Originally Posted by RRRED

I say let him know you have it. So if he wants to, he can. If he finds out later that you thought about it but decided for him how it might affect him, it might piss him off.

He might be in good spirits now but it would be hard to predict how he's gonna be 3 months from now... He's probably looped out on pain drugs and in shock.

Trust me on this. Nothing is going to "remind him" of what he's lost. It's in there every minute bubbling away.

I say let him know you have them and let him decide what he's ready for and when.