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Originally Posted by CDSmith
What's my take? I'd say a little jealousy in a relationship is normal, from time to time that is. When it's constant distrust to the point of causing arguments then something's definitely wrong. As her why she is in the relationship if she doesn't trust you.
Another thing is, extreme jealousy is sometimes the jealous partners projecting of their own unfaithfulness onto their partner. Often it is born out of pure insecurity in themselves, but I wouldn't dismiss the possibility that she herself has cheated and is now overcompensating for it by throwing distrust your way.
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Good post for the most part. I agree 100% with people being jealous because of their own insecurities.
However, as a guy, while I trust my wife, I DON'T trust other guys. I was a guy once and know what we can be like. There is a thread on another board right now asking if you'd fuck a married woman. Guess what? It's about 50%. That means half the guys out there WOULD fuck your wife, given the chance. So now it comes back to your wife, who you trust.
Most women need some sort of "Connection" before they up and have an affair with someone. Sure it happens when they're just drunk, but that would be a one night thing more than likely. That might not be any better, but it's doubtful most women would leave you because they had a fling like that. BUT, if they have a growing connection with someone, and a co-worker is a PERFECT example, THEN you genuinely may have cause to be concerned about losing her entirely.
Most people spend 8 hours a day at work and less time with their partners. That's a LONG time to get to know someone, confide in someone etc. etc. And women become more and more attracted to people that they like. So if they're spending their work day with someone that they like, chances are they'll start to find them attractive at some point, even if nothing ever happens. But throw in the work "connection", a stressful month at home with hubby and booze at the staff Christmas party, and NOONE is above temptation...even the wife you trust completely.
