What if you met the woman of your dreams, then 2 months into it you found out...

**Pleasurepays** · 06-10-2007, 07:17 PM

Originally posted by Bake

CD smith answer me this and others if they wish ok this isnt someone else its me. Been seeing this girl for about 3 months she is still married and was still living with her Husband when I meet her but alone in seperate rooms they have children. I was very casual with her and believe she needs to explore her new freedom witch she was doing she has now moved out setup her own place and has now ask me for an monogamous relationship.
I am still seeing another 4 women but havent had sex with any of them since I was asked.
Now should I lie because I'm fairly sure things will not work out with her and just have sex with the others as well or give it a chance.

you should see a therapist about the fact that you are pulled towards chaotic and doomed relationships and situations that can only end in an explosion.

why do you think you are trying to hurt yourself and others?

**CDSmith** · 06-10-2007, 07:20 PM

Originally posted by Bake

CD smith answer me this and others if they wish ok this isnt someone else its me. Been seeing this girl for about 3 months she is still married and was still living with her Husband when I meet her but alone in seperate rooms they have children. I was very casual with her and believe she needs to explore her new freedom witch she was doing she has now moved out setup her own place and has now ask me for an monogamous relationship.
I am still seeing another 4 women but havent had sex with any of them since I was asked.
Now should I lie because I'm fairly sure things will not work out with her and just have sex with the others as well or give it a chance.

Jeezus Mick, so much to digest there.

My answer: What does the little man inside you say?

The little man knows ALL.

**Bake** · 06-10-2007, 07:39 PM

What does the little man inside you say?
Dont Panic be very careful no need to hurry anything along give it some time and be patient

**Scroto** · 06-10-2007, 07:40 PM

I'd say that once you give her the cock...it should be thought of as exclusive

**CDSmith** · 06-10-2007, 07:47 PM

Originally posted by Bake

What does the little man inside you say?
Dont Panic be very careful no need to hurry anything along give it some time and be patient

Sounds like sage advice to me.

I told you, the little man knows ALL.

**CDSmith** · 06-10-2007, 07:48 PM

Originally posted by Scroto

I'd say that once you give her the cock...it should be thought of as exclusive

Extremely debatable.

**uno** · 06-10-2007, 07:50 PM

Why would it matter if it was before you were dating her?

**Pleasurepays** · 06-10-2007, 08:15 PM

Originally posted by CDSmith

I have a strong sense that over a pitcher of beer or two, you and I would have some very interesting conversation.

sounds like it will be you and me on the back of Baddogs bike. be gentle.

**maxjohan** · 06-10-2007, 08:21 PM

I'd ask her what the reasons were for banging her ex-boyfriend...

If she had a good reason it's all fine...
if she says something stupid., dump her

**CDSmith** · 06-10-2007, 08:22 PM

Originally posted by Pleasurepays

sounds like it will be you and me on the back of Baddogs bike. be gentle.

Why the vibration alone could cause massive.... well, you know. :D

**CDSmith** · 06-10-2007, 08:23 PM

Originally posted by maxjohan

I'd ask her what the reasons were for banging her ex-boyfriend...

If she had a good reason it's all fine...
if she says something stupid., dump her

Give me an example of a "good reason"

and an example of one that you would consider "something stupid"

thanks and thanks. :D

**fr0gman** · 06-10-2007, 08:38 PM

Originally posted by CDSmith

...up until she met you she was casually banging her ex-husband? Maybe she tells you something along the lines of "it was nothing serious, he's still single, I was single, yada yada yada..."

Would you be pissed?

Moreover, would you dump her because of it?

Before you answer consider that she is totally devoted to you from virtually the time you started officially being together and exclusive. She is quite possibly everything you could want in a woman, except for this one thing.

And no, I'm not in this situation, but have been in similar situations in the past.

Discuss...

What... did you think you were her first???

**stev0** · 06-10-2007, 08:41 PM

At least it was her ex and not some random dude...

**CDSmith** · 06-10-2007, 08:41 PM

Originally posted by fr0gman

What... did you think you were her first???

Some of you need to go take some remedial English classes.

**fr0gman** · 06-10-2007, 08:44 PM

Originally posted by CDSmith

Some of you need to go take some remedial English classes.

It was a joke man... stop being so sensitive.

Your deal is no big deal. You know she was having sex with her ex AT SOME POINT before you met her. Who cares and what difference does it make if it was before, during or after the divorce?

**maxjohan** · 06-10-2007, 08:50 PM

Originally posted by CDSmith

Give me an example of a "good reason"

and an example of one that you would consider "something stupid"

thanks and thanks. :D

A very good reason to keep her:

I'm was far more confortable with my ex-boyfriend than if I had slept with other guys .

Now that I've found you who I connect with and can feel comfortable with, I will move on and probably find that the sex gets much better.

Also if she said something about seeking confirmation and stuff, I think that's a good excuse too, specially from women

Bad reasons, not to keep her:

I still had feelings for my boyfriend

I felt lust for him and sexual attraction, I couldnt stand up to his charm

Hope this helps a little bit!

**CDSmith** · 06-10-2007, 08:53 PM

Originally posted by fr0gman

It was a joke man... stop being so sensitive.

Is it a case of me being oversensitive or is it the fact that it was kind of sort of hard to tell what level of "humor" you were using?

Originally posted by fr0gman

Your deal is no big deal. You know she was having sex with her ex AT SOME POINT before you met her. Who cares and what difference does it make if it was before, during or after the divorce?

According the posts on this thread (of which I'm still not quite convinced you've taken the time to read) many actually do care.

What if you met the woman of your dreams, then 2 months into it you found out...

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