I need help: I can't stop visualizing my ex porking her new boyfriend

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  • czarina
    Webmaster Extraordinaire
    • Jul 2002
    • 10751

    #51
    spy on them, watch them having sex... then it will go from visualizing to watching

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    • Herb Kornfield
      Is on the 1
      • Sep 2002
      • 4996

      #52
      Meeting someone new always makes the past history even more distant.

      This time of year - You can nail down a new babe fast.

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      • Naughty
        Confirmed User
        • Jul 2001
        • 6478

        #53
        Thanks for the comments.

        Most of the things I already know and do, except for the therapist, hookers and other women ;)

        My kid is with me 4 out of 7 days, so that's cool. He loves me a lot as I always took care of him being a self employed, working from home dad. Whenever there's an issue, he comes to me.

        I do need to work on the "talk about us when I am there on on the phone" thing, I can't stop bringing it up, haha.
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        • MetaMan
          I AM WEB 2.0
          • Jan 2003
          • 28682

          #54
          You are seriously fucked in the head, when i see an ex with someone else it makes me feel even better because then i see that if they have moved on it is obviously also time for me to move on.

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          • The Heron
            Confirmed User
            • Apr 2001
            • 4496

            #55
            Jerk off until you lose your sex drive, bet you won't think about her then!

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            • madfuck
              Registered User
              • Oct 2004
              • 2032

              #56
              shit just move on...

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              • SiMpLe
                Confirmed User
                • Feb 2002
                • 3221

                #57
                Originally posted by WiredGuy
                If your not ready to be with someone else, keep yourself distracted. Go work out, find a hobby, work on business, just keep yourself occupied to the point that you don't have the time to think about your girl.
                WG
                Thats what I would do to, keeping yourself occupied will for sure help out - Work to make more money and reward yourself or play WoW for example if you work to much already - There's a true time killer.
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                • _Richard_
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                  • Oct 2006
                  • 30989

                  #58
                  get a therapist

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                  • nick3131
                    Confirmed User
                    • Dec 2004
                    • 1193

                    #59
                    easy

                    www.lexapro.com

                    and im not joking either. You may have an anxiety disorder you've never been diagnosed with if its THAT HARD for you.

                    I been there, I lost my mom and found out my wife (ex wife now) cheated on me in a 1 month period.
                    Signed nick3131

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                    • Drake
                      Hello world!
                      • Mar 2003
                      • 12508

                      #60
                      Originally posted by L-Pink
                      If you want to really torture yourself ... think about how much bigger the other guys cock probably is.

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                      • nick3131
                        Confirmed User
                        • Dec 2004
                        • 1193

                        #61
                        and all you guys shitting on this guy are disgusting.

                        Someone opens up their feelings because they need help. And you do your best to put them into a further depression. You should be fucking ashamed of yourselves.
                        Signed nick3131

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                        • Evil E
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                          • Apr 2005
                          • 3201

                          #62
                          You need to hit some new pink tacos. At least 5. Then you won't have visions of her getting railed anymore. You're not with her anymore. There's a reason and that's because you're better than her, and you'll find someone that will suit your needs better. Just go out, enjoy life and have some fun.

                          Good luck!


                          A girl once told me "Give me 8 inches and make it HURT".

                          So, I fucked her twice and hit her with a brick.

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                          • Persius
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                            • Jul 2003
                            • 11779

                            #63
                            go fuck someone else and u will be over it

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                            • Brother Bilo
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                              • Jun 2007
                              • 4193

                              #64
                              Are you over it yet?

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                              • Snake Doctor
                                I'm Lenny2 Bitch
                                • Mar 2001
                                • 13449

                                #65
                                Originally posted by L-Pink
                                If you want to really torture yourself ... think about how much bigger the other guys cock probably is.
                                Yes, it also helps to imagine her having multiple orgasms and telling him "you're sooooo much bigger than <insert your name here>"
                                sig too big

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                                • BLUE RIBBON
                                  So Fucking Banned
                                  • May 2007
                                  • 60

                                  #66
                                  Now, when you say you are not ready to "move on" does that really mean that each girl you've tried to ask out since your breakup has turned you down?

                                  Think of the positives, like, at least you aren't visualizing the new boyfriend and YOU having sex.

                                  Seriously, it just takes time. There will be a day where you might even be happy for her that she is with another guy (if you think the guy is genuinely good for her). Hang on! As someone once said, "Love stinks!"

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                                  • Socks
                                    Confirmed User
                                    • May 2002
                                    • 8475

                                    #67
                                    Have you tried...

                                    penis enlargement - weightloss - skin care - sperm volume - medically approved penis extender ??

                                    If so, you should e-mail yourself.

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                                    • miss_jody
                                      Confirmed User
                                      • Apr 2007
                                      • 807

                                      #68
                                      Originally posted by 12clicks
                                      post a pic so I can visualize it too. then I'll figure out a way for me to stop and pass the idea on to you.
                                      LOL
                                      u fuking kill me

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                                        #69
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                                        • bausch
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                                          • Jul 2006
                                          • 3017

                                          #70
                                          Originally posted by D
                                          Time heals all wounds.

                                          Fucking other chicks helps speed up the process.
                                          It's unfair how when guys ask for advice on how to get over a chick people always say "fuck another chick" but when a female asks how to get over a guy no one says "fuck another guy". Fuck the double standards. It's 2007. Women should be able to fuck guys as well in order to get over someone and not be labeled sluts because of it. I fucken hate double standards!

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                                          • Brandon99
                                            Confirmed User
                                            • May 2005
                                            • 2214

                                            #71
                                            Mental pictures are a bitch! I feel for you. The best thing to do is to stay busy, hang out with your friends, and just try to keep your mind of it. be strong yo!
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                                            • bushwacker
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                                              • Jun 2002
                                              • 2817

                                              #72
                                              Originally posted by bausch
                                              It's unfair how when guys ask for advice on how to get over a chick people always say "fuck another chick" but when a female asks how to get over a guy no one says "fuck another guy". Fuck the double standards. It's 2007. Women should be able to fuck guys as well in order to get over someone and not be labeled sluts because of it. I fucken hate double standards!
                                              so go fuck another guy.

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                                              • L-Pink
                                                working on my tan
                                                • Mar 2005
                                                • 39151

                                                #73
                                                Originally posted by bausch
                                                It's unfair how when guys ask for advice on how to get over a chick people always say "fuck another chick" but when a female asks how to get over a guy no one says "fuck another guy". Fuck the double standards. It's 2007. Women should be able to fuck guys as well in order to get over someone and not be labeled sluts because of it. I fucken hate double standards!
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                                                .

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                                                • qxm
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                                                  • Jul 2006
                                                  • 5970

                                                  #74
                                                  ...you could also watch Dr Phill if nothing else works......

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                                                  • GTS Mark
                                                    Vrume Mark
                                                    • Jan 2001
                                                    • 20912

                                                    #75
                                                    I would take up a new hobby or sports activity so it keeps you occupied and not always in the house thinking about your ex. Also gets you out with other people so you can talk and get your mind freed up.

                                                    Sucks man, I have been there (so have many others). You will get over it in time

                                                    DH

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                                                    • flashfreak
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                                                      • Jun 2002
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                                                      #76
                                                      new hobby should work... or try playing games you never experienced
                                                      in few months you'll forget her
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                                                      • Iron Fist
                                                        Too lazy to set a custom title
                                                        • Dec 2006
                                                        • 23400

                                                        #77
                                                        Originally posted by nick3131
                                                        and all you guys shitting on this guy are disgusting.

                                                        Someone opens up their feelings because they need help. And you do your best to put them into a further depression. You should be fucking ashamed of yourselves.
                                                        I don't recall the forum being called "drphil.com" - it's called Go Fuck Yourself for a reason
                                                        i like waffles

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                                                        • Iron Fist
                                                          Too lazy to set a custom title
                                                          • Dec 2006
                                                          • 23400

                                                          #78
                                                          Originally posted by bausch
                                                          Women should be able to fuck guys as well in order to get over someone and not be labeled sluts because of it. I fucken hate double standards!
                                                          You haven't been getting any either I guess?
                                                          i like waffles

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                                                          • Enemator
                                                            Confirmed User
                                                            • Mar 2007
                                                            • 1252

                                                            #79
                                                            Originally posted by spazlabz
                                                            see a therapist. they can help you let go of the obsessive thoughts.. they also have some kicks ass meds if you find yourself with intrusive thoughts on a regular basis.


                                                            spaz
                                                            You're right. There's nothing that a little blue pill couldn't fix.

                                                            /sarcasm
                                                            I live in your nightmares. I make you dream you're getting bumfucked by a razor blade only to wake up and find I gave your wife an enema and tube-fed you her shit.

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                                                            • FuqALot
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                                                              • Dec 2001
                                                              • 3817

                                                              #80
                                                              sometimes i wish real life has an undo button

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                                                              • Naughty
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                                                                • Jul 2001
                                                                • 6478

                                                                #81
                                                                Originally posted by FuqALot
                                                                sometimes i wish real life has an undo button
                                                                Haha, well. It is all a learning experience though. This x-mas i spent alone with my son (and some family), she did not call once to ask how our baby is doing. That was a real eye opener for me. I think I am beginning to see the light.

                                                                I bookmarked this thread, I will post in it when I am truly done.
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                                                                • MetaMan
                                                                  I AM WEB 2.0
                                                                  • Jan 2003
                                                                  • 28682

                                                                  #82
                                                                  find hope in the fact that many people have been through the exact same thing and still found even better days ahead....

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                                                                  • Jayvis
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                                                                    • Nov 2005
                                                                    • 5430

                                                                    #83
                                                                    there is a ton of half-assed advice posts in this thread but a couple good ones... but maybe thats cause there isn't a whole lot you can do about it in the first place... Nonetheless...

                                                                    Mainly, realize the fact that millions of people have felt and are dealing with the same thing you are and eventually 99.9&#37; of them get over it, you know why? Time. Fact is, you will get over it... one year later? two, three? you can't force it just roll with it.

                                                                    also understand that it's not your fault that she has to be with someone all the time, thats her own problem and there's not much you can do to change that.

                                                                    i would also advise hitting the gym up in some of your free time. nothing like making yourself feel good the ol fashion way--- by getting healthier and looking better than ever.

                                                                    its pretty clear you're not really looking for another relationship at this point (from what i can tell) so i would say fucking some random chick isn't going to do much either. yeah its 10 minutes of fun for ya (or 3 hours of pleasure town if you're like me) but you're not gonna be satisfied just yet cause it's not with the girl you REALLY want to be with. keep going out with your friends but dont go looking for love, chances are it will find you.

                                                                    don't fall into the drugs and drinking bullshit constantly to make the pain go away. man up, do what you gotta do to press on and you'll be back on your feet in no time.

                                                                    i wish you and the kid all the luck!

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                                                                    • Trixxxia
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                                                                      • Aug 2004
                                                                      • 5600

                                                                      #84
                                                                      Originally posted by Skillz Unlimited
                                                                      Rule #1 - Make sure the kid doesn't suffer because of your mistakes.
                                                                      Rule #2 - Don't argue with her around the child
                                                                      Rule #3 - Dont argue with her on the phone about shit that doesn't matter. Keep the convo's only about the child and keep it movin. Talking about relationship is only going to hurt more.
                                                                      Rule #4 - Spend as much time with your kid as you can and dont miss anything like school event's, soccer games, any of that. Always be there.
                                                                      Rule #5 - Don't try to fuck her when you pick up or drop off the kid. That only creates more drama unless you honestly think there is a chance of you two getting back together. Chances are if she had a boyfriend a week after you guys broke up, she was probably cheating on you. She can't be trusted so why waste your time? Get along with her for the sake of the child and that's it.
                                                                      Fantastic advice for the best interests of your child. If you focus on this, you'll see that you can also be friends with her with time. (Worked for me)


                                                                      As for your issue - like everyone else said - keep yourself busy. Try to get out in public more with people that are interesting. No need to hook up rightaway if you don't want to. Make sure you're always in good company - it will distract you and it will keep the thoughts to a minimum. Also - you are not an idiot, you are human. Anyone who's been hurt goes through similar issues. Trust me on that one.

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                                                                      • xmas13
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                                                                        • Dec 2004
                                                                        • 5176

                                                                        #85
                                                                        Well, love is like god, a big fraud, the sooner u realize it, the better for you.
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                                                                        • V_RocKs
                                                                          Damn Right I Kiss Ass!
                                                                          • Nov 2003
                                                                          • 32448

                                                                          #86
                                                                          Strip clubs.. and if that isn't working, find better clubs with hotter chicks.

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                                                                          • C_U_Next_Tuesday
                                                                            WW4L
                                                                            • Oct 2002
                                                                            • 10581

                                                                            #87
                                                                            Dude, you have the ultimate chick magnet.. a baby. It's time to move on.. who wants a girl whom they cant trust or will drop you when she is bored.. she is the loser.

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                                                                            • shekinah
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                                                                              • May 2006
                                                                              • 8452

                                                                              #88
                                                                              man, seems your ego is greatly affected and thinking that your ex has someone already kills you... May I ask, did you love her? If not.. it's only your ego man

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                                                                              • 2MuchMark
                                                                                Mark of 2Much.net
                                                                                • Aug 2004
                                                                                • 50929

                                                                                #89
                                                                                Fuck!! Some of you guys are so cruel... Hahahahahahaha....

                                                                                Naughty: I feel for you, but don't sweat it. DON'T go bang a hooker. You'll regret it. Drown yourself in work for a while. You'll get more business, especially when you start promoting LiveCamNetwork.com. In fact, you should really start promoting this girl, Pixie.




                                                                                Look how cute she is! See? Aren't you starting to forget your girlfriend already? She converts about 1:80, and average spending with her is $60.00 a pop, 8 times a month!

                                                                                Anyway, seriously, just drown yourself in work, and you'll forget ol' whatshername after a while. Time heals. Go Absence makes the heart go yonder. etc, etc.

                                                                                Good luck!

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                                                                                • Slap Dot
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                                                                                  • Aug 2004
                                                                                  • 3168

                                                                                  #90
                                                                                  I run a site for this kind of thing.

                                                                                  http://www.exgfs.net/forum/

                                                                                  Post her there.

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                                                                                  • Mr. Garibaldi
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                                                                                    • May 2007
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                                                                                    #91
                                                                                    this thread rocks

                                                                                    excellent advice book

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                                                                                    • Naughty
                                                                                      Confirmed User
                                                                                      • Jul 2001
                                                                                      • 6478

                                                                                      #92
                                                                                      Great posts (almost) everybody. Obviously my ego is affected, I do love her, but i did complain a lot before all this too. So, time to focus on different things for sure.

                                                                                      On a sidenote: Today she said she regretted 'moving' on so fast and letting me go. Knowing her, that'd be some other story tonight, so ... I don't take it too seriously.
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                                                                                      • carol.prime
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                                                                                        • Jul 2006
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                                                                                        #93
                                                                                        that was a nice start naughty. forget her and move on.. i know these are simple words to say and hard to do. you can make it man!
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                                                                                        • teg0
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                                                                                          • Jan 2006
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                                                                                          #94
                                                                                          the only real cure is just time.

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                                                                                          • sniperwolf
                                                                                            Too lazy to set a custom title
                                                                                            • Mar 2005
                                                                                            • 17743

                                                                                            #95
                                                                                            Originally posted by Skillz Unlimited
                                                                                            That is honestly the best advice. Fuck meds, fuck a therapaist, fuck hookers (well, don't fuck hookers;)..).

                                                                                            I think people are forgetting that she left you (according to your post) which means if it we're up to you, you would still be with her. So we're not only dealing with the thought of her sleeping with someone else, but you actually care about her. I can understand why you're not ready to deal with other women yet. When you really care about someone it's more than just pussy. My advice to you bro is to take RyanL's advice. I know it hurts but life goes on and time heals all wounds. You'll get over it enventually. Just make sure you take care of your son, don't bad mouth her in front of the kid, tell her to do the same. Tell her to watch them men she has around your son and you do the same with the women. No child needs to be exposed to the adult habits of his parents. You created this situation so now you need to make the best of it.

                                                                                            Rule #1 - Make sure the kid doesn't suffer because of your mistakes.
                                                                                            Rule #2 - Don't argue with her around the child
                                                                                            Rule #3 - Dont argue with her on the phone about shit that doesn't matter. Keep the convo's only about the child and keep it movin. Talking about relationship is only going to hurt more.
                                                                                            Rule #4 - Spend as much time with your kid as you can and dont miss anything like school event's, soccer games, any of that. Always be there.
                                                                                            Rule #5 - Don't try to fuck her when you pick up or drop off the kid. That only creates more drama unless you honestly think there is a chance of you two getting back together. Chances are if she had a boyfriend a week after you guys broke up, she was probably cheating on you. She can't be trusted so why waste your time? Get along with her for the sake of the child and that's it.

                                                                                            Good luck to you man. You got a long road ahead of you but how you act will determine if it's a hard road or not.
                                                                                            Great advice Skillz Unlimited!

                                                                                            That was all he needs!
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                                                                                            • BlackCrayon
                                                                                              Too lazy to set a custom title
                                                                                              • Jun 2003
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                                                                                              #96
                                                                                              Originally posted by bausch
                                                                                              It's unfair how when guys ask for advice on how to get over a chick people always say "fuck another chick" but when a female asks how to get over a guy no one says "fuck another guy". Fuck the double standards. It's 2007. Women should be able to fuck guys as well in order to get over someone and not be labeled sluts because of it. I fucken hate double standards!
                                                                                              Well usually when a guy dumps a chick its because she is already fucking someone else. If not, hell go for it. Either way women dump guys more than guys dump women by a ratio of at least 2:1. at least that has been my observation.
                                                                                              you don't know you're wearing a leash if you sit by the peg all day..

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                                                                                              • Lykos
                                                                                                Too lazy to set a custom title
                                                                                                • Apr 2003
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                                                                                                #97
                                                                                                Don't be weak and deal with it like a man...i hate when man is crying over girl.....it's just so weak for me,sorry

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                                                                                                • 69pornlinks
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                                                                                                  • Mar 2003
                                                                                                  • 5560

                                                                                                  #98
                                                                                                  hoe into housewife....doesn't work.

                                                                                                  You knew what she was about when yo meet her, now suck it up and be a man
                                                                                                  It IS what it IS

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                                                                                                  • tony299
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                                                                                                    • Aug 2002
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                                                                                                    #99
                                                                                                    work work work

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                                                                                                    • VicD
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                                                                                                      • Feb 2005
                                                                                                      • 13245

                                                                                                      #100
                                                                                                      I know the feeling, it's gonna take you 1 or 2 years to get rid of it

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