Ambush Interview #68 sarah_webinc

I'm 5ft2 and I think she was taller than me...takes a real short ass to make me feel tall.

looking forward to this, Sarah has been around a while and is a pleasure to know

2. What did you do to commerate rememberance day today? Did you take a moment to reflect on those that gave thier lives for your freedom?

Well, as any good board whore would do I posted about it on gfy about ten minutes before 11am UK time and then while I was listening on the radio to the cermonies (strange listening to silence on the radio) I stopped my posting and thought about things.

I thought about no matter how much I hate the current American gov't and and no matter how uncertain I am about the current war(s) that is no reason for me to disrespect those that died in previous conflicts (or disrespect anyone actually). I thought of my Grandpa that died a couple years ago that used to freak out anytime anything about WW2 came on and ask me to turn it off and I thought about my mom's uncle who was blown up in a tank with her baby picture in his pocket in Korea.

Then I thought about my husband and how pissed off he would be about the war today and how I missed having him here to bitch about politcs.

I thought only using part of the chicken was being nice.

Sleazy and I would have to sumo and frankly nobody wants to see either of us in a diaper.

i wana see sara in a diaper

I thought I was the only one into the tie sucking fetish...

Sarah rocks!!!

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lol..now I know Tofu is going to like that one. Two things he loves..his PSP and a big belly.

3. Why did you move to London from the USA?

I came here to meet my husband and never left (or atleast not for a really long time). I arrived in the UK on June 11, 1996. On that one day I left my country, met my future husband, lost my virginity and moved in. I take life in big steps ;)

I came here on a student work visa and got married six months later and was granted the right to stay. It didn't mater where I was going it was only important that I was going to be with Marc. I am just lucky he lived somewhere nice

4. Why the fuck do you spend soo much time on GFY?

So, my boss doesn't have to? j/k. I have always been a fan or message boards (starting with PCBBS) and I posted on GFY for years before I started working for Webinc (as Sjayne). Now that I work for Webinc and Wishing.com it is important to get out there and get to know our customers and affiliates. People are a lot more willing to approach you on a buisness level if they have had a conversation with you on a board or at a show first.

There are times when I have spent too much time on GFY that I feel the need to step away from the keyboard and take a break before I snap and the polite filter stops working but I generally enjoy posting on the board.

5. Why did JJJ fire you?

He didn't fire me. Well, not directly.

I was one of the main reviewers for about four years and then one day - litteraly over night - I was told by Lisa Marie who was handling the reviews that JJJ had decided to no longer use reviewers. It was sudden and it hurt the bank balance to suddenly not have a job. Especially as it was an everyday job including holidays for so many years.

However, it turned out to be good for me in the long run because had that not happened I never would have started to work for Todd here at Webinc and Wishing.com.

It forced me to step out of the shadows and take a risk on myself. Sometimes I can have a low self-image as far as what I am capable of doing so it can take kicking myself in the ass to take the step. Turns out I'm not all that bad.

damn right!
From the 1st time I met Sarah, I immediately filed her under "cool industry people". She has taught mi alot about the biz, through her galleries, service, and AVS sites. Sarah always has a way of brightening mi day when Im down in the dumps, and when I finally got to meet her and her late hubby in person at Internext (R.I.P. Marc), I knew I had a friend for life! This girl continues to be a true inspiration in mi life and business. If it werent for her, I wouldnt have known half the poeple I do. A great smile, sexxy bod, and INTELLIGENCE! Do your goddamn thang girl!

You know part of me is in love with you, right? ;)

...and all of mi is in LoVe with you!

6. Did you have an open marriage? What's it like having sex with someone in a wheelchair?

Somehow I knew this quesiton would pop up.


I am always reluctant to call it an open marriage because in most people's minds that means we were out screwing anything and anyone we wanted. That is far from the truth. I used to say it was more a case of our marriage being slight 'ajar' rather than open.

I am bisexual, my husband was bisexual. Now, he had a lot of sexual experience in his past having been a teenager in London during the punk era and having moved in that world. I, on the other hand, was a virgin when we met but I knew I was bisexual. We had a very healthy communication as far as our sex life was concerned in that we talked about our desires and weren't threatened by them.

So, we had some threeways and then over time it moved to that very ocassionally we would both go out to our seperate playmates that could satisfy parts of desires that the other person couldn't based on gender or kink. My husband was into BDSM and I am not so it would have been horrible of me to deny him the right to ever express that ever in his life after he met me. Just as it would have been horrible for him to deny me the right to ever express my bisexual side.

We knew how much we loved each other and we knew that sex was just sex and that making love really was/is something different. We also know that when the fun was over we would becoming home to each other because that was where we wanted to be and not because we were somehow required to be there.

Through the years I discovered that I have tendencies to have polyamorous feelings from time to time. For me it is the case that I need one 'Primary' in my life where we love each other more than any others but I am capable of loving other people in my life in different ways than that. That was harder to come to terms with than being bisexual and if I am honest, I have not yet fully come to terms with it.

As far as sex in the wheelchair goes: We never actually had sex in the chair..not the least because I don't think it would have stood up to that sort of abuse. In addition to which, Marc could walk. It was just the case that walking any sort of distance was very painful. For most of the time I knew him he was on crutches but for the last few years he pretty much needed the wheelchair or his electric scooter if we went outside of the house.

I did have to take some care as he had very bad non-healing ulcers on his legs that caused him constant pain but extreme pain if they even had a strong wind cross their path. So, I had to be very careful not to come in contact with his ulcers while we had sex but somehow we managed

I hate distance sometimes. I could give a great hug right now.

that skinny dude needs some of your flab transplanted to him

That skinny dude is Tofu and we compliment each other. Don't like it? Oh, well.

Wow, can't wait to read the rest of this

I was wearing kinda big shoes, but I think we are just the right size

And some of their brains tranplanted to you

Sarah, I love your attitude

Oh, it wasn't meant as a bad thing. Anywhere between ~4'9 and ~5'5 is great for a woman

i owe everything to sarah_webinc
sarah- you rock!

Great interview ;) First one I've been reading totally in a while

You had the freak in you already. I just brought it out.

Kewlness gonna be a good one ;)

7. Did you goto the national AIDS confrence cause you have AIDS?

At that stage the only thing I was in danger of catching was a cold.

For some reason that I still don't remember, as a teenager I took a really strong interest in the HIV/AIDs situation. I have always had a strong hatrid for bigotry and ignorance and the way people with HiV/AIDS were being treated at the time was a perfect example of both.

When I was about 16 I started a group in my school called T.A.S.T.E. - Teens Aligned Stopping The Epidemic. I had no idea what I was doing but I took it to the principal of my school and he reluctantly let me set it up as an after school group in the school. It took a while to get a teacher to agree to be the sponsor but I did find one and we started off by doing things for National Aids day and the like. Essentially I wanted to raise awareness in my school that thought HIV/AIDS was something that only people they never met would get.

I was lucky that I had a very good health education teacher that listened to me when I talked. At the time the school was still showing the C. Everett Koop HIV/AIDS education video for school. It was so out of date and in it he blames the whole thing squarely on the shoulders of gay people. When I saw that in class all the political and social justice vibes in my body were set off and I went on a personal campaign to get that video removed from the ciriculum. As I said, my teacher was a good man and took my side and after many weeks and going to the school board they removed it.

Somehow along the line my Senator's office must have heard about me or contacted someone and asked for suggestions of teenagers interested in such matters because I had a phone call from his office asking me if I wanted to be Pennsylvania's reprentative to something called 'Metro Teen AIDs Conference' in Washington DC. After much talking to my parents (my mother who was a scientist but was convinced someone would bleed on me by accident) I was allowed to go. I went for two years and every time I went my mind opened up a bit more.

Suddenly I was taken out of my stuffy and town and taken to this conference that was full of teenagers from all sort of backgrounds, many of whom had HIV and AIDS and even more that were gay, transgender, lesbian, bisexual or just weren't sure yet. The puropse of the conference was to teach us to be 'peer to peer' educators on the subject. For me, it did that but it also took me from being interested in the subject to knowing people that would die..to touching people with HIV/AIDS and suddenly it was my cause and it lit a fire under me.

The good side of that was that it helped me to to what I consider to be my biggest accomplishment in high school. After VH1 did their first 'Concert for Life' I suggested to my school that we have a battle of the bands and do the same thing. Again, the principal said it was okay but he gave me a whole list of things I had to do inorder for it to go off. I had to get so many bands (in a place that never did anything like this), I had to get everything donated so the school didn't have to pay anything and a lot of other little things.

As I said in an earlier answer, I often doubt my abilities and need to push myself and go out of my comfort zone. This was one of the first times I did that. I talked a lot of kids a lot 'cooler' than me to do the show, I got stuff donated from around town and I used AOL and BBSes (old fashioned) to advertise the thing. That last bit was pretty new as no one had the web at that stage and anyone that knew what 'download' meant was a freak.

As a result of advertising like that I was able to reach people on various gay themed Fidonet and mailing lists. As a result we had a big turn out of people from all over the Philadelphia area and our little school earned about $5,000 profit that night that all went to HIV/AIDS charities.

I was particuarly moved when I went onto the school website last year and saw an advertisement for this year's concert for life. They have changed it so part of the money goes to cancer charites but regardless it feels good that ten years on (eek) my school is still mixing music and politics..my two faveorite things.

fight fight fight

Hey Sleazy, you gonna extract the Q's and A's and put it all in one page per interview anytime soon? I been meaning to read some, but going through hundreds of other replies sucks donkey balls.

You mean something like this on fubar?

8. Did you ever use you journalism university education? Why did you drop out? Was it cause you were failing?

A bit. For a few years my husband (who was a fleet street journalist before his accident) and I ran an online newspaper for our local area and I wrote for that. It made a few bucks eventually. Also, part of the journalism course at university was public relations and that is more or less what I do now.

I was studying journalism at Northeastern University in Boston when I met my husband online and I made the choice to go meet him and because of that I didn't return. However, I did go back to university here and in 2003 I graduated with a double major honours degree in Sociology and Politics.

That said, I have always had the writing bug and I am writing all the time. For the past few years I have been working on a book that I will eventually finish.

9. Why are you taking a master's degree now? Do you have no future in porn?

I hope I have a future in porn but I made the choice to go for my Master's because right now I have enough money to just about pay for it (I think) and without having to care for my husband I have a bit more time. Largely it is for personally fulfillment but I hope that it will help me when it comes to publishing my book too. I know the first degree in sociology helped me to learn how to conduct the research I have been doing.

My mother has a PHD, my dad is a genius and I am the only female in my extended family not to be a teacher so education has always been a big deal in my family.

10. What the fuck is this book your researching and writing now?

I am writing a book that explores the nature of fetish. It is called Explain Your Fetish and it comes from me working a lot with fetishes in this industry. Many times I would start working on a fetish site and think 'how on earth did this person find out they were interested in this?' That combined with moving in the BBW community where many people think I am a fetish object made me want to know more about fetishes. So, I put up a website called Explain Your Fetish which is just a survey that asks people that consider themselves to have a fetish to answer the questions and tell me about there fantaties regarding the fetish, how they think it started with them, when the first time they acted on it was, what they do when acting on it and how it has effected their life both personal and public.

I put that up, used google and contacts to find forums and mailing lists where people with fetishes hang out and told them about the survey and within days the responses started to flood in. I took a break from writing it after Marc died so it is taking longer than I wish it would but in the past two years I have had over 3,000 replies to the survey and I have had to personally contact a lot of them for further interviews so the research has taken a long time.

The idea is to have these people tell the reader how they see their fetish through their own words and with me summing things up. There are books about fetish out there but the vast majority are snooty people looking down on the people they are writing about. My book is about these people telling the story themselves. If anyone has read any of Nancy Friday's books I want it to have a feel like that but still have the feel of something that could be used as a reference point for people that don't have fetishes to learn what particular fetishes are and perhaps get a better insight into why somebody might have that fetish.

I am finally on the point of writing it up and I am a few chapters into it. Today I am writing about cast fetishists.

Sarah is a sweetheart and a babe - and obviously a very strong person too.

Great interview!



I don't know why, but every time I see your name I think of a flowing chocolate waterfall/fountain .... yummmmmy

Keep up with the answers - I need something good to read in the morning with my coffee frappuccino

lol...The other day I saw that a place in the mall here is selling mini chocolate fountains and you were the first person that came to mind. That fountain was great. No matter how big someone is in the industry flowing chocolate levels the playing field.

that made me laugh....thank you.

11. Are you staring in the BBW website you're making?

Well, there will be pics of me there but I am not the star.

On my trip out to the Pheonix Forum this year I stopped off in San Francisco first to stay with a good friend that has long been one of the best known figures in the BBW community. While I was staying there he mentioned to me that he had a large collection of pics he had taken of various BBWs over the years and that since he had once flirted with doing a website he had IDS and model releases from them all. He said he had no idea what to do with these pictures.

Well, I would have been an idiot to not pick up on that. In addition the few thousand totally exclusive BBW pics he already had he happens to be a very good photorapher and has since been taking a ton of pics for me and the site.

I feel the site will be unique because not only is all the content exclusive but it is shot by a man that truly loves BBWs (and these women in particular). He is so well known in the BBW community that he did litteraly write the guide to fat sex that is featured on sexuality.org. The site also has more supersized models than most sites have simply because he likes them big and treats them like queens.

The site design is almost done. It is just a matter of fitting it all in.

Just a sample of me on the site. So, having seen what I look like at shows after a ton of air travel, etc...this is what he did with his camera when I had a bit of make up on but no other post work..

pah..i put those pics on a url so they actually show up.

Sweet, thanks alot.
Funny thing is I had that bookmarked. Just forgot about it

on the ambush interview site they are all there

Not in Sarah's thread. This is the last line I'm wasting on this asshole anyway, he's not worth the effort.

YARGH! Damn I've been so busy I missed this one till now. Be back in a bit after I read some.

Sarah's taste in music is awesome, whatever happened to that radio thing anyway?

hows the lesbian gf

Great ambush!