Originally Posted by Amputate Your Head

like I said, there is no one single right answer for everyone. The bennie's might make sense to one couple but not to another. And of course, I'm only speaking from my own personal experience. The combinations of complexity that are possible are many. But I will tell you this...

My 1st marriage: I was 22, active military living in Germany, fell over backwards for a hot blonde (also military), and got married straight away because it was romantic. Met in Germany, married in Denmark, honeymoon in Spain.... we were young, full of fuck, and having a blast. It lasted a year. (mostly because we were military and usually not together very long in one place.) No kids. (but I have a prior son from high school days)

My 2nd marriage: Occurred the day after my first divorce was final. I was literally pressured into it by the chick, and like an idiot, went through with it. It lasted 4 miserable fucking years. (3.5 years too long) 2 kids resulted.

My 3rd marriage: After my second divorce, I waited 3 years before even attempting to meet anyone. After meeting her, we lived together for 10 years, had one child that died, and just got married last january. Still going strong. We ultimately married for the benefits that we couldn't legally have living together single. Period. Otherwise we'd have gone the rest of our lives together, happily unmarried.


It's just a piece of paper folks. If the relationship isn't there, no piece of paper is going to help you. Marriage itself isn't fucked up.... people are fucked up. I've taken the risk and lost half my shit twice. It's really not a big deal... it's just, stuff. Stuff that can always be replaced with more stuff.