You have guys who are nothing but think they are something because they are employed by people who are ie 12 Clicks. 12 Clicks thinks because he works for a guy who came up with some great ideas and made a shit load of cash that he is him. Same kind of thing goes for Baddog. Badbog is a gambler who is always chasing his losses. Without Goodgirl he would be fuck all.
Chasing my losses?
It is funny to hear this kind of crap from some guy that calls my up drunk and crying one day because his girlfriend is leaving him, and the next day wants to pay me to take him on a personal tour of the Unite States.
You have always been a loser in my book, and always will be.
The worst are people that have "power positions" like managers/supervisors in retail or airlines or credit card companies.
It's not that they have success or money - it's the little shit that they could do to affect your day in a good way but don't because they're so unhappy with their miserable peon fuckin' existences!
There's a guy, this little arrogant prick that manages the local Rite Aid by my house - It's a long story I won't get into here BUT I'd like to throw this douche a "blanket party" the "ski mask way" and teach him a nice lesson for fucking with my day!
I guess his punishment is having to go out and collect the wagons at closing. I saw him the other day and beeped my horn laughing and pointing at him
I find that people treat friends, acquintances and other's in business with a certain level of equality and fairness... until they begin to gain a certain level of success, at which point they begin to not only value some people more.. but feel others aren't worth their time.
It's almost comical to see these people fully dismiss others simply because they don't have enough to offer them in return, $$ wise.
I've had issues with my personal success and friends . . I've found that most of the 'friends' I had, assumed that I would cover all cost, all the time, every time we went to dinner, lunch etc. . . expected me to loan $$ as needed etc . . and it was pointed out to me that I took away all their excuses to be losers too
and very many dropped me due to the nature of my work . . think about, they were pissed because I wouldn't let them come hang out while I shoot, wouldn't hook them up with the models . .
now the people that know what I do and don't know me personally don't make close associations with me and I don't push it . . the friend I have, I've had for 25 years and that's about it for me . . (he's a working musician, and even he doesn't really understand the nature of my work, like most of this forum has no concept of shooting sex from the comments I've seen and read) everyone else is just an association or someone I do biz with . . that's all.
(Just imagine a 51 year old heavily tattooed guy pulls up in a new caddy or vette, somewhat quiet and reserved, and you know that he gets his pole waxed by 18-20 year old hotties and gets paid for it . . How does that hit you? . . Makes people a little uncomfortable in my experience)
anyone I've tried to work with and be 'friends' with has gone 'side-ways' on me in a major way and I no longer allow anyone close that shoots . .
so have success changed me? you bet . . am I an asshole? . . nope . . . I just play it very close, staying focused on the work. I'm always polite and courteous to everyone . . that's called professionalism.
-bmb
edit: also I'm busy as hell . . work 70-100 hrs per week and spend the down time with my daughter . . .
it happens in all industries, I read books on Elvis,Jim Morrison and Frank Sinatra.Some of the most insecure people on the planet. I decided to stop reading biographies on entertainment people it was too depressing ,they had the world by the balls and never really saw it.
The real question is: Do they succeed because they turn into assholes, or do they turn into assholes because of success? I guess it'S a bit of both ....
There are a number of people I have seen grow into various success stories in this business. Not all, but MOST of them changed along the way. For the most part, they became assholes.
I'm glad I chose to be an asshole from day one. When I reach their level of success then I will either be the same asshole or maybe I will be a bit nicer.
Time will tell.
I haven't changed. I was asshole BEFORE and remain asshole after and will piss with anybody, anywhere even though there are no money in it for me.
I cherish CONSISTENCY.
This subject comes up from time to time and its only ever an issue for the small guy who thinks he should be treated better.
"oh, we used to be friends and now you're a big shot with no time for me, boo hoo"
here's a clue, they're successful now and its much harder to find time for people who bring nothing to the table. This is a business, you want friends? spend more time on myspace.
People who gain success have done so by prioritizing their time. If you're getting less of their time, look at yourself for answers, not them.
You have guys who are nothing but think they are something because they are employed by people who are ie 12 Clicks. 12 Clicks thinks because he works for a guy who came up with some great ideas and made a shit load of cash that he is him. Same kind of thing goes for Baddog. Badbog is a gambler who is always chasing his losses. Without Goodgirl he would be fuck all.
I'm thinking that you are very confused and have little idea what's going on with either of the people in your post.
It depends on the person....
One can stop and say... hey I am fuckin cool, i am damn rich! Ho, Yo and whatever. And he defenetly will become shit.
But tere are others... who work not for money but for their product. They work for idea and for growing... And they keep growing, they do not stop.
By the way, join us!
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But tere are others... who work not for money but for their product. They work for idea and for growing... And they keep growing, they do not stop.
By the way, join us!
Am I the first one to tell you that you are one of the most stupid people I ever met on GFY?
Some acquire confidence that they were lacking before and don't know how to deal with it.
At the risk of delving into psychobabble, the problem is more likely lack of confidence...
If you are used to money or status, you take them for granted and don't feel the need to make sure the world knows you have them. If you achieve either after a long, slow climb, they tend to sit on you quite comfortably too.
But when success and money come in a rush, very few people handle them well. Suddenly they can afford a lifestyle their friends cannot, yet they don't know how to handle themselves around people who are used to what they can now afford. Attitude becomes a substitute for confidence.
roger is a great example of just being himself too and styles. i love aaron's, sleazy's, and trey's attitudes as well. if you let people fuck with you they will.
There are a number of people I have seen grow into various success stories in this business. Not all, but MOST of them changed along the way. For the most part, they became assholes.
I'm glad I chose to be an asshole from day one. When I reach their level of success then I will either be the same asshole or maybe I will be a bit nicer.
Time will tell.
If you know you are not going to become a bad person after your siccess you willl not become the one. You must always know that it may come and it may go.
I haven't changed. I was asshole BEFORE and remain asshole after and will piss with anybody, anywhere even though there are no money in it for me.
I cherish CONSISTENCY.
How is life, Aaron?
You say you will piss with anybody and that you cherish consistency...yet...Your old sig from years past specifically said "I don't piss with amateurs."
I hope no one ever thinks I'm an asshole... I've always tried to be cool to everyone, no matter who they are... Sometimes I have a different opinion, but I hope that does not qualify me to be an asshole...
yes, partial, I have to save some for Mojo....his original e-mail of introduction and how he joined Voyeur Online to promote it better has touched my heart!
But...that was BEFORE your days, ask him. Where are your 2 other parners in the company and what are they doing now? Did guy finally retired from the police force?
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