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  • divinity
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    • Jan 2005
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    #1

    So my girlfriend of 7.5 years just left me

    Seven and a half years of a perfect relationship, unbelievable times, next to no serious arguments. Her family loves me, permission granted from her dad, custom ring was being made (still is actually), and then out of the blue, she says she's gotta go. A week later I kicked her out because it was too hard coming home to her everyday.

    Now I gotta figure out how to start dating again. It's been so freaking long. Anyone know any good ways to meet women that are industry friendly?
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  • Love Sex
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    • Nov 2004
    • 1905

    #2
    1. go get a massage 2. take a little vacation 3. hit up the strip club 4. go get laid
    or vice versa

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    • adonthenet
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      • Feb 2005
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      #3
      damn im sorry to hear that bro.. 7.5 years and shes gone just like that?!

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      • Sly
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        • Sep 2004
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        #4
        What was her reasoning/excuse?
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        • Trax
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          • Aug 2001
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          #5
          industry friendly... hmmm
          hookers
          strippers
          coke dealers

          just what came to my mind

          on a serious note:
          sorry about your girl though

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          • X37375787

            #6
            Don't jump into dating right away man, take some time off, take care of yourself before you start taking care of someone else.

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            • X37375787

              #7
              If she runs out like this, there must be something with another man. Why else would she take such drastic measures?

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              • nestle
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                • Apr 2006
                • 647

                #8
                Originally posted by divinity
                ...next to no serious arguments...
                7.5 years and you guys never had a serious argument? That is shocking and I believe you are exaggerating on that or you two just were not completely honest with each other during that time.

                Anyway, go rent the movie Swingers and watch it. heh.

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                • BoyAlley
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                  • Nov 2004
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                  #9
                  Why do I have this strange feeling that he's leaving out details?

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                  • potter
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                    • Dec 2004
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                    #10
                    She prob left you cause you hadn't asked her to marry you.

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                    • GregA
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                      • Mar 2006
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                      #11
                      There is no easy way it just takes time.
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                      • ANAL PASTE
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                        • Mar 2006
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                        #12
                        Probably a good thing. Imagine marring her only to find out she never loved you? what?s wrong with adult and seeing other people? Just be open about it from day one.
                        Oh, hooking up with church chiks is not recommended !
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                        • Sly
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                          • Sep 2004
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                          #13
                          Originally posted by Equinox
                          Don't jump into dating right away man, take some time off, take care of yourself before you start taking care of someone else.
                          A lot of "dating experts" recommend the opposite. They say you shouldn't be afraid of dating soon after, it will help give you the confidence you need after such a blow. Though they also say you shouldn't date just one person, but several so you don't "fall" for one easily and instead realize you have options.
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                          • RhiannonAPM
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                            • Apr 2006
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                            #14
                            Im sorry about your girl leaving you. Maybe you should take a vacation somewhere and have a little fun. That helped me after my relationship went south. You did the right thing about kicking her out though. What gave her the right to think she could still stay there after telling you that she wanted to leave? Good luck and dont really jump back into dating too fast. Dont want to have girls thinking they are rebounds. We hate being rebounds!
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                            • MissEve
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                              • Aug 2002
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                              #15
                              why did you wait so long to propose?

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                              • X37375787

                                #16
                                Originally posted by Sly
                                A lot of "dating experts" recommend the opposite. They say you shouldn't be afraid of dating soon after, it will help give you the confidence you need after such a blow. Though they also say you shouldn't date just one person, but several so you don't "fall" for one easily and instead realize you have options.

                                Going on dates, having casual sex, things like that certainly will give you self-confidence and make you feel better when you're down after a breakup that left you emtpy-hearted. But dating, as in jumping into a new relationship, I don't know about that. My GF and I broke up months ago, and I've enjoyed having time for myself. I guess it depends on each case.

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                                • divinity
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                                  • Jan 2005
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                                  #17
                                  there is another boy involved, although I don't know what the deal with him is. she's only known him 3 months. *shrug* her reasoning at first was "you waited too long to ask me" which is bullshit in my eyes. behind the scenes I've been busting my ass for the last 6 months to get her the exact ring she wants. I waited till 6 months ago because I wanted her to finish school. I'm not marrying someone that can't get through college. The additional 6 months has been the quest for this damn custom ring that I wanted to give her. She's recently said things like:
                                  "I love you, but I'm not in love with you"
                                  "I love you, but not in the way you want me too"
                                  "We're soulmates" (WTF??)


                                  7.5 years and you guys never had a serious argument? That is shocking and I believe you are exaggerating on that or you two just were not completely honest with each other during that time.
                                  A few days after the breakup we both agreed that we had a good run, and that our most serious argument was whether it was "soda" or "pop" I think things were so good because we were so open and honest. No secrets, always told the other how we felt even if it hurt.

                                  A lot of people have told me the "be glad it's now and not after you were married" others (including her mom) have said "the ballgame's not over" and "she'll come back" The big question is will I still be around. hehe
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                                  • Dion
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                                    • Feb 2005
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                                    #18
                                    fuck it, move on, you'll be better off

                                    she sounds immature and is unsure of her intentions.
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                                    • X37375787

                                      #19
                                      Originally posted by Dion
                                      fuck it, move on, you'll be better off

                                      she sounds immature and is unsure of her intentions.

                                      I concur.

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                                      • dissipate
                                        The Dirty Frenchman
                                        • Nov 2005
                                        • 8904

                                        #20
                                        I just ended a 3 1/2 year relationship yesterday. Custom ring, permission from parents, etc.... it sucks man

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                                        • wyldblyss
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                                          • Nov 2003
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                                          #21
                                          Originally posted by divinity
                                          there is another boy involved, although I don't know what the deal with him is. she's only known him 3 months. *shrug* her reasoning at first was "you waited too long to ask me" which is bullshit in my eyes. behind the scenes I've been busting my ass for the last 6 months to get her the exact ring she wants. I waited till 6 months ago because I wanted her to finish school. I'm not marrying someone that can't get through college. The additional 6 months has been the quest for this damn custom ring that I wanted to give her. She's recently said things like:
                                          "I love you, but I'm not in love with you"
                                          "I love you, but not in the way you want me too"
                                          "We're soulmates" (WTF??)




                                          A few days after the breakup we both agreed that we had a good run, and that our most serious argument was whether it was "soda" or "pop" I think things were so good because we were so open and honest. No secrets, always told the other how we felt even if it hurt.

                                          A lot of people have told me the "be glad it's now and not after you were married" others (including her mom) have said "the ballgame's not over" and "she'll come back" The big question is will I still be around. hehe
                                          So she has only been out of high school less than a year? Good grief, she is a kid, she has no business getting married so young. She needs to mature and figure out who SHE is and what SHE wants in life before she makes this life long commitment to you.

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                                          • Sly
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                                            • Sep 2004
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                                            #22
                                            Originally posted by wyldblyss
                                            So she has only been out of high school less than a year? Good grief, she is a kid, she has no business getting married so young. She needs to mature and figure out who SHE is and what SHE wants in life before she makes this life long commitment to you.
                                            He said he didn't want to marry someone who couldn't finish college. So I would assume she's my age, 22, I know quite a few people my age and younger married.
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                                            • AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE
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                                              • Mar 2003
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                                              #23
                                              Being single awesome.

                                              Trust that, and thank god your stupid ass did not get married.

                                              DO NOT GET MARRIED.

                                              You will see what I mean later on.

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                                              • divinity
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                                                • Jan 2005
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                                                #24
                                                she's 25, took the long route for college, moved to chicago with me and finished up her last few credits slowly while she worked..
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                                                • Spankys Teens
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                                                  • May 2005
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                                                  #25
                                                  i've had the same chick for 12 years now. I'm 30 years old...
                                                  we have some arguments from time 2 time but i always let her win..... :D
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                                                  • madawgz
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                                                    #26
                                                    awwwwwwwwwwww man thats gotta suck
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                                                    • mattz
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                                                      • Dec 2001
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                                                      #27
                                                      sorry to hear that but the single life is way better

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                                                      • divinity
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                                                        • Jan 2005
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                                                        #28
                                                        Originally posted by mattz
                                                        sorry to hear that but the single life is way better
                                                        if nothing else, going grocery shopping and only spending $$ for one, and not having to ask what she wants is great!
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                                                        • detoxed
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                                                          • Jan 2003
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                                                          #29
                                                          You will still be around

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                                                          • Spunky
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                                                            #30
                                                            Maybe she just needs some time apart..

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                                                            • tenderobject
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                                                              #31
                                                              sorry to hear that. thats tragic. though i want to marry someone but she doesn't like me. LOL


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                                                              • xLaborJames
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                                                                • Apr 2006
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                                                                #32
                                                                Im going on six years with my gf and really am not one to give solid advice to you about your lady...but maybe shes been with you so long she needs to see what else is out there before going further with everything. I know my gf and I took a period off and saw other people because we had dated through out highschool/college and stayed committed. It pretty much was the hardest thing ever but made us grateful for what we had and didnt have at the time. If you guys are soulmates or whatever she says then maybe she just needs to explore a little bit to realize that shes throwing away a good relationship. people change and it seems like shes fairly young so might be questioning her future.
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                                                                • divinity
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                                                                  #33
                                                                  Originally posted by xLaborJames
                                                                  Im going on six years with my gf and really am not one to give solid advice to you about your lady...but maybe shes been with you so long she needs to see what else is out there before going further with everything. I know my gf and I took a period off and saw other people because we had dated through out highschool/college and stayed committed. It pretty much was the hardest thing ever but made us grateful for what we had and didnt have at the time. If you guys are soulmates or whatever she says then maybe she just needs to explore a little bit to realize that shes throwing away a good relationship. people change and it seems like shes fairly young so might be questioning her future.
                                                                  That was exactly my thought at first. She wanted to date other people, and while I didn't have the emotional desire, I hoped it would have the same outcome as what you described.. Who knows, maybe it will in the long run. She is young, she is inexperienced in life, and she has only been dating me since she was 19. Maybe it's time for her to learn what jerks are out there.. hehe
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                                                                  • Sly
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                                                                    • Sep 2004
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                                                                    #34
                                                                    Originally posted by xLaborJames
                                                                    Im going on six years with my gf and really am not one to give solid advice to you about your lady...but maybe shes been with you so long she needs to see what else is out there before going further with everything. I know my gf and I took a period off and saw other people because we had dated through out highschool/college and stayed committed. It pretty much was the hardest thing ever but made us grateful for what we had and didnt have at the time. If you guys are soulmates or whatever she says then maybe she just needs to explore a little bit to realize that shes throwing away a good relationship. people change and it seems like shes fairly young so might be questioning her future.
                                                                    A lot of people think and do that, which is ok, I guess. I don't know if I really like the idea behind it though. Do I really want to be with a girl who is back with me because she realized she can't get any better than me? That just doesn't really sit well.
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                                                                    • divinity
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                                                                      #35
                                                                      Originally posted by Sly
                                                                      A lot of people think and do that, which is ok, I guess. I don't know if I really like the idea behind it though. Do I really want to be with a girl who is back with me because she realized she can't get any better than me? That just doesn't really sit well.
                                                                      my take on it is that it's hard to know what flavor of ice cream is your favorite unless you try the others from time to time. But I agree, with relationships, at some point you have to make some sort of commitment or decision. I wouldn't be able to live with "I'll settle for him" but I would be alright with "He's my favorite, and I know this for sure." For a long time our relationship stood up to this test until now.
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                                                                      • xLaborJames
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                                                                        #36
                                                                        Originally posted by Sly
                                                                        A lot of people think and do that, which is ok, I guess. I don't know if I really like the idea behind it though. Do I really want to be with a girl who is back with me because she realized she can't get any better than me? That just doesn't really sit well.
                                                                        I think your looking from it from the wrong point of view. We didnt tell each other lets go see if we can find something better and if not get back together because second best sucks. We had been together so long we didnt understand what we were taking for granted and had. Plus it really gave us a sense of openness and honesty because we remained friends during the period and could actually start to pinpoint thing we had neglected during our time together. Growing up with someone in a relationship can lead to you getting comfortable with things and we both really needed time to learn somethings about ourselves that could only be done on our own. I know I was questioning what else was out there because I was young and stupid and didnt understand I had an amazing person right in front of me.
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                                                                        • fuzzylogic
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                                                                          #37
                                                                          Originally posted by xLaborJames
                                                                          Growing up with someone in a relationship can lead to you getting comfortable with things and we both really needed time to learn somethings about ourselves that could only be done on our own. I know I was questioning what else was out there because I was young and stupid and didnt understand I had an amazing person right in front of me.
                                                                          i also grew up with someone while in a serious relationship with them. during that time she was the world. i was blind to everything other than her.

                                                                          i started exploring myself and i guess she saw it as me drifting away. so she broke up with me. that was the best thing ever. a few years later i called her up, we went out for coffee and i realized she is not that attractive and not too smart. during the relationship i had no idea she was dumb and average looking. i was blind.

                                                                          love really is blind.

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                                                                          • xLaborJames
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                                                                            • Apr 2006
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                                                                            #38
                                                                            Originally posted by divinity
                                                                            my take on it is that it's hard to know what flavor of ice cream is your favorite unless you try the others from time to time. But I agree, with relationships, at some point you have to make some sort of commitment or decision. I wouldn't be able to live with "I'll settle for him" but I would be alright with "He's my favorite, and I know this for sure." For a long time our relationship stood up to this test until now.
                                                                            Exactly how i felt i didnt want to be with someone who i thought was with me because it was easiest. No one wants to be settled on they want to be wanted. I hope it all works out for the best for you btw.
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                                                                            • xNetworx
                                                                              So Fucking What
                                                                              • Jan 2004
                                                                              • 14445

                                                                              #39
                                                                              Take a couple of months off before you start seeing anybody seriously. however, a rebound fuck in the next 2-3 weeks is highly encouraged. Make sure your rebound fuck isn't your type personailty wise, just a sexy piece of ass.

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                                                                              • kanalj
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                                                                                • Jan 2006
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                                                                                #40
                                                                                you just need myspace and your set.

                                                                                I made that back in the days!

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                                                                                • Screaming
                                                                                  I can change this!!!!!
                                                                                  • Feb 2004
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                                                                                  #41
                                                                                  Sorry to hear that guy.

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                                                                                  • Michaelious
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                                                                                    • Jan 2004
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                                                                                    #42
                                                                                    That's harsh man, keep your head up

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                                                                                    • tyler.
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                                                                                      • Mar 2006
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                                                                                      #43
                                                                                      That sucks , you should go out more , clubs/pubs etc. , you'll have a date in no time ! good luck

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                                                                                      • Mr.Right - Banned For Life
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                                                                                        #44
                                                                                        Sorry to hear that, you just have to move forward now.

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                                                                                        • slapass
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                                                                                          • Nov 2002
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                                                                                          #45
                                                                                          Originally posted by Sly
                                                                                          A lot of "dating experts" recommend the opposite. They say you shouldn't be afraid of dating soon after, it will help give you the confidence you need after such a blow. Though they also say you shouldn't date just one person, but several so you don't "fall" for one easily and instead realize you have options.
                                                                                          Great advice.

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                                                                                          • xclusive
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                                                                                            • Apr 2004
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                                                                                            #46
                                                                                            Damn that sucks, Now would be a great time to look at your life and ask yourself, What do you want for you? Then go do it, Spoil yourself a little you've earned it.

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                                                                                            • GTS Mark
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                                                                                              #47
                                                                                              Hey never say never, I broke up with my girlfriend of 10.5 years and then I moved away to the other side of the country. Didn't see her for 2.5 years and then we ended up meeting each other again at a bar and hitting it off again (on our own terms). We're now married and have children

                                                                                              Best thing that ever happened was us breaking up because we both needed to grow alot. We're a much better couple now than we ever were...

                                                                                              Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww ;)

                                                                                              Don't worry bro, it all works out in the end.

                                                                                              DH

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                                                                                              • ungratefulninja
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                                                                                                • Apr 2006
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                                                                                                #48
                                                                                                I had an ex give me the "I love you, but not in love with you" line. Just a bunch of BS. Later I found out she was fucking some other dude less than a week later. Years later she apologized and said she regretted the whole thing. She's got two kids now, and is still a stripper. Looking back I'm glad the whole thing ended before it was too late.

                                                                                                Now I'm just upfront about my "second job" promoting porn. The current girl doesn't seem to mind me taking her out to a nice dinner paid for with porn money. Living in the Midwest, I don't know any industry people firsthand. Most of the strippers I've met have too many emotional/drug problems.

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                                                                                                • Vitasoy
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                                                                                                  • Oct 2003
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                                                                                                  #49
                                                                                                  Damn it's starting be a trend here.. sorry to hear man


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                                                                                                  • Choppa
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                                                                                                    • Mar 2006
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                                                                                                    #50
                                                                                                    shit bro sorry to hear this nearly 8 years is a long time, hoping you can get over the pain soon
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