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I've had a fair amount of experience with cancer patients over the years I spent working in health care. I've seen many fight and end up losing the fight in the end, I've seen some refuse treatment and "die on their own terms", but I've also seen many fight (accept the chemo, etc) and beat the big "C" at least gaining them a few more years, some even beat it and gain much more than just those few years in spite of what doctors told them. It's all a crapshoot.
ON the personal side I've had several family members diagnosed with it over the years, a few aunts, one sister in law, one or two distant cousins..... and I have to say the dilema your friend is in is a tough call. My sister in law beat it after a 2 year fight, her hair grew back and life is just fine for her in a "so far so good" kind of way. One aunt gave it a hell of a fight and gained about 2 1/2 extra years with her family, and the other aunt also fought it but didn't fair so well, she went downhill quickly after a certain point and that was it.
Based on all of that experience would advise that taking up the fight is the way to go and that it's never over until it's over. However no can make this decision for anyone but themselves.
What does her boyfriend say? (Does he get a say?) It really comes down to what's best for her. If after all debate and mulling it over is done she still wants to go the route you outlined above then that's that and all you as her friend can do is just enjoy the time you have left with her.
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