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  • Sly
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    • Sep 2004
    • 31379

    #1

    Why do people act differently on boards and in person?

    I don't quite get it. What's the point? Is it a self-confidence booster? Do they need to trash people and act tough online to feel good about themselves?

    It reminds me of the second grade "bully" who always picked on the first graders because he was too much of a pussy to push someone his own size around. He did it because he needed to feel good about himself, he needed somebody to think he was special. I was the idiot second grade bully who found a first grader to push around. I was small, he was smaller. I acted out for attention, so people thought I was "cool". Fortunately it didn't last long and I got over it.

    Man I would love to hear what a psychologist thinks of this. Is it really "just a joke" and "for fun" like the board bullies often pawn it off as? Or are they really acting out for attention?

    My thought is: if you're going to be an asshole, be an asshole. If you're going to be a nice guy, be a nice guy. Being both only leads to people talking behind your back, which defeats the purpose of having multi-personalities to begin with, doesn't it?
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  • Jakke PNG
    ex-TeenGodFather
    • Nov 2001
    • 20306

    #2
    I am fucking thin in real life. I just act all fattie on boards.
    ..and I'm off.

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    • Spunky
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      • Jun 2002
      • 133978

      #3
      Probably builds confidence and the machismo factor comes in

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      • polish_aristocrat
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        • Jul 2002
        • 40377

        #4
        are you referring mainly to Franck or Sleazy, or just in general?

        I don't use ICQ anymore.

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        • Libertine
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          • May 2002
          • 17860

          #5
          It's very simple, really. People on boards don't seem like "real" people, they're just lines of text, so it's easy to be more rude to them than you would be to real people. In real life, however, people have a face, a voice, a body - they're real. And with real people, the social codes that didn't apply to lines of text kick in.
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          • SilentKnight
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            • Oct 2005
            • 24812

            #6
            'Cuz in real life, we can just reach out and poke'm in the eye.

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            • kmanrox
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              • Oct 2001
              • 29295

              #7
              i dont, do i?
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              • mrthumbs
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                • Apr 2002
                • 11702

                #8
                Originally posted by TeenGodFather
                I am fucking thin in real life. I just act all fattie on boards.

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                • Sly
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                  • Sep 2004
                  • 31379

                  #9
                  Originally posted by polish_aristocrat
                  are you referring mainly to Franck or Sleazy, or just in general?

                  It could be anybody. I've never met Franck. I've met Sleazy.

                  I don't really understand what he's trying to accomplish with all of this board crap. I've met him numerous times, and he is a nice guy, but the minute he has a computer in front of him he calls people out and is calling them idiots but then in person he's all nicey nice to the same damn person. That makes no sense. If you think someone is an idiot and you're going to call them on it, be a man and stick with your convictions instead of hiding behind the "oh its just fun" charade.

                  I guess I just don't "get it".
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                  • MediaGuy
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                    • Sep 2004
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                    #10
                    i'll come up with a different name maybe but why?

                    i'll do as I say on the boards... i'm my own sig whore

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                    • polish_aristocrat
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                      • Jul 2002
                      • 40377

                      #11
                      Originally posted by Sly
                      It could be anybody. I've never met Franck. I've met Sleazy.

                      I don't really understand what he's trying to accomplish with all of this board crap. I've met him numerous times, and he is a nice guy, but the minute he has a computer in front of him he calls people out and is calling them idiots but then in person he's all nicey nice to the same damn person. That makes no sense. If you think someone is an idiot and you're going to call them on it, be a man and stick with your convictions instead of hiding behind the "oh its just fun" charade.

                      I guess I just don't "get it".
                      i dont it get either, good that you asked it, because if i asked, he would have just called me idiot ;-)
                      I don't use ICQ anymore.

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                      • Basic_man
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                        • Oct 2003
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                        #12
                        It's because some people think they rule the world with their keyboard..
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                        • WarChild
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                          • Jan 2003
                          • 17263

                          #13
                          I'm pretty much a dick in person and on the boards. I make it a rule to not say things online that I wouldn't say to somebody's face. That doesn't really elimate much though. :P
                          .

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                          • czarina
                            Webmaster Extraordinaire
                            • Jul 2002
                            • 10751

                            #14
                            because most people who bitch you out here don't have the guts to do it in person

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                            • Pornwolf
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                              • Jan 2002
                              • 22712

                              #15
                              How a person acts on the board reflects who he is inside. If a person is bieng crazy on the board he can say it's "just an act" all he wants but the truth is that it's really a reflection of a part of that person. It may not be 100% that person, but even if it's 25% of that person it says a lot about him.
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                              • Theo
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                                • May 2001
                                • 34515

                                #16
                                post some names

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                                • madawgz
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                                  • 30509

                                  #17
                                  on the internet you can be anyone lol
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                                  • sonofsam
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                                    • Dec 2004
                                    • 18647

                                    #18
                                    I think that's retarded... i'm the exact same in person
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                                    • Holly
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                                      #19
                                      I never swear in real life (except with a few close friends), but on the internet I love to cuss like a fishwife.
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                                      • Dagwolf
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                                        • Sep 2003
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                                        #20
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                                        • Theo
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                                          • May 2001
                                          • 34515

                                          #21
                                          Originally posted by sonofsam
                                          I think that's retarded... i'm the exact same in person

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                                          • CuriousToyBoy
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                                            • Aug 2005
                                            • 16787

                                            #22
                                            I am just me anywhere, anytime, anyhow.

                                            Be that good, bad or indifferent,

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                                            • TheSpreader
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                                              • Nov 2003
                                              • 501

                                              #23
                                              Because it's hard to get punched through a computer screen.

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                                              • Sly
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                                                • Sep 2004
                                                • 31379

                                                #24
                                                Originally posted by punkworld
                                                It's very simple, really. People on boards don't seem like "real" people, they're just lines of text, so it's easy to be more rude to them than you would be to real people. In real life, however, people have a face, a voice, a body - they're real. And with real people, the social codes that didn't apply to lines of text kick in.
                                                I would agree with you if the people never met face to face, but they do.
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                                                • MediaGuy
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                                                  #25
                                                  in real life i'm a skinny geekboy retard but on the boards i'm a he-man of absolute proportions - can't you tell?

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                                                  • u-Bob
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                                                    • Jul 2005
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                                                    #26
                                                    well, you can't sell your sig in real life........

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                                                    • jjjay
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                                                      • Jun 2005
                                                      • 1813

                                                      #27
                                                      Originally posted by punkworld
                                                      It's very simple, really. People on boards don't seem like "real" people, they're just lines of text, so it's easy to be more rude to them than you would be to real people. In real life, however, people have a face, a voice, a body - they're real. And with real people, the social codes that didn't apply to lines of text kick in.
                                                      in the real world, you can like the person but not what they say

                                                      on the internet, all you've got to go on is what they say

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                                                      • datatank
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                                                        • Aug 2004
                                                        • 5471

                                                        #28
                                                        Originally posted by u-Bob
                                                        well, you can't sell your sig in real life........

                                                        JFK does and Sleazy has in the past

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                                                        • detoxed
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                                                          • Jan 2003
                                                          • 17798

                                                          #29
                                                          Originally posted by Sly
                                                          I don't quite get it. What's the point? Is it a self-confidence booster? Do they need to trash people and act tough online to feel good about themselves?

                                                          It reminds me of the second grade "bully" who always picked on the first graders because he was too much of a pussy to push someone his own size around. He did it because he needed to feel good about himself, he needed somebody to think he was special. I was the idiot second grade bully who found a first grader to push around. I was small, he was smaller. I acted out for attention, so people thought I was "cool". Fortunately it didn't last long and I got over it.

                                                          Man I would love to hear what a psychologist thinks of this. Is it really "just a joke" and "for fun" like the board bullies often pawn it off as? Or are they really acting out for attention?

                                                          My thought is: if you're going to be an asshole, be an asshole. If you're going to be a nice guy, be a nice guy. Being both only leads to people talking behind your back, which defeats the purpose of having multi-personalities to begin with, doesn't it?
                                                          Nothing to do with multiple personalities. Generally the rules of conduct are different in different places and the internet is the wild west. Or was.

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                                                          • buddyjuf

                                                            #30
                                                            Im actually a big macho guy in real life

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                                                            • After Shock Media
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                                                              • Mar 2001
                                                              • 35299

                                                              #31
                                                              Only difference between how I act on the boards and how I am in person is that in person I do not speak as much, I am often fairly quiet.

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                                                              • AaronM
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                                                                • Oct 2001
                                                                • 46917

                                                                #32
                                                                Sly, I can't speak for others but I can tell you that I act the same way in person as I do on the boards.......BUT.....In person, you usually do not have to deal with the same number of idiots and trolls that are on these message boards. Because of this....You read my aggressive tone more here than you will see in person unless you happen to be one of the few worthless pieces of shit who actually attends industry events. Most of the time the people who talk shit to me on the boards and attend the shows end up lurking in the shadows instead of having the sack to step up and say the same shit in person.

                                                                People are cowards.....And most of them are jealous cowards at that.

                                                                Fuck em.

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                                                                • MediaGuy
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                                                                  • Sep 2004
                                                                  • 5500

                                                                  #33
                                                                  dudes can't you tell who's legit?


                                                                  the guy who'll tell you who he is on theboards is the guy - fucking zipit on the rest...

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                                                                  • Sly
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                                                                    • Sep 2004
                                                                    • 31379

                                                                    #34
                                                                    Originally posted by MediaGuy
                                                                    dudes can't you tell who's legit?


                                                                    the guy who'll tell you who he is on theboards is the guy - fucking zipit on the rest...
                                                                    Do you have ketchup on your head again? You aren't making any sense.
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                                                                    • fuzebox
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                                                                      • Oct 2003
                                                                      • 22359

                                                                      #35
                                                                      Sly I'm sorry, I'm shy in real life... this whole board techie non-confrontational thing is just an act.

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                                                                      • jjjay
                                                                        Registered User
                                                                        • Jun 2005
                                                                        • 1813

                                                                        #36
                                                                        Originally posted by sonofsam
                                                                        I think that's retarded... i'm the exact same in person
                                                                        never mind

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                                                                        • MichaelP
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                                                                          • Aug 2003
                                                                          • 7123

                                                                          #37
                                                                          Originally posted by Sly
                                                                          Do you have ketchup on your head again? You aren't making any sense.



                                                                          Nah.. Greg have kechup or lipstick on his head only when he is drunk

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                                                                          • Morgan
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                                                                            • May 2002
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                                                                            #38
                                                                            in real life, i wont touch weed. just on this board.
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                                                                            • jjjay
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                                                                              • Jun 2005
                                                                              • 1813

                                                                              #39
                                                                              sly - I somehow doubt you're this mouthy in real life, unless you really like hospital food

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                                                                              • MediaGuy
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                                                                                • Sep 2004
                                                                                • 5500

                                                                                #40
                                                                                Originally posted by Sly
                                                                                Do you have ketchup on your head again? You aren't making any sense.
                                                                                what don't you understand

                                                                                when it comes to sig whores and such i mean

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                                                                                • potter
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                                                                                  • Dec 2004
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                                                                                  #41
                                                                                  Questions like this are going to become more complex as time grows. With the internet growing as fast as it is. People don't need face to face people skills anymore.

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                                                                                  • Sly
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                                                                                    #42
                                                                                    Originally posted by jjjay
                                                                                    sly - I somehow doubt you're this mouthy in real life, unless you really like hospital food
                                                                                    This mouthy? Expressing my opinion? I have no problem expressing my opinion when I want to.
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                                                                                    • European Lee
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                                                                                      • Dec 2002
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                                                                                      #43
                                                                                      Ive never understood that myself, im an asshole on the boards and an even bigger asshole in person.

                                                                                      If you cant be who you are on the boards, whats the point?

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                                                                                      • CDSmith
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                                                                                        #44
                                                                                        For others, the anonymity and remoteness allows them to cock off at those they would otherwise never dream of cocking off at in person.

                                                                                        For me, I'm exactly the same whether I'm posting or talking in person.

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                                                                                        • CuriousToyBoy
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                                                                                          #45
                                                                                          Originally posted by AaronM
                                                                                          Sly, I can't speak for others but I can tell you that I act the same way in person as I do on the boards.......BUT.....In person, you usually do not have to deal with the same number of idiots and trolls that are on these message boards. Because of this....You read my aggressive tone more here than you will see in person unless you happen to be one of the few worthless pieces of shit who actually attends industry events. Most of the time the people who talk shit to me on the boards and attend the shows end up lurking in the shadows instead of having the sack to step up and say the same shit in person.

                                                                                          People are cowards.....And most of them are jealous cowards at that.

                                                                                          Fuck em.
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                                                                                          • G-Rotica
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                                                                                            #46
                                                                                            Most of them are just keyboard warriors and their testicles are so small they can't step up in person. You know who you are.

                                                                                            Me. I try to get along with eveyrbody. For the most part people are ok, even the posers, you just have to look thru it. Some are just a waste of oxygen.

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                                                                                            • MediaGuy
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                                                                                              #47
                                                                                              Originally posted by qwebecexpo


                                                                                              Nah.. Greg have kechup or lipstick on his head only when he is drunk
                                                                                              Children... please wake up. If you didn't have more profound experiences with me and this silly shit is the only stuff you can relate to, ok... but really...

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                                                                                              • nico-t
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                                                                                                #48
                                                                                                the real 'them' sometimes gets outed more online then in real life.. its natural i think

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                                                                                                • AdultInsider Cloner
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                                                                                                  #49
                                                                                                  because there is a safety net....the distance between the two parties....most don't have the guts in real life
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                                                                                                  • iWeb_Allan
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                                                                                                    #50
                                                                                                    nice points to ponder. hope you find the answers you are looking for.
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