Originally Posted by shwsrvcs

my ex just moved next door to me (at a mutual friends house) after leaving her next husband/losing the house/losing the car/giving up custody of our son to me. Now she wants me to kart her around to find a new job, place to live, and new car. I'm not an idiot, but we have a kid together that is living with me now (since things went downhill with her life).

My question is... how much am I supposed to do for this woman? I want her to do well, being the mother of my son and all, but, how far should I have to go? I spent the night at my office last night (LA) instead of in my bed (OC) as to not be woken up at 7AM (again!!!) and to avoid having to take her all over the place, before work, but I feel bad about that.

How far would you go to help your kid's other half in a long since divorced situation (9 years) and where do you draw the line? She wants to find a place locally and get her son back in her household and not be alone while she starts over.. I understand that... but he's very happy living with me now (he's 14).

Should I just let her bury herself and "die" or should I help her? My conscience says help, but, after all she has put me through, It stresses me out. I've had the best time since my son came back to live with me full time, it has made me more of a complete man, I'm not sure I want to give that up again.

What would you do in my situation?

DG