'll let you know - stuff all this going over and talking to them - there's more important things to do when you're on a night out - like drinking!
If she doesn't come over or 'bump' into you - she's obviously not that interested.

The age thing is actually quite relevant too - most lasses under the age of 25 don't usually have the confidence to approach a stranger.

So for a lass to come over to you - you must
a) not look desperate - chatting to a few other lasses that you know will ensure you don't come accross as a billy-no-mates psycho and give her a chance to chat to one of them in the toilets to find out your situation.

b)wear clothes you like and feel comfortable in - it shows who you are - lots of designer labels does not maketh the man - if you like a big woolly sweater and feel comfortable in it then wear it.

c)do not hold on to the scenery - you are meant to be fun, confident and considerate - not a combination that's acheivable when hanging drunk.

d)do not stand in a huddle with all your mates around you - it's intimidating

After that - the washing, intelligence, witty repartee, not staring at her tits etc come in to play in varying degrees depending on how mush alcohol she's consumed.

but if you don't stare at her tits how does she know you're interested in her?

*yawn* If thats the case you and your friend sound like losers. I hope you're talking about slimy guys with bad pickup lines - to just ignore your average guy striking up a conversation is sad and pathetic.

Good lord, I can write a book of what I've learned here

Some women are cruel


I guess she won't be working at Hooters any time soon either... :p

- I don't know if it was an understandable and throwaway line of hers about slimy pickup line guys or whether she really meant anyone not totally "tall dark and handsome" would be ignored.. if it's the latter then yeah thats cruel.. but not so bad.. as if you could bring yourself to want to be with someone capable of ignoring a guy trying to chat.. I'd feel more sorry for her than any guys getting the silent treatment.. but im sure thats not the case and im just reacting to a silly statement.. apologies to phogirl if she was just fucking around or whatever.

I don't know.. I guess i like my sociopaths to follow the usual hermit protcol.. theres something about going out to a place designed to meet people only to ignore them that irks me.
don't get me wrong I don't like "people" either.. but common decency and courtesy aren't exactly painful.

I've read this thread and found myself laughing on many occassions and nodding my head a few times to...

I think that certain people are destined to well in those social club/meat market/frat party type atmospheres...I usually find that the trandiest...somewhat superficial...top 40 types do real well there. Not that those people aren't real...they're human like the rest of us...

I honestly had the best of luck when I was out to have a good time...I never went out to get laid...I never assumed that predatory role...I went out to have a good time.

And everytime I was having a great time...laughing my ass off, making people laugh, I'd start to notice a few girls near me with this dear in the headlights type of look...

I think must girls (that you'll pick up at a party, or club, etc) just wanna find a guy that's fun to be around and knows how to have a good time...

And if you can dance and have half a fuckin glass of rythm then you're in...dancing is group sex in public with your clothes on.

my worst nightmare -- hehe

[QUOTE]Originally posted by zip
[quote]My best friend is turning 25, and she would NEVER hit on a guy either. She doesn't even talk to them when they talk to her....just like me...

I wonder how you got into webmastering....

WTF does webmastering have to do with anything? If you MUST know, I got my start clicking a link called "webmasters" on a paysite somewhere (don't remember which one) and it started from there.

Just because I sell porn does not mean I have to be super friendly to guys, be flirty, or even LIKE guys or even LIKE sex for that matter. Sex is nothing but a COMMODITY to me. I know how to sell it on-line and make money. It's a good way to make money without working for someone else. I would kill myself if I had to wake up every morning and go somewhere.

As for me being a bit unfriendly.....I admit it, I don't have the best attitude and I can be cruel to men a lot..... But I guess I exaggerated a bit, maybe I would give a few responses but if an ugly dude talked to me, (mainly for safety reasons ; I don't want to anger a psychopath and have him kill me or something, but most likely I wouldn't be interested in him anyways.

But if we are losers, why do we get hit on all the time? I think the GUYS who hit on us are loosers. Gee, I wasn't the one who was turned down.

Hmm, fasinating arguement.
So if you look halfway decent you are automatically not a loser? Keep thinking that phogirl69, keep thinking that.


I'll show interest by making eye contact, and if he's interested he'll show it. Then it's just a matter of initiating conversation. But I'm not much on pick up scenes, I find they're full of trolling guys, and girls with more attitude than personality (you know the type; they think guys are losers for approaching them, and they think guys are losers if they don't approach them).

My male friends used to be convinced that having me out with them helped them pick up chicks.

They felt that girls were more likely to approach them if they were in the company of an attractive female themselves...they were not sure why. It is either because girls feel safer talking to guys who have girls around them...OR they are catty and think that they are trying to steal someone's b/f away. Which is it?

Muffy

Women approaching guys? I met my girlfriend that way, good thing she did.. Lots of guys sit back and just wait for that shit to happen, but remember.. To women being approached makes them feel sexy, lots believe it's the male's role to approach the woman, just like cutting the grass, or telling them you're sorry, or that she's right, or that her spaghetti really wasn't THAT bad.

But the topic of the thread is why do GIRLS HIT ON GUYS?

WE ALREADY KNOW WHY GUYS HIT ON GIRLS... we are just shopping for a nicely cut, lean piece of meat so we can take it home and butter it up, let that simmer -- then just grab it with your hands, take a whiff, then chomp away and let the juices drip down your chin... Mmmmm! LUNCH TIME!

Being a musician...after a good show girls always come up to you...this is the best one ive found..The girls that hit on you for having cash dont give you as much of themselves as they do when they are fucking you because they think other girls want you...its a competitive deal...Nothing works better than girls seeing you with hotter girls than they are.

typical bitches

seriously..... you guys are sorry! All you have to do is ignore them and belittle them and they will be on your jock like flies on shit. ya ya... some girls arent like this but the majority are. If you pay too much attn to them they are over it. Girls like a challenge, not a sorry ass kisser. Trust.

This is a good text link! Can I use it?

'nuff said....

being a musician doesnt necessarily mean that you have to have money, fame, or sometimes even great looks {not directed at anyone...just stating a fact}, and the girls still throw themselves at you!

being a musician often gives the girls the ideal fantasty that you are, somehow, a divine god that has been presented to them, just FOR them, when you are up there on stage under those hot and colorful lights...pouring out your heart thru your music.

being a musician is all it takes, for some dudes...ya'll should consider yourselves lucky!

and how would I know such a thing?? siiiigh, well, I guess ya could say that I used to be a groupie...lol!

quite right, in one respect...we DO like a challenge.

but any guy belittles me, thinking thats the way to win my affection, is risking not only a serious ass kicking, but quite the battle of the wits...which he will lose!

your right, if i really like a girl... i wont belittle her. Thats not cool. But some of the unwitty girls I come across, are just asking for it.

ahhh, I knew there was a decent dude in there somewhere...lol!

and, yep, gotta agree, some just DO ask for it....would like to bitchslap them myself!

Ok...I simply MUST KNOW WHY girls like to be treated like shit. I'm a decent guy at heart and the girl I'm currently mixed up with, I have to act like I don't give a damn about her or what she does...I cannot be good to her (very little, if at all) becuase the second I start to show that I care about her, she bolts. WHY?!

second question..WTF do I do about her?

cuz girls like a challenge. guys flock to women and they get to pick and choose. if a guy seems like hes not interested in a girl, that girl will feel like something is wrong with her and she wants to figure out what the fuck he doesnt see in her..... (game)

I hear ya RMG, sucks doesnt it? Its easy to get girls when you dont pay attn to them. reason is, you really dont like them so you dont show affection or anything. Then you get what you really didnt want but you will take it. On the other hand... you've got a girl that you really like and find it impossible to be a dick to her cuz you adore her and want to be a nice guy. Now, your wondering if your actually going to end up with this chick cuz you dont want to be tooo nice and lose her to some other asshole.

fuck...

oy vay.....ya'll have really got it all wrong! siiigh!

us guys should stop hitting on girls and make them desparate enough so that they will come to US :D

that would be interesting.. a world where the men get to turn down, humiliate, break hearts of etc of women, like theyve got to do for so long

Im calling that on the basis of conversation, an advantage your average guy can't have by superficially looking at someone from across the room.. im reluctant to offend anyone.. and i don't really mean to take potshots at you, but I can't help it, it just sounded so cold to brush someone off like that.. im all for brushing guys off, but not with silence.. some of my galpals pretend they're lesbians and whatnot when they're out for fun and they get hit on.. or at least make idle chat to as you say to make sure they're not going to stalk and kill you for ignoring them.

I had this mental image of your average guy turning to you at the bar and asking how your night is going or whatever, and you just look at him and then turn your head away without saying a word... I realise thats an exaggeration based on your more flippant first remark, but thats what made me have a go at you.
If thats not you, then disregard any and all of my comments.

I don't go to these places for much the same reason () cheshire stated, as well as having already found a partner making these horrible scenes redundant.. give me a good red, a nice resturant and my gal
I couldn't think of anything worse than clubbing.. but thats just me.

classic thread. thefly is a tru playa.

I get hit on by girls all the time and my friends think maybe it's because I'm shy and don't show a lot of interest in anyone. Like there curious or something.

oh fuck, i just fell out of my chair

I think it was Kat that said:I agree completely. I'm 32, and it's much different now than it was in my 20's.

Anyway, if you mean a bar setting or some other social setting with other people around, I feel women tend to be attracted to guys that they sense are confident. I don't mean the type of guy who is the loudest of a group, or cocky, but the confidence you can just sense from people. Confident people carry themselves well and it shows. Two guys standing together, each equally attractive, I guarantee a woman will always aproach the one that is confident.

But as far as one on one situations, or a first date - it's definitely intelligence. Looks of course play an important role, but will only get you so far with a good woman.

DarkJedi is on a bumping spree lately

Stop listening to your 5th grade english teacher.
Being yourself will not get you laid or girls.

Nobody is confident + rich + funny + good looking all rolled into one.

IF you want girls flocking to you, you NEED to change yourself into someone else.

being yourself will get you laid with your hands.

no, there's just a lot entertaining threads in the archives

Being a Don Juan is not a net sum of smooth manuevers and methods but of your own outlook on the world and on women. ANYONE can memorize 'techniques', but FEW can change the way HOW they think. Women will be able to sniff out the former. But with the latter, women will be clawing each other for you.
A Don Juan is a state of mind, not a list of methods and tricks.

This must be stated because it brings us to the subject of 'desperation'.

In the end, we are all desperate with desire. We wouldn't be looking for tips and answers if we did not desire a girlfriend or MULTIPLE girlfriends (being a bit ambitious, aren't we? ). We all want a woman (or women ), but our desire and feelings brings out the desperation traits within us.

Where I work, I ask the women why they found a co-worker to be so desperate. Here are some of their answers:

-always giving the women attention.
-calling all the time (and calling immediately once getting the number, immediately returning a call, etc.)
-taking every opportunity to talk to them (and telling everything about yourself)
-always available.
-NEVER willing to walk away (NEVER willing to disagree, ALWAYS supplicating).
-etc.

What theme can we find in the above? It is that the man puts the woman on the pedestal rather then himself.

Imagine if a woman did all of the above to you. Imagine if a woman was OBSESSED with you, always calling you, always available, and always spending her free time FOR YOU. Any interest you had for this woman would soon evaporate. Why? Because in your own mind you are thinking two things: "No one else must want her," AND "If I can get her OBSESSED about me, I know I can get BETTER girls to be interested in me." Her desperation is turning you off. The same is true for women.

Women are not attracted to desperate men. Period. I've told my co-worker this and his response: "Well, that is just who I am." Eventually, he will realize that the only common denominator in his pattern of crash and burns will be HIM. So if anyone has told you that you're desperate, consider that its true.

There is a KEY to removing desperation forever. There is no simple 'trick' that will kill the desperation. It will not be in how you dress, how you talk, or where you go for dates. No, the KEY is in how you think.

The KEY to killing desperation (and attracting crowds of women) is to THINK and BELIEVE that you are The Great Catch.

Desperate guys do not do this. They see the woman as the prize rather then themselves. They see that the woman must be 'wooed' rather then them. They will, thus, supplicate and become a 'nice guy'. (And nice guys finish LAST.)

If you start treating a woman like precious gold, she will believe she is gold. And once she believes it, she will DUMP YOU because YOU have given her the sense that she is BETTER then you. Once she thinks that, she will want to REPLACE YOU with someone better, because you have given her reasons to believe that YOU ARE UNWORTHY OF HER GREATNESS.

After all, if we think we can ****** someone better, we will. This holds true for both men and women. The last thing we want is to settle for a mate when we could have gotten better. (This is why the element of challenge is so important in the Dating Game.)

The lesson: DON'T GIVE HER A REASON TO THINK SHE IS BETTER. You are the gold; she should be thrilled just to have A CHANCE with you.

The first step in becoming the Prince Charming every woman dreams of is to THINK OF YOURSELF AS A PRINCE.

When you BELIEVE you are that prince, that you are The Great Catch, all the 'desperation' signs you were emitting vanish and an aura of attraction will surround you. Combine this manner of thinking with all the Don Juan skills you know, and you will become irresistable.

Let us look at the desperation signs again:

-always giving the women attention.

Now that you're The Prince, you don't have time to give women attention. A Prince is kind, ENTHUSIASTIC, smiling, yet YOU have things to do. A Prince's time is precious. A woman must win your attention; you shall not give it to them.

-calling all the time (and calling immediately once getting the number, immediately returning a call, etc.)

The Great Catch simply CANNOT call all the time because he has tons of other numbers. The Great Catch is not competing for a particular girl. The girls, rather, are competing for him.

-taking every opportunity to talk to them (and telling everything about yourself)

Why would Prince Charming tell everything about himself to a woman? No, the woman must JUSTIFY HERSELF to him because YOU ARE THE GOODS. The Prince would reveal things about himself only as a reward. The woman loves the mystery in this and sees knowing the Prince as peeling layers of an onion, knowing him GRADUALLY.

-always available.

The Great Catch is busy with many many women! She must fight for your time, NOT the other way around.

-NEVER willing to walk away (NEVER willing to disagree, ALWAYS supplicating).

Prince Charming wouldn't accept ANY disrespect from any woman. If a woman gave him such disrespect, he WALKS AWAY. The Prince KNOWS all these women want to be with him so he can eject at any time.

Now, I know what you're thinking, "Pook, I can't act like a Prince Charming or The Great Catch. I DON'T have tons of women after me." This is reversing CAUSE and EFFECT. ASSUME you are the Great Catch, THINK that you are, and as you think you shall become. It becomes a self-fullfilling prophecy. Treat your hobbies as if they have more value then the women do (or treat your hobbies as if they WERE other women). When you think you are the Great Catch, you will act like it and the women will KNOW that you are.

Women love certain traits in guys. By THINKING you are The Great Catch allows you to emit these traits NATURALLY and without any effort.

-Good looks

You cannot change your genes. But you can change the way how you treat those genes. Does Prince Charming wear raggedy T-shirts? Does the Great Catch walk with his head down? NO! You will wear nice clothes and walk with pride BECAUSE you are proud of yourself. After all, you ARE one of the best. So treat yourself accordingly.

Anyone can wear a suit. But few can wear a suit proudly. Few can wear a suit that seems to fit them naturally and creates an aura of importance. Good carriage, excellent threads, are the CONSEQUENCE by how you think of yourself. Women know this and is the reason why you are judged by this criteria.

-Humor

Girls LOVE humor. Prince Charming and the Great Catch are funny because they know that they, themselves, are fun. They don't worry, "My goodness, she is really cute! How can I attract her!?" They ASSUME she will be attracted and they have fun in the meantime.

Don't be shy. Let your personality SHINE. When you think you are the Great Catch, this should come more naturally because you have nothing to fear.

-Dominance

You are THE MAN. You must be IN CHARGE. Desperate guys will try to be 'nice' in every which way to win the girl (and fail, of course). But Prince Charming and the Great Catch will SWEEP WOMEN OFF THEIR FEET. When you THINK you are the goods, you realize that it is ridiculous to treat a relationship and flirting as walking on eggshells. YOU set the rules, NOT the other way around. After all, YOU are the prize to be sought.

Look at the soap operas and romance novels for grounds of this. Women like to be in the presence of a MAN, not a boy, not a chump, and certainly not a 'nice guy'.

Dominance is also being sure of yourself. Do not speak in a soft tone. Speak STRONGLY and behave STRONGLY. After all, do you think Prince Charming worries about making mistakes? No, so neither should you.

I know, I know. I can hear you saying, "But I must worry about mistakes or else I'll have another 'learning experience' on my hands."

This is a GOOD THING. Let us say that, in a normal conversation, you came across a word you did not know how to pronounce. Most people will utter the word softly for fear of criticism. This is stupid. Say the word LOUD! Let me repeat, say the word LOUD! If you are wrong, you will be corrected. Clearing up mistakes is ALWAYS a good thing and should NEVER be feared.

The same applies with dating. Do not date with hesitation and shyness; date with all conviction. Remember, the biggest risk you can take in life is not to take any risks at all.

-Ambition

When you think yourself as The Great Catch, you KNOW women are not the priority of your life. After all, the Great Catch knows he can get any woman whenever he wants. When you feel good about life, you cease to fear success and demand Life show all that it has. Aim for the moon. If you miss, at least you'll be among the stars.

So in the end, too often men think they need a girlfriend to have their life 'complete'. The consequence is that these men will emit signs of desperation. Success is achieved first through the mind, then through the world, never the other way around.




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I agree, only loosers say: "be yourself, blah blah..."

Thanks for your input Rep.

Very good post.

hell anyone can 'get hit on all the time'.....most guy's general requirements are


1) warm
2) wet....

what rep just said sent shivers down my spine.

THIS IS THE BIBLE OF GETTING WOMEN, READ REP's POST 3000 TIMES IF YOU DO NOT HAVE GAME.

THIS IS THE BIBLE.

LET ME REPEAT, THIS IS THE BIBLE!

Ask for it? Then she'll know your a pussy. Donkey punch her and slam it home before she can object! She'll love you for it.

Great post, but let me add something to this: there IS an easy trick to completely removing any hint of desperation. When interacting with women socially, just keep in mind the thought "these women are desperate" You have to be somewhat good at playing lets pretend, but if you can momentarily convince yourself that every woman in the room is starving for your attention, you'll begin to act with great confidence. It TOTALLY changes the way you see the situation, your mannerisms and body language.

Yeah I know, it sounds corny as fuck.. but it really does work if you talk yourself into believing it.

The clothes you wear.

i find that pretty stupid...

so when the good looking "friend girl" who I wanna do but i never toled her that says to you:

"u good looking guy, got car, got money, smart and funny"

she wants to get laid or saying to you like she's a friend and giving u confidence ?

go read some more "Guide to Dating"

cock prints

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Originally posted by phogirl69
NOTHING. I NEVER bother to give guys ANY attention.... I don't give a damn how much bling bling they got,
it doesn't impress me.

If they want to get to know me, they better talk to ME first.

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My sister say's the same thing.

I am naturally shy so girls tend to think "why isn't he talking to me?". It helped me in school and at job's to get a lot of eye contact from girls and I knew I could get them at any point

Girls love tall guy's also.. if your short you better have something else to make up for it... Straight white teeth & clear skin are big too..... good dresser is a bonus