xenigo

The post about the business fucking up your marriage got me thinking... and this is something that's affected me personally. What the hell is up with people we know, as friends or associates, thinking all people in the adult biz are some kind of freaks? Or somehow bad people because of what we do? I mean, it's a fucking business... we do it to make money. There's no motivation I have besides that, and anyone that thinks otherwize is severely mistaken. I'm not out shooting pictures of chicks, or guys for that matter, for my personal excitement. So why's everyone gotta think I'm some kind of a freak / weirdo / or an otherwise bad person for doing it?

It happend with the relationship I had with my ex-girlfriend. Her parents somehow found out what I did, through her brother, and thought he was doing the family some kind of benefit by informing them of my "immoral" business practices. Her parents almost immediately did a 180, and thought that we just weren't right for eachother. How convenient. Give me a fucking break! And then there's her friends. Ok, so I guess one of them was cool with it, but this person told a close friend of her's and suddenly their whole attitude towards me completely changes. It changed to the tone that I'm some kind of bad, evil person. Now they won't even answer their phone if I call them.

And then there was this chick online who I was chatting with, she read my profile and it said something funny about me being a pornographer. Her next message was "I just read your profile, and now I'm going to block you." Seriously, what the hell is it about being a pornographer that somehow scares people away? What about it makes me a bad person?

Could it be that I'm just not understanding why society is so paranoid about this, or could it be that people don't understand it's an actual business and they think I'm just doing it for my jollies?