Fatal what up long time no see.
I have a 4 year old son. I would not say I spoil him but he does get allot of stuff. I grew up poor and always wore hand me downs and never had any unbroken toys as those were usually hand me downs also. I worked really hard to get where I am so when I was ready to have a child he would not have to be like I was.
On the flip side my desire to never be withot came from always being without. In an effort to not let him get spoiled from things or lazy I devised a plan. Even though he is only 4 he has a responsibility chart. There are 7 slots of things he must do that changes as he has gotten older or reached milestones. He only gets his daily rewards if he completes all 7 things each day. The larger presents are only achieved if he does all 7 things for 7 days. I think this creates a reward structure and a level of responsibility at an early age allowing for a strong foundation of growth later in life.
We will see how it turns out
