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Originally Posted by Pleasurepays
i haven't spoke to my father in 20 years. i don't really care if i ever do or not. i lived a few miles away from him and didn't talk to him.
people who love to say things like "he's still your father" or "you need to have a relationship before its too late" etc etc etc... have absolutely no idea what its like growing up and being physically abused and beaten day in and day out while growing up.... or what its like growing up in a constant state of terror or having to endure any similar type of BS etc and having to look into that persons eyes, knowing that the one person who was supposed to protect you at any cost was the one person who made your life a living nightmare.
for all you people saying "you should, or you'll regret it one day" might want to stop and consider that you are most often spouting that shit to people who were molested or saw family members molested or who were beaten constantly or whatever. you have NO right to start telling people who relationship they should have with toxic, abusive and even dangerous personalities in their lives.
jmho
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Don't listen to others, go with your feeling... I did not talk to my dad as I resented him for what he made my mom go threw. He never touched me or abused me. My relationship changed when he paid more attention to his own life then be there when it was time to teach a kid how to be a man... He was to busy fucking chicks all over the place and making my mother miserable.
Now he's old and I am pretty sure he considers himself lucky to have a new companion as he'd pretty much be wanking alone in the dark if she was not there.
Me wanting a new start with my old man will never change what I think of him for what he did to my mother but I preach to not live in the past so maybe it's time to practice that with him. I just want to make it happen because that is what my gutt as been telling me since I left the funeral today and drove 2 hours back to Montreal.