I'm being stalked by a 12 year old girl! I need SERIOUS female advice here...

if I were her mother, and I read this thread, you'd already be missing valuable parts of your anatomy. There is no spin you can put on this to make it something that is not going to seriously piss off the mom one way or another. Do not go to her mother unless something truly insane happens, like the girl breaks in to your house or something.

are you insane? ismokeblunts: if you do what dumbshit said I can guarantee you'll spend time in jail

Wait 4 years then hit it.

For taking care of the girl?
You know how sensitive a girl of 12 years can be?
You realise that her life can be ruined if he will be agressive to her?

bro you're 22. grow some balls and tell the little shit to fuck off.

I think female advice would work better here, because well, maybe you've been in this situation on the other end, or maybe you could give me a look into the female mindframe a little better on how to solve this problem. But guys feel free to step in too if you have some serious advice. I'm not looking for any bullshit trolling or sigwhoring n this thread, i have a SERIOUS problem that needs addressing here...

Ok, this has been ongoing for a few months now, and for a long time i thought it was cute and flattering. I have a buddy whose place me and my friends do our pre-drinking at before going out to the bar, he has a 12 year old sister who is completely in love with me for whatever reason. From the second I walk in the door to the second I leave she's glued to me. I figured this was a pretty normal thing for a girl her age to have a crush on her big brother's friend.

This has gone beyond a little crush now though, It is becoming a problem. She has my name written in pink and purple hearts on her mirror, her and her friends call me at home on a regular basis, they even occasionally stop by just to say hello, giggle on my doorstep and then leave. I have no clue how she knows where i live or how she got my cell number, but a female friend of my little brother told me that she followed me home one day. She even went as far as to say that her and friends followed me and took pictures of me while walking downtown one day (i can't confirm this, but i don't see why this other girl would lie, like wtf?) I've spent so long passing it off and harmlessly flirting her up fr the last couple, that now i'm thinking i may have inadvertently lead her on to believing that there could be a chance for a relationship here or something. Is it normal for a young gir's infatuation to go this far??????

Even all of this i would have still only taken as flattery, but she's crossed the line now. twice now she has bordered on "propositioning" me and it has got me SERIOUSLY concerned now. This is the second time within a couple weeks that she has put me in a situation where i can seriously say she's taking it WAY TOO FAR, there's no need to get into details, but I can safely say at 12 years old she has no business coming on to a guy 10 years older than her this way.

I NEED TO GET IT INTO HER HEAD THAT THERE CANNOT BE ANYTHING BETWEEN US.

The problem is that but I don't want to crush her either. She has no father (as far as i know she never even knew him), her mother is never home, and she basically lives alone with her 3 older half brothers, who though they are good guys that i get along with great still don't treat her very well. For all I know I could be the only older guy in her life that has ever treated her half decent. I really don't want to have to resort to be a full on asshole to turn her off...

I have explained to her on a few occasions now that she needs to cool it down, and that I am way too old for her, but it doesn't seem to be sinking in at all. I told her brothers they need to do something about it, and they just think its funny. An opinion I don't really share with them...

What the hell should I do here? Is there something I can say that might finally get her over me? Like, I'm really not that great. Should I just avoid her at all costs? Should I just go on letting her have her little crush, and keep turning her down until it passes by and not worry about it? or should I just be a complete shithead and shut her down hard? I'm at a loss here...

It fucking sucks believe me, she seriously has had me hanging a couple times now. Left me TOTALLY STUNNED...

I have to shut her down here soon, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to set myself up for when she becomes of age, lol. I don't want to send her off into the world hating me, she is going to be an absolute knockout one day. I'd love to bump into her in the local bar 6-8-10 years down the line and find out she still has a little flame burning for me somewhere, believe me that. I just can't it this go on any further at this point, and I'm at a total loss at what to do here...

Are you for real?

Stop going over to her house fro pre drinking. If you have to get drunk before going to the bar, change locations.

If she calls your cell, dont answer

If she knocks on your door, dont answer

You also need to have a serious talk with her brothers, if they think its funny now then they need to understand that its not funny and is a serious situation that will end up landing you in jail

Dude this is a mess!!! As a women let me give you some advice. I was 12 and have had plenty of crushes but you need to chill out here. You need to talk to your "buddy" that is her half brother and tell him it needs to stop. You need to stop going to your friends house for a pre-drinking before you go out. Get over it and meet them at the bar where she cant get in. you need to stop worrying about her problems and worry about yours. She wont hate men because of your actions towards her, she will get over it trust me. If she calls your cellphone, dont you have callerID like the rest of the world, dont pick it up!!! If she comes to your house, slam the door in her face and tell her to play with someone her own age. I would even tell her you will confront her mother in person about this to make sure it stops. You got to cover your ass, or you will be in jail if you do something dumb. If she comes around in 8 years, hot as can be i am sure you will laugh over this together. Move on find a girl your own age and make it clear you have no interest. Good luck out there!!

if he turns into a total dick to her she *could* decide to fuck your world up. All it takes is saying "I had sex with a 22 year old" somewhere near a teacher or another adult.

Tell her that you are her Dad.

I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to set myself up for when she becomes of age,

1) did you said you flirted with her? - first mistake
2) she has no father
3) her half-brothers don't treat her nice
4) her mother is not around
5) you're probably the only 'sunshine' in her life

Don't lead her on. If she shows up at your house - you tell her nicely that she shouldn't be coming over. If she calls your cell - you tell her nicely that she shouldn't be calling you.

Explain to her that at her age, there are many things she should be enjoying rather than wishing/fantasizing about an older guy.

She needs a female role-model in her life. She's around more men than women. She's lacking the most important roles in her life (her mother & her father) to give her self-confidence and teach her self-respect. She's promiscuous because she has no direct behavioural guidance from a female.

I know 'that's' not your problem but hopefully you can talk to one of the more sensible/intelligent brothers or mother to explain that or perhaps a female family member.

lol, sorry, but if she's going to be into my, why not? i more than likely will know this girl for a long time, if i wait until she's 18, whats the problem? i don't think a 10 year difference is that big a deal at that point, she should be able to make an informdude that just ok for her at that point. she can't do that now. there is no doubt in my mind that 6 or 7 years down the line she's going to be a head turner, so what the hell, why not stay friendly with her for a few years? if i could just get it into her head that there can't be anything right now, and have her back off, all would be good, and we could still have a friendly relationship. its not like we'd be hanging out or anything, but i wouldn't have to hide from her either. i don't even think letting her little crush go on would be a big deal, if she would keep it innocent, but she's making far more of it than she should. i'm just not into it now, because i'm just not attracted to little girls (no way huh?) and couldn't be atrracted to her for at least another few years.

i'd love to be pulling 18 year olds when i'm 28! but 12 year olds at 22, is an entirely differently story...

i'd love to be pulling 18 year olds when i'm 28! but 12 year olds at 22, is an entirely differently story...

So keep her for future. You never know how beautiful she would probably become in future