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man... this thread is great! My ex just lost her job, her house, and now has had to have our son move back in with me till she can get on her feet again. He is 14 years old right now and just started high school and I am just about ready to pull my hair out with all the added responsibilities and crap I am dealing with now in addition to my "job". I give respect to mothers and the job they do raising kids.
I also agree with it not being a job however. A job pays, it has tangable goals to gauge your success, raising a kid is something that you do because you have to, not to make money. You can always quit a job if you don't like it. A kid is something that you can't quit and will cost your dearly yet enrich your live in ways you can never imagine. If you choose to have one, there is no getting laid off, there is no quitting and there is no end to your responsibility.
Being a mom or a father is more than a job, its a lifestyle. You only have one chance to do it right so you better not fuck it up because if you do, you'll regret it for the rest of your's and your child's life.
Unless you think that simply working and making money is the solution to all. You must be engaged in your childs development.
Anyone that can say that they are a Mother or a Father is more than a man, more than a woman. Anyone can make a baby but the real task starts then. The rest of your life should be all about that baby, even after it turns 18, it should be about making that person better than you are so that he or she can in turn pass that on to their kids. There is no end to your responsibility and you have to be ever caring and ever sure that from conception of that kid to your death, you do all that is in your power to give that child, that person, that man, that woman, everything that you can possiblly give to make them a better person than you ever could be.
FACT: Being a MOM is not a fulltime job!!!!
this is totally a correct statment because if it was, she could quit.
Dave G
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