You'll never understand until you have had your cock sucked off by a gay man.
right? Isn't it all about the oral sex, and knowing how to pitch it good?
I have seen a lot of chicks who get with a dyke have often been battered by a man, so the dyke is just a little bit softer but still manly.
I bet there are some tough dykes who will still beat the hell out of their bitch though.